I've just come back from a night out...our group was about 30 people, about half and half - men and women. There were 2 men who were obviously out for getting laid. They tried it on with everygirl, very forwardly, and when i moved, he threatened to hit me, he did the same to almost every girl. The lads with us told him to go, and in the end they got kicked out. They would obviously take advantage of any situation, and I honestly think they could rape someone. Why do people like this exist? It's disgusting!
2006-09-21 14:04:15 · 32 answers · asked by northukstudent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He also grabbed my arm very forcefully, and clicked at my face, and pointed at his genitals...he was so sick. It got me pretty upset.
2006-09-21 14:12:09 · update #1
Just be glad you were with someone who "had your back"-- guys like that unfortunately do exist. That's why it is best to go clubbing or bar-hopping in a GROUP!! Safety in numbers, kiddo.
2006-09-21 14:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is quite scary. People like this are quite simply bullies. They like the feeling that if they tell you to do something, then you'll jump and do it because they're boss. It's sad, it's quite unbelievable in this day and age but at least cheer yourself up with the knowledge that people like this never find what makes them happy because there is no one out there in their right mind that would be prepared to love them and want to make them happy.
They will never experience a loving relationship where there is give and take, consideration and complete adoration because they don't know how to give in the first place. We on the other hand, will find this sort of relationship, and will no doubt enjoy life. These people are not happy and even though this sort of harassment and bullying is mildly entertaining to them now, it won't always hold the same sort of kick that they need. They will be the lonely bachelors of this world that will grow old with no friends, their families will have disowned them and that is their comeuppance!
Deep down they know this...
2006-09-21 21:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what hun - you shouldnt even waste anymore time thinking about these guys - you got away unhurt and thats all that matters.
I agree with you about these men taking liberties and treating women like articles instead of humans. Ive been subjected to many nights like yours, where when you reject a man they turn nasty - I usually just turn my back and ignore them and if they persist - get a bouncer to throw them out.
It does often upset and ruin your night out, but theres not really anything we can do to change these people.
No one should touch another person in the manner these men did to you - but sometimes you have no way of preventing it.
These men are totally capable of rape you're right, but unfortunately society cannot put a stop to their behaviour.
All I can recommend to you in the future is to stay safe - if you DO encounter these type men again, be sure you get escorted home safely by your mates .
2006-09-21 22:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men think that because the want to get laid that every women they hit own want they also and they can no deal when women say NO . he need to go and the group should not hang out with him any more he is dangerous. some people just wants to ruin everyone elses good time. iam so glad that u r safe. take safe and take care
2006-09-21 14:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by lady-t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously they think they are sooooo cooooool!!!!!
My girlfriends and I would go out....and when a geek or old geezer would ask us to dance or whatever...we would pass around a class ring or engagement looking ring.....so we could say "no thanks, I am taken" Men like that are also showing out in front of the other men... who will get the girl??? I guess they get bonus points or something...what I think is sick is that they never tell on each other....even if they are all married.....they can keep "the secret." Disgusting....right. Warn your daughters and sisters and mothers!!! Age is no discriminate.
2006-09-21 14:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Such people are born with mental deficiency. Neglected in their upbringing, got into the wrong company (friends), exposed to undesirable values and etc are contributing factors that turn them into beasts. Although they form a low percentage, we are bound to come across them. You may have not encounter women of this kind but they also exist among us.
2006-09-21 15:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that need a good beat down to the face, I'm sorry you had to go through that :/ A lot of men refuse to respect women.
2006-09-21 15:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible. The best advice I can give you about that is to stay away from people like that. It is disgusting, but you can't really change them, so just avoid them. If you are in a situation where you can't get away and they start saying stuff to you, just tell them how uncomfortable you feel.
2006-09-21 14:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad matter of too young and too much alcohol. I have to deal with these people every night in my job as a security officer and they cannot take their drink and spoil the night for all they are with. Sometimes i feel like giving them a smacking but i would lose my job.
2006-09-21 14:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They may have been raped themselves and it's the only way they know. All that super aggression as well as poor self image or even a violent past will make some men act like fools. They should have been reported and kicked out earlier.
2006-09-21 14:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by meillee44 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋