I find myself doing more for my partner than he does for me...I love him very much but I don't feel particularly loved back, even though he says he loves me...he doesn't do much about it.
2006-09-21 14:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by Shae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To be more specific, I don't think I have been held or hugged by him for more than a minute or two in months....he says he's just stressed out....he still wants me to do things for him, like give him a massage but he won't do it for me.
2006-09-21 14:30:00 · update #1
well to tell u the truth
i'm in the same situation...i love him to a degree that i feel i'm the one who is doin everythin ...
but after i thought i found out that yeah it feels great when u do him a great thing and see a smile on his face but it feels greater that he does the same thing coz u'll know several things...that he thinks about u that he cares...that he really loves u like he says...
what is love....to me love is action more than words....
make him feel that ur love will start to fade away even if it didnt....make him move dont let him take u for granted...if u wanna keep him!!
2006-09-21 14:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Blueberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on alot of things...but YES you can love someone too much and as the old saying goes "Actions speak louder than words." It seems that you are defining LOVE by what you do for another person and vice versa...which is NOT my opinion of love. Or by keeping tabs on what he does and doesn't do and what you do that is above what he does for you. If you feel that you give and give and give and he only takes...then stop giving so much!! When I love someone I just do for them whatever I feel compelled to do and then let it go...I don't put a tally on my side of the box and compare it to his.
Do you mean being romantic? A romantic gesture? Maybe it isn't in his nature. I would just stop making a mental tally of what the "score" is for deeds done. If you feel like your love isn't being reciprocated enough for you...tell him about it or find someone who can give you what you want!!! : )
2006-09-21 14:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible, but often the reasons are not always clear or obvious. I can think of the movie a 'Fatal Attraction', but we know that she just 'had to have him' and it really wasn't love.
So...I think the first thing that you have to do, is sit down together in a safe, non-confrontational situation, and talk about your feelings.
Men often have no clue what we are feeling and why. Talk it out-you might learn something about how he is feeling, and why. i.e. "I feel that you don't love me or are considerate or respect me when you see that the garbage is full, but do nothing and leave it to me.", etc.,etc. Changes have to be made, or you will never feel happy and always, always wonder about your relationship, and those never last long. good luck.
2006-09-21 14:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by leong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I am in the same cituation,just be patient cause the more he see's how you love him he will change so you will feel he loves you too,maybe he did'nt have much affection growing up but he can change and no hell no I don't think you can ever love someone to much you just have a good heart and thats cool. I hope that makes sence.
2006-09-21 14:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by debam bam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can love someone too much. you can love them more than you even love yourself. been there, done that. it hurt so much in the end. i had to learn later never to lose myself totally in the other person ever again. you just can't function normally when you put your love partner on that pedestal. it puts so much pressure on that person and they can feel like you love them so much and never find any faults of theirs that if they do one day fall and make any kind of bad decision, then it would totally blow up your perfect little world. my guy told me i should not idolize him like i was doing. he was pressured into STAYING ON TOP cuz i thought he could never do any wrong. he said he loved the flattery, but he is only human, not perfect. he said it was not healthy to love him as much i was loving him. too long a story to go into here, but to answer your question, yes, you can love him too much. i hope you don't lose yourself like i had done all those years ago. i hope this helps you out.
2006-09-21 14:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by lrfoster7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they know they have u then they don't want u.
That's how alot of men and women are.
Step back from him a little. Don't call him all the time.
Get busy doing something else. Don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call.
In other words, get a life and then he will want to be apart of yours.
2006-09-21 14:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by TrueBelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i used to love a guy who mentally tortured me. I found myself consolling him each time he was down but when i was down, he'd use his abusive tactics and hurt me terribly.please, u're the only best guide to evaluate and see if this r/ship is really working or if u're just in a r/ship to feel up the gap of loneliness.dont get yourself in pain later on and suffer like others who never paid caution from the onset of their relationship and ended up getting hurt, scarred and in pain, including myself as well.think wisely, u'll get the answer if your eenergy laid for this love is really worthit or not.you are your best guide.cheerz!
2006-09-21 14:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anisha81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Not really loving too much but making yourself tyoo available. Get used to it or bail.
2006-09-21 14:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by CallMeDigitalBob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is because he knows you love him a lot and he thinks that because you love him so much that he doesn't have to show love because you won't notice. i don't think you can love someone too much but you can obsess over them and that is never good.
2006-09-21 14:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋