My boyfriend of 2 years.. everytime I call him up we'll talk for a few min. then he'll have to go do something like pay bills or go do something for his mom. he tells me to call him back but when I do he never answers it. the last time I talked to him today was 3pm it is now 8pm and I havent' heard anything from him.. I know he's not cheating.. I trust him, but why do guys tell you to call them back but they don't answer there phones.. if we did that they would have a fit and say we were messing around on them..
2006-09-21 13:00:37 · 22 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He got that new xbox360 and thats all he does.. everytime i ask him why he hasn't answerd his phone he'll say he was playin his new xbox..
2006-09-21 13:04:39 · update #1
Don't answer your phone that'll get him my man does it all the time too I just let him go and tell him to call back and when he does I dump him straight into voicemail you'll love the way you feel all impowered and quit calling him just for a day or two he'll be chasing his tail in no time.
2006-09-21 13:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be calling him. You need to buy and read a book called The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. You can get it at any bookstore or at Barnes and Noble online. You can even google it and find their website.
Don't call a man, and rarely return his calls!!!!! Quit breaking the rules. Dating is a game, like football. If you keep giving the other team the ball without making them work for a touchdown, you would RUIN THE GAME. I know you like to think of a BF as a team, but until you are married, he's the adversary-and sometimes even after you are married you still have to play games. All games have rules. If you break them, you get penalties. That's what you are getting. The penalty of chasing him is him ignoring you.
Doesn't mean you can never show him you like him, just remember it's a game. Be fun-loving and PLAY the game. You will find him much more interested in you if you follow the rules.
2006-09-21 20:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Instant Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space. He just wants to have his own time, and play the game, etc. It might be that if this is the case, he should not have a girlfriend, because he is too inconsiderate of you right now. When a guy acts like this, it means he is not that interested any more and wants his free time instead of you. Just let him be, and let him call you when he is not doing the things he either has to do or wants to do. But in the mean time, look around and find someone else.
2006-09-21 20:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your boyfriend is faithful and trustworthy. Is he kind? Is he understanding? Is he strong and dependable, the kind of man you can see yourself really devoting some time to?
If your answers are "yes," then what's the big deal about him not wanting to, or maybe even being able to carry on long telephone conversations?
Consider this! When you call him, how much do you listen, and encourage him to discuss his interests, or do you dominate the conversation, enticing, even forcing him to talk about what you want to talk about?
Finally, if you love him; he loves you, and all of issues are kosher, so what if he doesn't like to talk long on the telephone? I know hundreds of women in violent and abusive circumstances who would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
Pun intended.
Have a nice day.
2006-09-21 23:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by mcjordansr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he just can't be bothered and that he only wants you there when it suits him. Don't call him back, in fact don't call him for a day or 2 and then see how his attitude is. If he says why didn't you call? you can say to him what is the point you never answer so I'm not wasting my money. Let him do all the chasing and calling and see how he likes it!
Good luck!
2006-09-21 20:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by cyanwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on trusting him and he'll keep on fooling around on you. He knows you'll believe him because you "love and trust him", don't you think he knows that? Why do you suppose he's doing it? he doesn't care if you call him or not, he has something much more important to do than talk to you. Why can't you see that? Oh, I know, you want to. stay with him and lose your dignity and respect. I'm sorry this is happening to you. What would happen if he called you and you didn't answer his calls? I bet he would be royally pissed. What's fair is fair,
2006-09-21 20:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't like talking on the phone, but if he is not answering the phone calls he is either cheating or being totally inconsiderate!
2006-09-21 20:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by soulmatedp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys are that way, if I tell a girl to call me if I can then I for sure will answer the phone but maybe there is a reason for him not answering the phone like hes busy with something to do with school or work or something else. if it bothers you and he does it constantly tell him that it does and ask him to answer his phone when he asks you to call him back if he can.
2006-09-21 20:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Derrick H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't really like talking on the phone.
It's better if you see him in person to talk and hang out.
Unless this just started recently, than I would not think it's ok
he might not want to be with you any more or is fooling around with some other girl.
2006-09-21 20:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question is what do you like? Decide and tell him, if he doesn't oblige then he's not for you.
If you want a good relationship, skip the part where you spend all your time trying to figure out what he's doing and why he's doing it and think about who YOU are.
When you refocus your brain EVERYTHING will fall into place.
2006-09-21 20:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋