On Friday right before my 30th birthday I got a letter in the mail from J. Smith? Anyway the letter starts out, your husband is cheating on you. It goes on like this and names a woman in my husbands office and other key details such as he is planning on doing it when I am out of town and he has told everyone he is leaving me etc. My husband straight out denys it, we have been married almost 5 years and he has never lied to me that I know of. I can't leave him based on a letter and he is my husband but I don't know why someone would write such a thing?
2006-09-21 13:19:33 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a girl in his office with this name and I did trust his before this letter.
2006-09-21 13:28:19 · update #1
J. Smith is a made up name.....
2006-09-21 13:47:17 · update #2
Some females are trifling but then again so are some men, so you can never really trust anybody. But, you can always change the dates that you are supposed to leave town(but don't let him know)and see if you can catch him in the act.(trust me this works).I've been there before.
2006-09-21 13:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok there are several ways to look at this one. For one the person that sent you the letter could be trying to start some trouble for you and your husband on the other hand this person could be right. It would be easy to see how this could make you distrust your husband. Just because he says he is not cheating have you ever watched the cheaters show? Smile at you one minute be in bed with someone else. What i would do in this situation is before you go out of town get people to check around. I know sounds petty but hey you want to know the truth right? If the letter named a woman then its the start of where to look. Its too bad you couldnt bug the office then you would know for sure. Also well too you can put things in the house to record for surveillance i would put something in the bedroom to where its not seen be in a local motel listen in and see what happens. I know devious but how else will you find out for sure? Obvious its starting to bug you. AT least thats what i would do because after all i would want to know. Also you can look for other signs, the smell of perfume that is not yours, things in the bedroom that you know are not yours. Checking pants, shirts things like that. I once had a boyfriend i thought i could trust i found out he was cheating i checked his messages thats all i needed i dumped him. So good luck
2006-09-21 22:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by firey_spirit_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never believe anything that has no solid proof behind any issues specially if it concern your family. You don't know the motive of those people sending wrong messages to you about your husband. Give him the benefit of the doubt that Mr. Smith might be wrong. If you want to figure it out whether this is true or not, be a nosey. Keep a close watch over your husband's business.
2006-09-21 20:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have mention the letter to your husband. You should of taken it upon yourself to do an investigation. If your husband was cheating on you now he is going to be very careful with was he does and says because he knows you know something. That is why you shouldn't have said anything. You can't put anything past anyone.
2006-09-21 20:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience, i would say don't ask him look into it yourself call friends, call co workers, look at his yahoo messenger, than when u find some more confront him, after u have found something he has to fess up, if he is doing something.men think there sly, but lies leave muddy foot prints.
I really hope he isn't cause i don't want u to go through what i did.
but good luck, and stay strong, you have a friend backing you up, if you need it.
2006-09-21 20:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. that's a wild one.
Did you trust him BEFORE the letter?
If you are still in doubt pull some phone records on his cell phone.
2006-09-21 20:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust your husband! have some self respect, though. is there a woman in his office by that name? have any of his friends heard him talking about leaving you? judge by facts and feelings- not a dumb, mabye fake letter.
2006-09-21 20:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Gabriella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact this J. Smith ad ask her directly. Or hire a private investigator to watch him. You deserve to know.
2006-09-21 20:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick up TOTO, click your red slippers together and head back to Kansas. Enjoy lala land.
2006-09-21 20:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by puresatin03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to play detective send me an email and I will tell you exactly what to do that will let you know the truth for yourself.
2006-09-21 20:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by nature4me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋