Today I came the closest I've ever been to coming out to my mother. And, I just panicked and began changing the subject. My mother is actually my closest friend, but I can't seem to bring myself to reveal to her what I've already embraced in my private life. I know that she's had suspicions about me being gay, and I know that she'd prefer me to be gay than to be bi, which I am (though I lean more to women).
If I told her I'm bi, she'd freak out. If I told her I'm gay, she'd drop down on her knees and, "Thank God!". I know her. Should I just tell her I'm gay because I seem to like women a bit more? I've always fought with my peers that bisexuality is a real orientation, so I know that would be hypocritical of me, but would it really hurt if she thought that I'm only interested in women?
2006-09-21 15:15:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tough question because I always advocate the truth..but if you told her a white lie that you were gay who would it hurt...you could always revise things later...I think it's great that you are so sure of your mother's reaction..seriously, that's great...good moms are hard to come by and so are good friends...
2006-09-21 17:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I came out to my parents when I was 19 years old. I'm not going to lie, things weren't easy for me for about a year. Eventually my parents began to come around and realized that I am exactly the same person I was before I came out. I am completely lesbian but I do believe there is a such thing as bisexuality. The thing that concerns me most about you coming out about your bisexuality is for a while, it will be hard for the gay and straight community to accept you. My advice to you is to be true to yourself If your bisexual then you just are. It's your life and trust me, your family will eventually accept it. You can't live your life for your mother. If you do, you will be miserable for the rest of your life. Be yourself and stand by that. You and your mother both will respect you for your honesty eventually. And if you are as close as you say you are, she will want you to find true happiness with someone you love. I hope I helped a bit. Best of luck.
2006-09-21 17:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Michele B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well good for you! It sounds like you and your mom are close. So what makes you think that deep down she already knows, has accepted it and moved on. Maybe she is just waiting for you to level with her. If you feel comfortable enough to finally open up to her, then why not just level with her and explain exactly how you feel. Its better that she know the truth, the whole truth. This way you can avoid any confusion down the road. The sooner the better, you know what I mean? Good Luck with it. Peace2U.
2006-09-21 15:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by psykobarbi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bisexuality is an Orientation. You should tell your mother the truth. She will learn to live with it in good time. There is nothing wrong with being who you really are.
2006-09-21 15:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by destincole 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you are bi. You will feel better being honest with her and telling her all of it at once, rather than by degrees. I hope it goes well.
(I'm still not telling my family!)
2006-09-21 15:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it shouldn't matter which gender you're into, whether you're bi or gay, you're still her daughter, she should accept the fact that you're gay or bi.
2006-09-21 15:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i support your goals
2006-09-22 17:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth... dont cheat her..
2006-09-22 05:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by king of hearts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will get there babes
2006-09-21 15:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋