swinging is when a married couple spends time with one or more married couples, exchanging partners for romantic, physical and sexual pleasure....
2006-09-21 15:03:16 · 18 answers · asked by monika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What's the point of promising to give yourself completely to someone if you have no intention of doing so?
If you want an open relationship it's fair enough but getting married just makes everyone very confused and it's also slightly revolting.
2006-09-21 23:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why a couple is swinging. If their relationship is happy and healthy and are doing it to fulfill fantasies that require more then two people to fulfill, and both parties are just as excited to do it, their motives are unselfish, then it is right.
If they are doing it to "fix" a relationship, their motives are selfish, or one member of the relationship has coerced or manipulated the other into it, then it is wrong. It won't work, it will only hasten the relationship's demise.
Swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it sure won't hurt a good one.
Those that swing successfully did not get into it because there were problems in their relationship or they were bored with each other and wanted to "spice things up". They got into it because they wanted to explore their sexuality together.
Those that don't do it successfully usually try it because they think it will fix the relationship they broke. For instance, in the past two weeks we've learned of two couples in the lifestyle that we know well that have split-up. We have never played with either because the writing was on the wall from the first time we met. Their motives for swinging were clear - they were trying to fix their relationship, and it made us uncomfortable. Like I said, it not only doesn't work, it will just intensify the exact problems you think swinging will solve.
If the relationship is good to begin with, for many swinging only makes it better because it brings communication and trust within the relationship to a whole new level.
2006-09-22 20:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely not do this. I think it is very wrong. It can only lead to trouble down the road. I know, I am in the process of getting out of a 28 year marriage in which my old man decided we needed a little spice in our lives. In my case it was alright for the old man to do as he pleased but if I went with someone else I had to hear about how I did not love him anymore and I wanted this other person more than I wanted and loved him. At times it even made him become physically abusive. I was trapped in a no win, no win situation. Trust me the negative things far out way any of the good,DO NOT DO IT.
2006-09-21 15:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong implies your life is a moral question open to the opinions of others.
Really you only have to be concerned with three things, what do you consider right or wrong, what do the people you love consider right or wrong, and what does the LAW consider right or wrong.
Think about those things, then think for yourself.
The world would be a much better place if people did this instead of listening to others who want to make moral decisions for them.
2006-09-21 15:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An open relationship can be a wonderful relationship, as long as friendship is always placed before "love" in the traditional sense of the word. For freedom is one of the forms that love takes, and love is always the right answer.
Unfortunately mankind believes that love should come before friendship, and it is that belief that leads them to believe more in the guidance of fear, than love. Jealousy ensues, and revenge replaces friendship; for that is the way of fear.
Keep the doors of communication open, and always judge all things you feel, as you would a friend, and you will fall deeper in love with your mate, than you could ever imagine possible.
2006-09-21 15:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is MY opinion that it's wrong. B/C to me when two persons commit to each other (married or not), it shows complete lack of responsibility to the vows taken.
I'm just personally "not into that sort of behavior". But I guess, if both parties agree to that sexual action, then to each his own.
I'm certainly not prejudice or anything like that against those who choose to do this.
2006-09-21 15:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong in terms of fulfilling one's vows, and risky in terms of maintaining the marriage and hygiene. However, if your marriage is crumbling anyway, and the idea excites you, you may feel the thrills to be worth the risks. At least if you are both at it openly there is no cheating and deceipt to further damage your relationship.
2006-09-21 16:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by cdrotherham 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your philosophy. It is right for some couples and not others. Just make sure that you both know what you are getting into and what you want out of it.
2006-09-21 21:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by advent m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is so wrong god did not intend for us to do such a disgusting thing we are meant to pick one man or women to be are mate and only have sex with them it is people who do things like this who are ruining the world.By the way if they loved there husband or wife they would not want them haveing sex with anyone else but them!
2006-09-21 15:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong because thats the reason for marriage being with one person at a time
2006-09-21 15:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋