should i take her back?

Question

like i told you guys she left on the 1st of september now she realize that she can't make it on her own her cyber boyfriend didn't come through she said she never stop loving me she want's to make it work between us should i let her sufer or take her back i'm confuse and still very hurt . need advise

Answer 1

Do you love her? Are you able to forgive her? Only you can decide.

Answer 2

Once bitten, twice shy. The heart wants what the heart wants, and I can feel for you because I have been in a similar situation. You feel like you still love her, but at the same time you feel betrayed. That being said, the possibility of you being used as a doormat for the rest of your relationship goes up exponentially AND the feelings you have for her will most certainly never quite be the same. In the back of your mind you will always wonder if she is being faithful....Therefore, I would have to agree with most of the other's advice here. If she can do it once, she can do it again. Taking advantage of your heart is not a good thing whether it be a female or a male doing the taking. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try to move on. You will be the better for it.

Answer 3

She loved you so much that she developed an on line romance and abandoned you? The only way she never stopped loving you is if she never loved you at all in the first place!

Of course you are hurt, but don't let that impede your common sense. She is playing you for a fool. Walk away. Let someone else be her fool while you move on to a more fulfilling relationship. Certainly, you can do better than this.

Answer 4

Bro, no way. Please don't get duped again. I got married in 2003 and divorced in 2006(not to mention was separated for over a year). SHE CHEATED ONCE, SHE'LL DO IT AGAIN!!! HANDS DOWN. I already did what you are thinking about doing, and GUESS WHAT? SAME DARN THING....ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER....i always believed in second chances....but you know what? Sounds like she has already planned this in her heart long before the actual act. Be a man and do what's right...what's more: the Bible even backs you(and me) up.
God bless you and give you the wisdom and grace to get over the pain. But better now, than to suffer with an unfaithful wife for the rest of your life!

don't listen to all that advice from "females"....dude, my ex did as much as crawled on her knees to my apartment. She wrote letters about how she wants me back, the WHOLE NINE YARDS. But guess what? If the heart is cold and stoney, you won't see it on the outward appearance....believe me, they're proffesional at hiding that. Just pray about it and do what you KNOW is right. IT HURTS, but do it brother. Only God changes hearts....

Answer 5

You need to take some time to think about whether she is worth it for you (broken heart aside!!!). Hash it out with her ask her if she never stopped loving you then why did she leave you? Ask her if her cyber love had been Mr. Perfect would she have still come back to you? Ask her if she will leave you for her next cyber boyfriend. Ask her if you can do the same to her. Make her feel ridiculous.

If you want her back then she needs to know that she has to win you back and that once she has you back, if she is lucky enough to get you back, she needs to make you and your happiness a priority in her life.

Answer 6

Its up to u, but realize that all u are is nothing more then a security blanket.. Shes not comming back cause she loves u.. if she loved u she wouldnt of left for what she thought was prince charming.. shes back tracking cause shes scared.. but as much as it may work for awhile if u take her back, she'll just do this again to u when the next prince charming shows up .. only difference is she'll wait untill she knows for sure he's going to take care of her.. I say u make her prove to u that she wants u back, which mean u not taking her back so easily.. means her having to hit rock bottom and her realizing that she really screwed up big time, only way u can know for sure that she wants "YOU" and not a free ride..

Answer 7

Do what you feel in your heart is right for you. I understand your hurt and lots of people would say .. move on. I think you should do whatever you feel like, however, I would make sure she knew how bad she hurt me.. whether you decide to let her back into your life or not, she needs to know that her actions created a negative reaction on you and that you are very hurt. You didnt say in your message if you love her still or not. I guess you need to answer that question first... then you have your answer to the second one.Best of luck to you!!

Answer 8

do u still love her?
she obviously loves u. she realised her mistakes. she wants to make it up to.
it may be hard to accept her back. she'd did da worst thing a rship wld have to go through.
how did she left u? did she give any reasons? was she doing it impulsively? did u guys had a talk before seperating?
seperation has to be agreed by 2 parties.
i believe u did not agree but u had to coz she wanted to, rite? did u asked her y? did u play ur part in trying 2 keep the rship going b4 she left u? did u tried to stop her? talk things through? get things clear between u n her?
u cant accept that she made the decision herself. u cant accept that she left u for a cyber bf. u feel useless being by her side all the time. u wanted revenge now. u wanted her to feel the way u do. coz wadever she did is unacceptable to u.
u know what wld be in her mind?
why did i left him after all we've been through?
y was i so stupid?
will he ever take me back after all i'd done to him even if i told him i still love him so much?
basically, those r da questions.
we, girls, at times do things w/o thinking. in the end, its us who get hurt. have u read da lyrics to Christina Aguilera's song Hurt? there's one part where it says, "i've hurt myself by hurting you".
so dude, if u still love her very much, just take her back. but still, take ur time. maybe u guys need a break to think things through. can u move on w/o her? if yes, den 4get abt taking back. if no, take ur time.
put all ur egos aside n let love take its place.

all the best!
:)

Answer 9

It depends oh how you feel in your heart about the situation. If the love was real she would have stayed with you and not find someone else whereas it did not work out. Perhaps she did not find in that person the love and kindness that you gave to her and she realize her mistake and want you back. You would have to make a decision hoping that she don't repeat the same thing.

Answer 10

the best advise comes from you, knowing that, what would you tell a friend? you love her, but do you love yourself & what you stand for? are you happy with her or use to the feeling/relationship? do you feel you can trust her? will you make important sacrifices going back to her? may sound lame, right down the pros & cons, not to share but rather to get yourself thinking. you may do this for days, weeks, months but as you add to it you may start to recognize how you actually feel & discover happiness once you make the necessary changes.

best of luck to you! Been there myself. just remember if you don't learn more about yourself through this, you'll never change. Keep us posted.

Answer 11

He ll no don't take her back if you do she will only be living in the meantime meaning she will be in a comfort zone with you until she finds herself another cyberlover or another man whom she thinks will sweep her off her feet or spend lots of money on her,if you take her back this will become a cycle every time she finds another man she will leave you and when it doesnt work out she will be back to you why because if you take her back now you will always be her security blanket.