Recently discovered my wife has been having an affair with a work colleuge. We have since split-up. How can I get my own back, any suggestions? Murder is NOT an option. (Although contimplated)
2006-09-21 13:09:07 · 55 answers · asked by Bont11 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When someone has done something that it totally wrong; they are EXPECTING a big reaction. The worse kind of revenge is actually when you DO NOTHING AT ALL............leaves them stuck with it; forever..
Being ignored totally is the worse kind of punishment ever. I know you will be torn with feelings to DO SOMETHING but don't give in to it; move on with the speed of light; that will stick it to her more than any other single thing.
Good luck with the REST OF YOUR LIFE.....!
2006-09-21 13:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's horrible isn't it. My husband had an affair with a teenager recently. We are still together at the moment but that could change. I have tried to think of all the usual revenge tactics but I figure that at the end of the day I am a better person than he is, and I have had to rise above it and keep my head held high. He's the one who will look like a fool, not me. Hard as it is, the desire for revenge will fade the longer you hold out, you will ultimately feel much better in the days to come if you simply let her go.
2006-09-21 21:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing i know how much that hurts ive been there. To be honest the best revenge is moving on and showing her you dont give a ****!! When my ex dumped me for someone else he expected me to be this broken creature begging for forgiveness and i wish you couldve seen his face when he saw me out having a laugh with my mates and then with another bloke (inside i was dying but i wasnt going to let him see that) I overheard him saying to his new girlfriend 'she didnt take long to get over me did she' he was gutted, it made me feel great. I am pleased now that i didnt do anything to show how devastated i was and feel like by being gratious i put across the message that i dont need him. If i had reacted and sought revenge then it would have just shown him i still loved him.
I am well and truly over it now and very happy, i am sure you will be too without the cheating tramp. Best wishes x
2006-09-22 01:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a womans point of view, the best thing you can do, is to be as nice as nine pence!
It will bug her so much! She will be expecting some sort of pay back in another form, but if you are just cool, calm and collected when you see her, she will MORE sorry for what she has done and wonder why the hell she did it.
Keep the anger and rage inside, it will disipate with time. Move on and get someone nice in your life who will not treat you like that again. No-one deserves to be cheated on, especially when you are married.
2006-09-21 23:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok I understand what your feeling I have been there. Revenge is not the answer mate it will only dig at you deeper and deeper. You have now got a great way of improving you life cause she was not the right one for you and if she wants to cheat on you then she's not worth it. I know you arn't gonna take this in but when your with the real one you love just think back and see how much more happier you are.
All the best mate.
2006-09-21 13:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are right murder is not an option and shouldn't even be contemplated. Try getting everything you can out of the divorce for starters. Find someone else to go out with, let her see you in public together and see how happy you are. Treat this other girl better than you did her. That should really piss her off. Is any of her stuff at the house? If so, give it to someone else. Have fun!
2006-09-21 13:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont go down that road hun - you're only lowering yourself to her standards.
The best way you can get revenge is by living your life to the fullest and being happy - shes prob expecting to see you moping around the place in a constant state of depression so it will really get up her nose to see that you dont care (even if you do) about the fact that shes gone.
Try dating for yourself - be seen out with a new woman. That will hurt her more than anything!
Good luck with things!
2006-09-21 22:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non-violent revenge? Isn't that an oxymoron? Let it go and move on in your own life. Time spent contemplating revenge could be better spent building a wonderful future for yourself. It was a hard knock, but after you release the negative energy, you will enjoy life and you will attract good things to you. And as far as what the universe has in store for her. My Aunt Clara used to say it best "Every dog has his day!" Let it go, dude.
2006-09-21 13:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bont 11. check out my question on Revenge, there's some funny answers in there, also check out what I did to someone.
It's not violent, I agree violence is not the option, you just want to do something that makes you feel better, and something you can laugh about later.... you gat any pic of her in compromising positions???? Flog them on ebay, that way you also get money for your troubles....
2006-09-21 21:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it behind you and move on.
She is not worth wasting your time even thinking about her. She probably thinks you will be devastated. Show them all that you are better off without her. She will pay for her cheating....what goes around comes around. Don't jump into a new relationship too soon but go out and enjoy your life. She didn't deserve you. Good luck. Be happy.x
2006-09-21 13:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Learner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋