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2006-09-21 16:12:20 · 32 answers · asked by sissy_girl2001 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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it depends on the couple and what they want. my best advice is don't do it to save the relationship, communicate and be honest about boundaries and rules. it is also no one elses business!!!

2006-09-24 12:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by taurusbella 2 · 3 0

need more info. depends on your relationship. it's certianly not for everyone. don't even consider it unless both of u are very secure about your relationship. the general opinion in here seems to be that it will ruin the relationship, but i've known people to do a thing or two that is not exactly the mainstream type of actions while in relationships and have it help to spice up the relationship without hurting it at all.
a lot of people seem to think that it's just a way of 'cheating', but if the rules u make with your partner say it's allowed then how can it be cheating? establish rules up front about what is and isn't ok. agree that if at any time one of you feels to uncomfortable the other will immediately stop what is causing the discomfort. discuss in advance what might make u or your partner uncomfortable and agree to avoid those situations. if things are thought out and done right it can be a very positive thing for your relationship and will give renewed vigor and excitement.
if u think it might be something for you, start by just bringing in one person to join u and then u can 'share' that person. make it more of a sharing pleasure type thing rather than a taking turns and having someone get left out type of thing. if someone is left out at all then that would probably be much more likely to lead to a situation where someone might leave with bad feelings about it.
try with another women then with another man (or the other way around) then talk about it and decide from there if you want to take things farther.

2006-09-21 16:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Roger 4 · 0 0

Not everyone. But it is for those who have thoughts about it and whose marriage can withstand it.

If you are both in agreement, then why not! It's healthy to fantasize! Is it just talk or do you want to actually try it?

There are lots of reasons that couples fantasize about another person and they do not necessarily mean that they wish to become swingers.

For one, many people enjoy watching others particpate in sexual activity.

Have you discussed bringing another woman or man into your bed? If so, a swingers club is certainly the most efficient way to find someone to join you. But you could test the waters by stopping by one. They are all over...where you think they wouldn't be!
You can see some of the action, as it's very much an adult party!!!

If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of RULES in order to be successful.

Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.

It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.

The fantasies can be just as good!!!

2006-09-21 16:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1 0

That depends on the couple. Most of the time when you introduce another person into the bedroom problems arise. If it is another woman, you might be jealous of her afterwards wondering if he's "doing her" on the side behind your back. If you bring another man in, he could get jealous. Men are funny about their "member". If the other man is bigger or "gets you off" he might feel inadequate. The idea of a man getting two women is a fantasy most men have. However, if YOU get two men, will he still see you the same in the morning? He might think that he alone cannot satisfy you and will start to question himself. I don't oppose to my girl having two men (assuming I'm one), but I know myself well enough to know that after the "excitement" is over. I'd have to kill someone. LOL!

2006-09-21 16:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by denverbroncos1973 4 · 0 1

I would think not. My hubby suggested it...but it was totally up to me. I just didn't want anyone else touching my husband sexually. That is just for me. And I don't want him to watch some other man with me. He is totally ok with it because I don't think he could handle it either. Once it happens you can't take back the feelings you have during the moments you are "swinging". Better just not do it.

2006-09-21 16:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by tod 2 · 0 0

No, I believe swinging isn't right when two people are together their suppose to love each other and be committed and either way you look at it it's still cheating I think people start swinging as a excuse to cheat I don't think they do it to save their relationship I think they just do it to have a chance to cheat so no I don't think people should do it it's CHEATING very very wrong!!

2006-09-21 17:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0 1

Definitely not. Couples who practices swinging are people who practices adultery with consent from their spouses. What's the rationality of getting married and then jumping into bed with another couple who is not their lawfull husband or wife. Isn't this all about illicit sex affairs among pervert couples. Purely sensual and devilish. Its all about selfish work of the lusts of the flesh. They who spent their life in temporary pleasures are already dead while still alive. Those who practice it are endangered guests in the depths of hell.

2006-09-21 17:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1 1

Swinging is very popular and growing at a rapid pace. Personally, I think it's garbage for a Man to want to share his wife...give me break...lol

2006-09-21 16:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Who in the right mind would like to see you with strangers?

There are many ways to enhance your marriage but swinging is I think the easiest way out.

2006-09-21 16:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by tangerine 2 · 0 1

Not only can this destroy your marriage but should I remind you that you can get a collection of venereal diseases this way. I have known one couple (aquaintances) that thought they were all secure in their relationship and this was going to help them and blah, blah, blah....it was all bullshit it ended up tearing them apart and not only were they hurt but also their kids of course the couple got divorce in the end. It is also something very disgusting!

2006-09-21 16:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Queen Kitty 3 · 0 0

I do not see swinging as a safe thing to do these days with all these diseases coming up. I do not care what they tell you their rules are, not a good thing health wise.

2006-09-21 17:00:08 · answer #11 · answered by geri11066 2 · 0 0

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