My husband is buying me a mother's ring for my birthday, this particular ring that I want does not include the children's birthstones only names. Is it proper etiquette to add or not to add my stepchildren's names? I don't know if it's overstepping my role and/or could hurt my own children in any way? Please help!
2006-09-21 13:53:00 · 8 answers · asked by Vi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is up to you. What type of relationship do you have with these kids? Have you and your husband thought about you adopting them, legally or spiritually? Are you the only mother influence these kids have? What will their real mother say about it? There are a lot of things to consider.
I don't know what I would do in this instance, but at this point in time, I wouldn't do it. I would just have my child's name on the ring, not my step children.
I know, though, that if another woman engraved my son's name on her ring like that I wouldn't be too happy with it.
2006-09-21 14:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its all about the love in the household.. its not about being a stepmother. Its about the unconditional love>>> What role are you playing.. that is a no brainier!
I thought when you take a role as a mother, you can mother anyone kids that's urs, not yours, friends next door, an open heart shares love unconditionally
2006-09-21 21:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by M M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not initials? Let me tell you as one of the "outsiders" in the family..being a stepchild and excluded really does hurt. I get less gifts at xmas so I don't go anymore. Not that I'm greedy and want more gifts its just embarassing to have like 2-3 gifts and compare it to my cousin who have like 10-15. This is my stepdads family---I pretty much ignore them now because of their obvious favorism and how they exclude people who are not "blood"..like i want to be a part of their bigot family.
All I'm saying is think about it, if your close to them, it would really hurt them if they see it. If you really feel like not adding them--just make damn sure that they don't know about it. Some adults are not careful about children's feelings. It does hurt.
2006-09-21 21:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by dorko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to have all your children engraved into the ring. You are stepping into this roll. It would look really bad if your husband is buying you this ring and you exclude his children.
2006-09-21 20:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should enter all the kids names. If there is no room for all of them, then don't do any.
2006-09-21 20:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by msjuliet2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No names is best.
2006-09-22 03:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO!NO!NO!NO!
i believe in treating them with love ,however, they are not your children.and should not be treated equal to your own in some cases.
2006-09-21 20:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by choctaw2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just put the name of your favorite child......
ok, then put them all.
2006-09-21 21:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋