Seriously, does bisexuality really exist?

Question

Why do only young people consider themselves bi?
Why do older people ends accepting that they're gay or just straight?
Why do everyone wants to be bisexual? What's so great about that?

Hope you can answer those questions.

Answer 1

NO.

Bisexuality, in my opinion, is merely a term of convenience or perhaps it's a term used to deny ones true sexual identity.

Many of us go through the awkward stage of discovering our definitive sexuality, usually in our teen years. Most of us are successful in coming to the conclusion that we are either Gay or straight.

Bisexuality is a brief way of saying one of two things: “Yes, I’m Gay (or Lesbian) but I’d rather not admit it” or, “I’m bisexual because I can maintain a stable household with my husband or wife and yet go out and party (have sex) with the boys (or the girls) because that’s what bisexual’s do”. Actually the above mean the same thing but framed differently. The word "bisexual" serves to define one facet of ones being: SEX.

I don't think “bisexuality” exists except in the minds of those who adopt that lifestyle -- and term -- for one specific reason. Again, that reason resonates as nothing greater than physical gratification. Just sex. Simply sex and nothing more.

Nah. I don't buy the mantra, "I have the best of both worlds!" I think those who are younger see this as a cool and trendy way of having sex, and for older "bisexuals", its a safer way of getting close to coming out of the closet while still chanting the same old mantra, "I have the best of both worlds!".

Think about this:
* We are born into a hostile environment the minute we take our first breath, especially if you’re born in a hospital where the rules are that lovers and significant others have absolutely NO RIGHTS when ones partner is hospitalized, and in case of dire need only FAMILY MEMBERS may make decisions on behalf of the ill individual.
* We continue our journey feeling the bias in virtually every aspect of our lives.
* We are told by our peers that being “queer” is wrong.
* We are told by our educational system that being “queer” is wrong.
* We are denied rights that straights have by our municipalities and federal government. Being “queer” is wrong.
* Our churches consider us as “abominations”.
* Many of our places of employment refuse us the same rights that straights have.
* In short, all through our lifetime we are told we are LESS than second class citizens.
* As Gays and Lesbians our lives are placed on the line every single day. In some parts of the world that has literal meaning. In Iran and Iraq Gays and Lesbians, even those people who are merely suspected of being Gay or Lesbian, are killed. Often execution style or following a sham trial.
* We are also exposed to a host of other unfair treatments such as losing our job, our home, our family and our friends. Just because we are Gay or Lesbian.

The urge for a “bisexual” to have sex with a person of his or her own gender MUST BE OVERWHELMINGLY STRONG TO ENGAGE THIS REALITY. It is so strong that it supersedes virtually all aspects of his or her life. Why? It's because their homosexual orientation is so dominant and so strong that it compels them to act on those SEXUAL urges.

If one is truly a “bisexual”, then it seems clear that they would simply choose what our culture has dictated: live his or her life with someone of the opposite gender. But not so. They choose to use the term “bisexuality” and the one thing that makes "bisexuals" unique: they can ‘act out’ their Gay or Lesbian SEXUAL desires under a more acceptable label and now in a more tolerant environment.

At the risk of sounding redundant, those who say they are “bisexual” are either Gay or Lesbian. If not, then I infer they have a tremendously strong affinity for pain, grief and suffering when it can otherwise be easily avoided.

Best Wishes!
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I approach all people equally. I give each person the level of respect and high regard we all deserve -- by believing everyone is either my Gay or Lesbian brother or sister.

Answer 2

I'm bisexual and I exist. You're questions are predicated on complete falsehoods.
1. It is not only young people who consider themselves bi. The anti-bi bigotry from both straights and gays, just look at some of the answers to your question, frequently confuses them more because they've been convinced that a totally un-necessary choice has to be made. The strength and maturity to stand up and say "This is who I am, I like who I am, and be damned to all of you!" only comes with time.
2. Older bisexual people never accept that they are gay or straight because they aren't, they are bi. Refer to the sentiment expressed in the last line of my previous answer.
3. It's not that I ever "wanted" to be bisexual, you are making the same claim about us that the straights do about gays, that it's a choice. It's not, like any form of sexuality, it's the way we were born. I could claim to be one or the other, but then I'd be like a gay man in denial and trying to be straight, I'd be living a lie, and why should I do that just keep the straights and gays happy at my expense?
4. What's great about it? All I know is that it works for me, that's enough. I turn, once again to the French philosopher, "I did not choose to be who and what I am, but since it is me, I will neither deny nor apologize for it."

Answer 3

I think of sexuality as being on kind of a scale or continuum. If 1 is totally straight and 10 is totally homosexual, then I consider myself about a 7 or 8, and identify as a lesbian. I'm sorta old by the way (41).
I think that bisexuality exists and most people might actually be somewhere in the middle of the continuum (say a 4 to 8), but many ultimately end up being in a monogamous relationship, which ends up defining them as straight or gay.
It's hard for someone who's bisexual to maintain the "bisexual" label when they are in a monogomous relationship. They may still feel and identify as bisexual, but other people don't accept that, which is too bad.

Answer 4

Apparently I don't exist either. I am bisexual, I am sexually and romantically attracted to both sexes. While some scared people who are gay say that they are bi, and others say they are because they want to be seen as different or whatever, that doesn't mean it's not very real. Statements saying it doesn't exist is like saying heterosexuality or homosexuality doesn't exist... You can't discredit an entire group of people and their preferences and say they don't exist...

Answer 5

I consider myself bi b/c I'm just attracted to both sexes. It's not that I want to be lesbian b/c I like men. I like men a little more than I like women. And I can't say that I'm straight b/c of the way I feel about women. Everyone doesn't want to be bisexual. My friends (f) don't think that's cool, they are disgusted by it, but my (m) friends do like it, but only in girls. When I get older I'm sure I'll still be bi. Well OK I guess for me it's like this. I want to get married to a man, and have more kids, and w/ the woman it's more of a friendship and sexual thing, no marriage and family type stuff. So that's how "I" feel.

Answer 6

Yes, bisexuality really exists -it's when you're sexually attracted to both men and women and would seriosly consider a sexual relationship with either. Not only young people consider themselves bisexual, many of us older folks do as well. Most people aren't 100% straight or 100% gay, meaning that most people have bisexual tendencies. However, many of those with some bisexual tendencies have a preference of one sex over the other & might consider themselves straight or gay rather than bisexual. Not everyone wants to be bisexual, but some people are bi-curious (they might think about having sex with those of both sexes, but not necessarily a relationship & they may not even follow through with having sex with members of both sexes). Realistically, you're either bisexual or you aren't (bi-curious "wannabees" might turn out to be bisexual & might not). There's nothing so great about it unless you're really attracted to both men & women.

Answer 7

Why do you use plural words when talking about a single item?

Yes, Virginia, there really is a bisexuality.

I always knew I liked women, but had dated and married a man. I don't hate men, I enjoy their company very much. I have also learned I'm much more paticular about my male sex partners than my female partners.

But, since I've been in a committed relationship with my soul mate who happens to be a woman, I am 100% committed to her. I tend to identify as lesbian simply for this fact alone.

It's not to say that if anything should happen, Gods forbid, to her, that I would rule out ever "hooking up" with another man.

Answer 8

Why is it so important to label people?
Can't we just accept pepole, who consider themselves as bisexuals, as humans?
Why is it so important to be either gay or straight?
There is also grey, not only black and white.

Answer 9

Man, whatever. People are people, bisexual, straight, whatever they want to be. There isn't any "false" group... for if it were false, why would it exist??? And not everyone wants to be bisexual... I don't mind it, it's a normal thing jeez.

Answer 10

This is a good question. The only thing I have to add is all of the bisexual girls I have met all claimed to be amazing in bed but were not......actually far from it. So basically I think bisexuals have a habit of lying a great deal and bragging about themselves a lot so it makes me think what else are they lying about?

Answer 11

really...i dont see anything great about it...i wish i wasn't...cuz it jus makes me more confused on whether if i want to be gay or jus straight...i cant choose jus yet....its like i want to be with a girl..but sometimes i may feel like i need a man....i hope i answered well enough...