The teacher called me at work to say my daughter was upset b/c she recieved a bad mark for playing in the bathroom. Later that evening my parents had picked her up and she kept crying saying it wasnt her fault so when I picked her up after work they told me she had been like this all afternoon, so I asked her why she was playing in the bathroom and she started crying, eventually she said "she kissed Me", I asked who and she started crying heavily again so finally she told me who and I asked where did she kiss you,(I HAVE CHILLS TYPING THIS)she said "where I tee-tee"
I got home, hubby took her inside while I called the teacher on my cell phone in the car, she said Oh, the aide did say she found them in the stall together not fully dressed.What, and she didnt think that was important enough to tell me earlier...........The following day the teacher and principal took her in the office and questioned her til she cried.........My daughter has had many problems including going to the br.
2006-09-21 13:11:52 · 20 answers · asked by Melissa in LA 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
D*** Right you should sue the school!!!!!!!
2006-09-21 13:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Puntang daddy!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the other girl.
If they are both kids then that is problematic.
It is an odd circumstance.
The alternative is that the teacher accompanies children to the washroom.. get real.
If it was legitimate molestation then that is another issue. However if they are both kids, they are both sorta exempt.
What I am perhaps wondering about is the other childs upbringing.
In this instance I dont find fault with the school. I do wonder where the other kids learned about cun though.
If you see two kids doing "sexual" acts with one another as wrong I wouldn't go aroud spreading the idea as it won't do any good.
Although sex ed in some areas is into elementary school. I first remember sex ed in grade 6.
I was learning about family life in grade 5. Can remember much before that except math geography and language and science.
I would talk with the other kids parents. The age of the other kid does matter if it is over 12 then I may be concerned if it is over 14 I would definately be concerned.
I think it may be important that the behaviour does not continue. But defnately the kid shouldn't be getting a bad grade because of it. That is an issue.
Oh if you have more kids remember to tell them, don't let other people play in the bathroom stall with you even if they are your freinds.
If you are christian you can add a line like "if you do you'll go to hell.
It is unfortunate but I'd keep a low profile on this and talk to the other parents immediately.
There is the chance that she could have been programmed to lie. It mat not be the other kid... it may not have even happened.
2006-09-21 13:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by intracircumcordei 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have a suit!
Some you may need to get to work on, Keep track of everything, but do not interrogate her! You need to call Child Protective Services and the police! Failing to report is a crime! If anyone is charged, that will help you! Who knows how many kids this other one has assaulted, or even if that kid was assaulted by an adult. These things just don't happen!!
Failure to report is a misdemeanor and has a 1 year statute of limitations!
She needs to see a therapist, and get one who is familiar with child sexual abuse as most are not!
Do not have any contact (extraordinary) with the school! Let you lawyer do that! They are now trying to cover their butt and cover their tracks!
This other kid needs to be interviewed, and not by the parents or the school, who I am sure have already contacted them!
2006-09-21 13:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why??? The teacher didn't do it, did she? NO. Go after the other girl's parents, if you feel the need. But kids do experiment, and a 4 years old, the other girl would CLEARLY not be capable of sexual maliciousness. This amounts to bullying, at worst. Sorry, but the adults here are making a lot out of this, and your daughter is not afraid of the other girl, as much as she is afraid of what you are afraid of and THAT she doesn't understand. Your behaviour in this whole affair is what's scaring her more than what that other girl did to her.
Yeah, her body's been violated. BY ANOTHER FOUR_YEAR_OLD!!! Again, talk to the other girl's parents. Leave the school out of it.
2006-09-21 13:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest this: Suing the school won't really do more than punish the entire community. Go. Meet with the principle and counselors of the school, and tell them everything. This can be resolved in a very expedient, mature, and responsible manner, and the community can keep the school, as well as its money. If that course of action does not work, go to the next highest level. If there is none, impress upon the principle that it will become a legal matter.
2006-09-21 13:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by sjsosullivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THe other girl who did this to her might be being sexually molested by a family member.
I would make an investigation into the girl who did this and what kind of home life she has.
children who act out like this are typically acting out what they are learning sexually somewhere else.
There is no such thing as a perverted child, children aren't born like that, not when they are that young, only act out what they are taught.
I don't know if you should sue the school, but there should definately be an investigation and maybe some threats, the school needs to be more tenacious about things like this.
2006-09-21 13:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Melissa, I think it depends on what the school does to rectify the situation. Further, I would target the abuser and the family of the abuser. As long as the school itself does not condone such behavior, and agrees to provide counseling to your daughter, I would not sue. Rather than helping other children who encounter difficult circumstances, the school's resources would likely be strapped by a settlement. Further, your daughter would be forced to relive the horrific event in public. I don't know if you really would want to subject her to something like that.
I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to your daughter.
2006-09-21 13:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by future mrs kitkat7149 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"the faculty over reacted. i'm no longer protecting my son yet i'm no longer persecuting him the two. He grew to become into under pressure out from a homework task and the female in simple terms crossed the line in making a propose remark approximately him. She began the combat along with her vocal attack and my son lost his temper and punched her." Um, yeah, you're making excuses. "It wasnt my babbys faul. he grew to become into having a nasty day and she or he aggravated him." greater excuses if your son is that lots of a behavioral subject, that 2 entire college districts won't take him, and now he placed some female in a coma, perhaps he ought to be locked away. someplace he won't have the means to harm others. for sure, you're no longer getting him the help he desires, and making excuses won't keep him out of penitentiary (that's the place he's headed, if he's fortunate- in any different case, he's headed for the grave). the place did your pal get her regulation degree? Did she point out that the sufferer's mothers and fathers can sue you for permitting a monster to run wild.
2016-10-15 06:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by leong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully, you pulled your daughter out of that school! if not, do it PRONTO. there is a chance that the two were just "exploring" but i don't think so. call children services and file a formal complaint against the school. do not deal with the school again because they will probably twist everything around into their favor. like the others who commented before me, get a good lawyer. make sure whoever you choose has experience in this matter. good luck.
2006-09-21 13:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by purple_euphoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a disgrace a little child can't be safe at school. I sure would not let this go by.
Get a lawyer, fast!
Get in touch with your pediatrician, he or she can advise you on which steps to take to help your little girl. She probably needs an examination by your doctor and or therapy.
2006-09-21 13:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police NOW and make a formal complaint. They will send out someone who deals with children.
THEN get a solid, hard-nosed attorney. You will need one because you will need to sue the school. This won't even cover the cost of therapy for your child....but it will help....
There will be a long list of people who will try to discourage or even stop you...for the sake of your child...FIGHT THEM ALL!
She will remember that you and her father were her champions for the rest of her life....it matters.
2006-09-21 13:16:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋