Can someone help????

Question

Well I am 13 and in 8th grade..and i'm not very like confident in myself. I don't have a lot of friends...and i'm really shy. I'm the type of person where if you ask like everybody in my grade (exept my few friends) who I was...they would proabably say who?!?!?! How do I get noticed by people? I always think that I am too ugly and stuff like that so, that's why I am soo scared to like stand out. So, what can I do to help me with making new friends and standing out?

And I already do a bunch of after school activities and I do wear cool clothes. I wear like Hollister, Abercrombie, and American Eagle. I wear those type of clothing..I am also 5 foot tall and weigh 90 pounds.

And i'm not looking for a boyfriend or anything like that.

And when I do talk to new people I get really self-concious because when I talk I can't really say my r's the way they are supposed to be said. And I have been to speech but, it hasn't helped.

And I do band and Honors band...I also do jazz band, and orchestra..For sports I do cheerleading(because it's fun), track, cross-country, basketball and gymnastics.

And I also do rugby for girls.

Answer 1

Wait for the right one, obviously you are being spared by not going through a bunch of jerks BEFORE you find the right one, and become a loser yourself..you are NOT a loser, just pray that you are in the right place at the right time, find interests that keep you healthy, men like women who have things going for them , that makes you appealing, boost your esteem and things will turn around..consider yourself lucky! Be selective and set your standards high...stop looking and waiting and it will come to you at the right time..you'll see! I wish you the best :)))) If your appearance is the problem, get fit, get a taebo video and commit a few minutes a day, it does wonders, if you can afford a gym, even better, guys there and will appreciate a woman taking care of herself, use olive oil on your skin at night and all over your body for softness and to retain youth, not to mention it does wonders for your bloodstream and heart. Get a haircut with cute layers, light makeup and keep it casual but classy in the clothese dept. make them respect you!

Answer 2

Get involved in activities that you enjoy and that can lead to meeting new people whether it be an activity in school or outside of school. Do something that makes you feel good because the better you feel about yourself and the more confidence you have the more people will recognize you. If you do not like your appearence make some small changes that will not change who you are but change the way you feel about yourself. If you do not like your hair save up some money and get a haircut from a salon or even wear some makeup, but not too much, you are still young. If you dont feel good about your clothes maybe buy some new clothes that are more fashionable, ask the girls at the store for hints...they are actually very helpful. I would look at the girls in school and see what they are wearing to see what is in style at the moment. These small changes could boost your confidence and get you noticed or atleast make you feel better.

Answer 3

everyone shines at a different time in there life. being popular and wearing the cool cloths doesn't make the person stand out or be notice. be your self. i think everyone goes though a shy period. if you want more friend talk to them people no matter how you talk or as you said you can't say your r's right so what. my best friend in school couldn't say her r's too. but once she got comfortable with other people she talked just fine. being in the spot light might not be all it is cracked up to be. please don't change who you are to get people to notice you. cause i don't think in the long run you will be happy with yourself. fine other people who are into the same stuff you are into.

who knows in a few years you might look back at this and laugh cause you might be the prom queen that year. relax be who you are. and if someone don't like you for you. then it is their lose not yours.

Answer 4

first of all you must believe in yourself and be yourself..13 is such an awkward age..Stop being so shy and try to befriend someone. There are many ways to stand out. Answer all the questions your teacher asks for just one day. Introduce yourself to 3 new people each day. You never know one of them could be your best friend in years to come. And most of all treat everyone like you want to be treated because someday the person that you may have treated badly might just be the person who will save your life.

Answer 5

Ask your mother if you can visit a make-up counter at a major department store. The beauticians there can help you find the right make-up for your face shape and complexion. Usually they will do it for free, without a purchase but it would be nice if you bought at least one small thing. Ask someone you know to suggest a hair stylist. Choose clothes that are flattering for your body type. There are tons of teen magazines with suggestions.

Surely there are some things you are good at. If not, at least try some things and see what you like or may be skilled at. Get involved with clubs and groups at school. Try at least one sport. Maybe yearbook committee or school newspaper are good for you. How about helping to plan and decorate for an upcoming dance? Maybe orchestra, jazz ensemble or band. Maybe you can be a peer counselor or tutor fellow students in subjects you're good at but that they struggle with. You may try all these things and only like one or two, or only be good at one or two things. But then you've found your niche! But give something a couple of weeks - don't try one session and decide you don't like it or aren't good at it.

There are things you can do in the community too. Volunteer with younger children or the elderly. Volunteer to clean up trash or paint houses. Check newspapers and local publications - they often list such things like that where volunteers are needed. If your family's budget allows, take dance or martial arts lessons, music lessons or get involved with a religious group with the same beliefs as you have. Martial arts would be fantastic for your self-esteem.

When I was 13 I was in drama club and I really liked it (yes, back in the Stone Age!). I didn't stay with drama but at the time it was great fun.

When you meet people, be sincere, introduce yourself and ask their name. Make eye contact when speaking. But be relaxed and don't appear desperate for friendship. (People may thing there's something wrong with you.) Try to find something you have in common with them or a common interest.

Good luck and remember, life is like s bicycle. If you stop doing stuff, you fall off! Momentum breeds momentum.

Answer 6

Be Yourself! This is so incrediably hard at times, whether you're 13 or 63. Listen to the song "Everybodies Free: to Wear Sunscreen" by Baz Lurman. It sort of points out what you should be concerned with in life, and what not to worry about. The more you find yourself, and worry les about who notices who, the more you'll find friends. It's hard for people to be aroud others who are uncomfortable. Just try to settle down, and story worrying that's the first step.

Answer 7

I know what you mean. I was the exact same thing in the 8th grade. I was afraid of being laughed at, and I have a slight Russian accent. It's because in middle school there isn't any freedom. In high school, it's a lot better. For now, just chill. I mean, look at it my way. At least nobody hates you or dislikes you. If you speak out more some people(jerks) are going to dislike you.

Answer 8

If you say "like" so much in your regular conversation, that could be one problem.
Do not be afraid of rejection. It makes you stronger and helps define who you are. When you are an adult, you go to a job interview and don't get the job you really wanted. These learning experiences you have now as an adolescent help you deal with situations when you are older. Never be afraid to be yourself and stand out. You will find your true friends to stand out with you.

Answer 9

Not being confident in yourself is the first mistake. I was never the prettiest in my grade, and didn't come out of my shell until I was a freshman. Relax, be yourself. If you become neutral, not in one clique, more people will notice that. Talk to people, whatever they are, Jocks, Snobs, Geeks. Trust me they notice if you're nice. If they don't, they aren't worth wasting time on. Just move on...Don't take things personally, it just makes you even more lonely.

Answer 10

First of all my little friend, everybody have had a stage like you described.don`t be so sad about it. even if nobody knows you, at least you have some friends, that really are you real friends?or not?give yourself a chance to grow up, try to read more interesting things that make yourself a prepared person that could talk with security to anyone,also try to walk and travel alone, maybe you can do this step by step,don`t try to rush evrything. I hope this advice could help to you.