PARENTS ONLY! Which would you rather raise? First time mother?

Question

I have gotten myself pregnant and want to know which you would rather raise a boy or a girl? And why?

Answer 1

well i have 1 girl and 2 boys and i think my boys are easier but i love my girl just as much. i cant say why my boys are easier they just are. byt my girl is way to much like me so we but heads alot so that might be the reason why she was harder on me but you will love your child no matter what sex it is. and you will raise that child just fine. **** luck and enjoy your child and the years you have to be a wondrful mother.

Answer 2

As a full time mother of 4, i find this to be a strange question. Through out all my pregnancies i did not wish on a gender - Instead i wished for a healthy baby. That's all i wanted was a healthy, active beautiful baby! Now sitting here with three boys and a little girl aged oldest to youngest at 11yrs, 8yrs, 3yrs and 2yrs and my girl being the baby, i find NO difference. I don't find myself asking "oh why did i have a fourth" or "why didn't i get my girl first" or anything to that effect. The boys wear blue jeans and play in the mud. My little girl wears leggings and gets IN the mud!
I don't think there is a preference as to which gender is "easier to raise" ... Though it depends on what time frame you are looking at and the exact question you are asking. As far as raising a child whether it be boy or girl there is no difference - you love your children/should love your children for who they are - not what you want them to be. But financially there is a difference. Boys are blue jeans and afershave. Girls are a little more complex with pads and make up. You get what you get and thank everyone around you when it's a happy, healthy bundle that brings you immense joy and teaches you unconditional love! Good Luck to you and best wishes for baby to be!

Answer 3

I recently gave birth to a little girl. She is almost 9 weeks old. Being a first time parent has its challenges. I wouldnt change a thing about it. Me and my husband had try for almost two years before I became pregnant. I was worried my whole pregnancy b/c both my sister and grandmother had two miscarriages before being able to get pregnant and carry the child all the way threw. I prayed and prayed that that would not happen to me. I also prayed that as long as I gave birth to a healthy child it didnt matter the gender. I was fine with just having one child if I was blessed enough to give birth. So I guess what I am trying to say is if you believe in God you should pray that your child is born healthy and your pregnancy goes well. Any gender is going to have easy and hard parts while raising them. Just feel blessed that you are able to get pregnant. There are so many women out there that want a baby but cant get pregnant. So ask yourself if one of those women who couldnt get pregnant then all of a sudden they were blessed to have one child do you think they gender would honestly matter to them??? My cousin is trying to have a baby and was told that she is preg. by 4 home test and blood work by her doctor but blood work taken at the E.R. said that she was not. She went into the E.R bleeding they told her she was just having her cycle. I know she would give anything to be in your shoe and not mind the gender of the baby. I will keep you in my prayers and hape that everything goes well with your pregnancy and delivery. I hope you find the answer you were looking for and I hope I was of some help.

Answer 4

raising both girl and boys are hard neither one is easier and it also has alot to do with the child each child is different you could have two of the same sex and one could be a terror and the other a angle so its hard to say ...... i myslef have a boy and he was such a good child toddler and everything else than........... the the teen age years set in and i havent been the same since he just turned 17 two days ago he is not bad its just all the teen issues you go thru it will make u get gray hair fast lol ... well good luck and just take it one day at a time there are alot of how to books out there but the best teacher is experince ...but i think both boys and girl are a equal blessing

Answer 5

LOL... gotten yourself pregnant.

Takes two to do that... but anyway....

I'd say there is no difference, because not all boys act the same, and not all girls act the same. We had a boy that was all high-strung and hard to handle... then we had a boy that was the easiest child, laid-back and most peaceful child ever. Our only girl was kind of hard to handle; unlike other girls, she tended to be a pioneer, an experimenter, always into trouble. LOL. So -- with children you just have to take what you get, and do your best to train them properly.

Try to bond with your baby as soon as you can, and maintain eye contact and touch, whenever you are caring for the baby. This kind of rapport between mother and child is what makes you close. Later, when you have to control their behavior, that eye contact and touch will assure the child that you are on their side, and they will be more likely to pay attention when you say "NO" or give an order that you expect them to obey.

Good luck with your baby !!

Answer 6

I have 2 boys so I can't say what girls are like. Only that I know what i did to my mother when I was a teenager and I'm not entirely sure that I would like to go through that. That being said there is no love like that you have for your child so don't worry about it,all kids can be a pain in the neck but more often than not your joy and pride will far out way those bad days

Answer 7

I have a little girl & it's just a blast raising her. Other than the times when she thinks she's 16 (she just turned 5). I do her hair, she comes out all dressed up, and she'll dance with me to music in the front room. She says some pretty funny things too. Girls are generally very chatty. Boys can be too, but normally the girls get going a lot younger. I have 3 friends w/6 boys between them. I like raising my girl and they are all pretty jealous of all the 'girly' things that she & I do. They would all like to have a little girl of their own.

Answer 8

I always thought I would want to have a girl, but when my son was born I was extremely happy because I had 3 miscarriages before having him. I also am glad I didn't have a girl because some of the girls on here that are getting pregnant at 12 & 13 years-old seem to think it is just fine!

Answer 9

Every child is different. I have four kids and have been a caretaker for many more. Gender ends up having very little to do with how easy or difficult children are to raise.

I have three boys and one girl. All have their difficult moments and all have their easy moments. The difficulties I have with one boy tend to be totally different than difficulties with another. Each is an individual with their own behaviors and understandings and it isn't their gender that makes them any one more difficult or more easy than another.

Try not to develop preconceived negative notions about your baby. If you do, you may treat him or her differently than you would otherwise and end up causing more difficulties that aren't the child's doing. I've seen this happen a number of times.

Answer 10

Before i found out i was pregnant and during my pregnancy i wanted a boy more then anything. At my 26 week ultrasound i found out we were having a girl. I was shocked and it took awhile to get used to the idea but i was so happy afterwards. Now my daughter is 5.5 months old and i can't imagine not having her or having a boy. I wanted a boy because i thought that it would be fun to do "boy things" and for my husbands sake i thought i boy would be anot more fun. My daughter is a daddy's girl and i never saw my husband more happy and i couldnt be either. I am happy because she is a sensitive girl who loves to cuddle and it really brought out my husbands soft side.

Answer 11

I can only speak for my opinion--right?
The women in my family are very close, so I hoped and prayed for girls, and I got three. There are so many things to consider. It's starts off about the same, you fall in love with your baby, you are immersed in baby care, but boys have the circumcision to deal with (if you do that). My girls were more tidy, and often quieter than my son. No pee on the potty, for one. The boys' toys cost more, but the girls need all this crap like slips and 6 different pairs of shoes. The boy needs regular haircuts, the girls don't, but there are the bows. The boy nearly destroys his toys and shoes, as if everything is an impact, the girls are tamer and more careful of their stuff, and the house in general. However, in adolescence, girls get moody and boys get quiet. Girls never shut up about anything, and boys have to be interrogated to get any information out! In the late teens, girls want to tell you how to do everything, as they start to mature to adult tastes.

The end result to me is this, girls are mad at you and maybe hate you for a couple of years, but with a daughter, you've got a girlfriend for life (when she's grown.) Boys are only yours until they marry, then you have to hope you really like her! Men only have one serious confidant, their wife, but women are always building on their friendships.