Ok so in the summer I was sort of seeing this girl we would hang out all the time and stuff. We met threw a friend of ours. We would all hang out a lot in the summer. I began to haev feelings for her and she said was still in love with hre boyfriend and wanted to juts be sex buddies. In the long run she felt that I wouldnt be able to be just sex buddies and we never ended up having sex. I told her that I had feelings for her and that I am looking for a girlfriend and if she wasnt ready for a relationship I had to move on and get her out of my life. She still calls me from time to time and still talks to me at the bar when I completely ignore her. She doesnt get the clue that I dont want to be around her? What should I do try and reunite with this girl somehow and if i do I am looking for a relationship or should I just leave her alone and look for a new person even though I still have strong feelings for this girl and even 2 months later still think about hre evreyday.
2006-09-21 13:21:32 · 11 answers · asked by canuck131986 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my bad she still loves her EX boyfriend
2006-09-21 13:32:02 · update #1
I pursued a girl like this for almost two years. My advice: Unless you are strong enough to handle the relationship, look for something else and tell her firmly but politely that you are no longer interested in seeing or speaking to her. Some girls just love the head trips.
2006-09-21 13:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you told her what you wanted.
she told you what she wanted.
they weren't the same thing. time to move on. you can't change her or her mind.
but that doesn't mean that you have to be enemies either. just because she won't be your girlfriend is no reason to treat her badly. if it hurts too much to be around her, then tell her that and ask her to respect your wishes.
if she can't do that then you may have to find a new bar and/or change your phone number.
but don't lower yourself to 2nd grade status by treating her like crap everytime you see her. that screams sore looser all over the place.
ask yourself: do i only feel like getting into a committed relationship w/ this girl, or are there other ladies in the vicinity that are just as interesting to me, that i would settle down with/for? if you answered the second part yes, then go for it and get you some nice hottie~get HER out from under your skin.
2006-09-21 21:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by breezy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With this type of girl ...She is just playing games with you. She had no intentions of leaving her guy and she told you that you would be sex buddies but had no sex. She is pulling your string and even at that now she is pursuing you because you wanted to move on and then she starts chasing you. and now she keeps hounding you plus she still has feelings for her ex.?!
This girl has issues many of them. Plus the fact she has no self respect when she is chasing you for a fling and her heart is somewhere else.
Yes you will think of her for sometime ppl who come into our lives always leave an impression on us but this one you definately need to let go it sounds like alot of headgames and thats just stress you do not need. I am sure you will find someone who will be on the straight and narrow with you of course someone better than this person.
2006-09-21 20:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it..but being a woman I recognize it: She is using you. She is one of those girls that every time she is lonely or needs a "friend" she will call you...but otherwise she does her own thing.
I hate to tell you this but you are a backup to her--if her first option falls through--oops there you are!!
I say move on...and fast. She will use you (unfortunately some women do that)
2006-09-21 20:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by vdubbchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already know. LEAVE HER ALONE! if missy loved her boyfriend sooo much she would'nt hang out with other guys in bars. i think she get's her kicks playing with guy's feelings. you sound sincere,find another girl there are too many out there for you to pine over this one. and i am sure an available girl will appreciate you.
2006-09-21 20:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by choctaw2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her talk to her. Ask her why she is talking to you when you specifically asked her not to unless she wanted to be with you. Ask her if she is now single and wanting to try. If she still says no then tell her to lose your number and forget your name. You deserve better
2006-09-21 20:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's still with her boyfriend, and you've already explained yourself to her, she's not right to continue leading you on. That's what it seems to be with her. That's not fair to you.
For your sake, do your best to stay away from her. If she's not with her boyfriend anymore, maybe things have changed.
2006-09-21 20:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life goes on.
Why don't you do something else, to keep your attention off the situation, like learn English. (You met THROUGH a friend of yours, not threw.)
2006-09-21 20:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by None 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just treat her as a normal friend when she call or just ignore her call completely. just move on and get one girl who really care on you rather than ended out with pain.
2006-09-21 20:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by fong p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss another girl infront of her
2006-09-21 20:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋