My ex has visitation with our daughter every saturday but he is on drugs bad the visits are supervised by his mother him & his gf went to jail tonight him for resisting arrest, dui 3rd offense, assault 3rd degree plus fleeing & evading and she went for assault we live in ky i was wondering if there was anything here that i could use against him in a custody case. i have tried to be nice by letting him & his mother see the baby whenever they want but they haven't even visited in the past 3 months & now expect me to just turn my baby back over every saturday & she's only 11 months she doesn't even remember them. PLEASE HELP
2006-09-21 16:17:29 · 7 answers · asked by concernedmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has never paid child support & never so much as bought her anything. She has serious health conditions & if something would happen to her while she was in his care he wouldnt know what to do. We got together at the end of sept. 04 i got pregnant in dec 04 i left him in jan05 he kept telling me he was quitting his drugs but then his sister told me that he had been getting them off of her so i wouldnt know he also has another girl 1 month old with new gf whom social services just gave his mother temp. custody tonight please any advice is needed
2006-09-21 16:43:12 · update #1
I don't think anyone would fault you for ending the visitations. You have to do what is in the best interest of your child. Under these circumstances I don't think anyone would fault you for denying access.
2006-09-21 17:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I would suggest speaking with some one from Child Protective services and friend of court, Inform them how the child dad, is posing a threat to the baby general welfare, drinking and driving, displaying behavior that poses a health and safety concern to the baby. Maybe you could also consider to have the supervised visit by some one from child protective services in side your home, or at the child protective agency. Also if you have a program in your community , called Parent mentoring either through one of the community mental health agencies, The parent mentoring program could assist the dad to have a relationship with his child, and teach him on how to become a responsible parent. Yet if the baby's dad does not want to be responsible and learned to change his unhealthy practices then it might be best for the child not to be apart of his life until he can manage to make better choices for him self. If you live in Muskegon MI call Cathloic social services about the parent mentoring program. I wish you and your child the best.
2006-09-21 23:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by soulstore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My word, I would love to find out who your guardian adlitem is. These visitations need to be stopped until this man has his life together. You can file a motion with your court system to modify visitation. As grounds, use the arrest record, the fact that they haven't seen your daughter in three months and set stipulations on how they can or will be able to see your daughter. Such as, completing rehab for starters. I can't imagine any court allowing this to continue. It's terribly harmful for a child at that age to be forced into the arms of strangers. Especially where drugs and alcohol are concerned. I wish you the best honey...for you and your baby.
2006-09-21 23:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you had no clue he was like this when you got knocked up? Either you're not very observant or you didn't care at the time.
He can be the world's biggest jackass but still be a good father. How does he treat your daughter? Does she come back from visits all dirty? Or come down with colds? suffer allergies? Has she come back all sun-burned or covered in bug bites?
If he's taken reasonably good care of her, quit sweating it. At 11 months, they don't remember anybody.
It's easy to say he's in on drugs but can you prove it? did you leave him as soon as you knew he was on drugs? If not, the judge may feel you're guilty of condoning the bad behavior and are now just complaining because he has a new girlfriend.
Talk to a family law attorney in your jurisidiction, one that does a lot of these cases.
2006-09-21 23:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this with my ex- drugs and all, I'm not on drugs, but i was stupid and let my daughter go with him, and one day he wouldn't bring her back cause he wanted to file income tax on her, and i already did. he won in court, cause he had money and i didn't, plus he had my daughter at the time, now his mommy does all the raising, get a lawyer and fast, don't let him have her again till u get full custody of your daughter, believe me, im still fighting the courts to get her out of there. and back with me.
2006-09-21 23:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should get counsel and petition court immediately to have visitation rescinded.........if these allegations are true......they should definitely see u as being in the right........damn, thats very scary for your kids. is he paying consistent child support......that may be another avenue to overturn visitation?
2006-09-21 23:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer, FAST! If you can't afford one, there are pro bono lawyers that will help you at no cost. For your baby's sake, go to court and fight for her safety and well-being.
2006-09-21 23:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by CR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋