Me and my husband love each other very much and were happy. We have sex quite often and he says hes satisfied. But why does he masturbate other times? I was going to ask him but i dont want him to think i dont approve. It doesnt bother me except i think he thinks he gets more satisfaction masturbating. So I ask you guys is it something yall just do? Please help me, Thanks.....
2006-09-21 14:33:49 · 15 answers · asked by acomodropely 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
If he's yankin', he's not satisfied.
2006-09-21 14:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by x 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm 35 and i jack off more now than when i was 17.my question is"do u masturbate?"dont say no.me and my girl have been together for 13 years,we have a very good sex life.we often masturbate with each other.there is times when she will go to the shower and do it without me.i do not get upset about this.it is just part of human nature.she tells me that she does it every morning when she gets out of the shower,does it bother me,no.i think that as long as u 2 have a good relationship and show love and compassion for each other there is nothing wrong.try this,try mastubation with each other.
hope i made a little bit of sense,just dont worry about it,nothing wrong with it.
2006-09-21 16:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by 'HUMVEE' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband's decision to masturbate does not mean he doesn't love you. masturbation is an act performed by members of both sexes. men have gotten a bad rap as being more frequently engaged in the practice.
a man masturbates because he can and because he knows best, how to pleasure himself. this doesn't mean he prefers masturbation over vaginal sex. it merely means the man wants to pleasure himself right then and there.
i've been happily married to the same woman for 39 years. we have a normal, active sex life. we're both into sexual practices beyond the plain old missionary method. oral sex is very much a part of our encounters together. but, i'll admit, when i'm feeling horny, and my wife isn't at home or is at home, but busy, i never miss the opportunity to whack off.
as long as your husband is attentive to your needs, physcially,
emotionally, and sexually, there's no harm done by his masturbating. if he strictly masturbated and preferred sols sex or partnered sex, i'd say there's a problem.
let me make a suggestion or two. openly discuss this topic with your husband. please don't make him feel like an oddball for masturbating; that's not true at all. if you're comfortable with the idea: ask him if you can watch him do the masturbating, suggest that you both masturbate yourself at the same time, ask him to watch your masturbate yourself without him engaged in the act----just an observer.
masturbation is normal, healthy, and stress relieving for everyone. a man's urge to masturbate doesn't mean he's a perv or adnormal. it means he's human, male, and wanting/needing sex (sometimes alone/sometimes partnered).
2006-09-21 14:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, when I was married to my ex-wife, I was masturbating a lot. With my current long term girl friend, I have satisfied my self in the morning than pleased her all night long. For some of us, like my self it has become more of a habit and an outlet for sexual fantasies that should not be acted out in a committed relationship.
2006-09-21 14:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly it is kind of a pressure release. but i would rather a girl kick up her attention in that area instead of me taking care of myself but sex can be a lot of work for a guy depending on what the girl does during the act. masturbation has no pressure to perform you just do it and it over and you dont have to worry about your partner keeping up or being bored or what have you. maybe you need to talk to him about changing things up in the bedroom. just get a cosmo or well any womens magazine that has sex tips and try them all and see what happens. it will give you both a incentive to try new things and if you both look at the mag and pick out things you have input and adventure.
2006-09-21 14:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, why not join him I'm sure he would get off really good if you also masturbated or even just gave him a helping hand
2006-09-22 03:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get lots of great sex from my neighbor's wife but I still enjoy the ole five knuckle shuffle, too. It's normal and gives pleasure. It's better than him smoking or drinking. Ask to watch and help him do it if he wants. Could be great fun.
2006-09-21 14:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by beefstrokinoff39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if you could help him masturbate, that way you dont feel so excluded. like give him oral or a hand job. thats what me and my boyfriend do all the time! i mean we do have sex quite often but we orally please eachother as well as with our hands. but dont worry, guys like to masturbate :D
2006-09-21 15:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by ally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Masturbation is is somthing that is normal and doesn't mean hes not satisfied w/ypu
2006-09-21 14:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by fred wilby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most if not all men stroke their lizard now and then. In his case it could mean simply that he wants an orgasm; perhaps you're not satisfying him; maybe it's a tacit invitation to you to play masturgames. Watching my lover shag her clit really gets me! Ask him - he knows!
2006-09-21 14:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is something we do....its kind of like getting strange but not really.....plus it's just easier but....not as satisfying either
2006-09-21 14:36:19 · answer #11 · answered by Hey you 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋