I am engaged (we have been together for over a year) and I purchased a box of condoms for me and my man to use together. I purchased the box two weeks ago. One week ago there were two condoms missing from the box (he obviously did not use them on me)---I flipped out on him---and today, when I went over to his house there were 3 more condoms missing.
When I found the condoms missing I did not act as if I found them...I acted as if everything was ok...and then broke down later on...
Last week he told me that his brother (who doesnt live with him) took the condoms.
I dont know what to do in this situation...I dont know if I should say anything at all or just let it go...we have been having sex all of the time...nothing has changed on that level.
Should I ask him about the condoms I paid for that have obvoiusly not been used on me?
I am hurt and confused. Please help...
2006-09-21 12:53:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, this may sound gross, but he may have just used them to masterbate, because he didn't want it all messy . . .he's not stupid and he knows your not. If he was cheating he wouldn't use the ones you got if he knows that you're going to be grabbing them and counting.
men masterbate, it's what they do. If you were a guy wouldn't it be easier to say that someone took them, instead of admitting to your lady that you used them to masterbate with. You guys haven't been together that long, so talk to him. Sorry but a little over a year isn't long at all, well, it seems long if your young.
2006-09-21 12:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Whatever, the truth is people dont borrow condoms anymore. Who the hell would ride over to someone else's house to get a condom. Is the girl waiting for him while he runs down the street to ge a condom. Get real. My advice to you, would be to take this information and think about what you really feel. He could have had sex with someone, and I am most certaintly it was just physical. However, i would suspect this early on in a relationship not while you are about to get married. Take a long engagement. Think about it, dont ruin your life over someone who cant keep his head straight. In the long run, you will lose some weight over the break up if you so choose to leave him, and you will look fabulous, and he will feel like a jerk for stepping out on you. Be strong.
2006-09-21 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he gave some out to his brother or other people to use. People do that from time to time to help someone out. It is something that is really bothering you so you need to talk to him about. Let him know you want to know the truth about where the condoms went, if he is cheating or whats going on. Then if he still says that he is not cheating and his brother used them. Then you have to let it go and trust your man and have faith in him. Other wise if you cant you need to end the relationship cause a relationship with out trust is not going to work.
Good Luck!
2006-09-21 12:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this very problem with my man a few years ago I didn't know what to do either I ended up breaking down talking to him and deciding that I had to believe him because if I honestly wanted to leave him over this I would have and not been broken up so why put myself through any more. But you better believe I watched his *** like a hawk for a long time one more slip and bye
2006-09-21 12:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again another story of a guy f*cking off on his g/f and denying it and you want to believe him. Ask your self, why would his brother take his condoms? Do you really believe that he 's not fooling around on you?
Look, yes, you probably think you love him, does he love you? if he does why is he f*cking off on you. He is not respecting you much less loving you. I'm sorry, but there are a lot of lying sob's out there. leave him and find a guy that will love and respect you and only you. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 13:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i be responsive to what your thinking. you purely see her on the weekends, you have an theory what is going on in the process the week yet your undecided precisely. Your on the factor the place you incredibly like this female so which you do no longer choose something to pass incorrect. Now you observed one extra condom lacking. Your no longer accusing her of dishonest yet your strategies is making you think of approximately it. From what your asserting i think of she desires to be with you and is no longer dishonest. There may well be many motives a condom is lacking yet i'd be purely as curious as you're. i think of straight away asking her with reference to the condom isn't a sturdy theory. She would think of you're accusing her of dishonest. i'd attempt to get an answer from a distinctive attitude. perchance take the field of condoms out while finding for a shirt and drop the entire field on the floor. placed some decrease back in and then finding around and initiate finding for the lacking one. If she asks what your doing tell her you think of you neglected one on the floor. count selection the field and examine out the floor. initiate finding for the condom that would not exist and examine her physique language. She would be responsive to what your as much as or she won't. it incredibly is purely an occasion.....you do no longer could do it. All i'm asserting is probably think of of yet differently to attitude it without asking her direct. different answer...purely permit it pass yet shop your eyes open for a on an identical time as. paintings on development your dating and make it extra advantageous. additionally undergo in strategies, if she grew to become into dishonest on you, i do no longer think of she would use the condoms from the field and pass away the field around for you in looking it. She for sure would not think of she has something to conceal. it incredibly is the reason you got here across the field finding for a shirt............in spite of the indisputable fact that i think of you have been snooping a splash yet won't admit it to us :)
2016-10-01 05:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your boyfriend's brother if he really did use them, without your boyfriend knowing of course. After he answers you tell him why you asking and express your concerns. Once you find out the truth, depending on what it is, then I would confront your boyfriend with it. I don't blame you for being hurt at all. But do some investigating before you confront him. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 13:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you must talk with him, and do not make your self look like a jealous woman or paranoid.
If your relation with him is open then do it.
But if the continuity of the intercourse is as usuall, then i really think that can be his brother.
Other thing is a bit of investigation.... ask to his brother with who is dating and then probably you can ask to the woman.... well probably that sound a bit low... but give you the chance to sort out all and dont start a fight or something like lack of trust in your relation.
2006-09-21 13:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sortilegio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to his brother and ask him to repay you for the three missing condoms. Tell him he should buy his own. Go to your boyfriends house and take all your condoms with you, because they are yours. If your boyfriend asks you why you are taking them with you, just tell him you will carry a couple in your purse, if you should need them. I am glad you are protecting yourself.
PS: Does your boyfriend display them at his house? Apparently his brother knows how to get them.
2006-09-21 13:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone with the masturbating theory. He's probably just embarrassed to tell you. As a newlywed may i offer a suggestion if you guys do decide to marry go to premarital counseling together (it will teac you to communicate). Also buy this book you can find it at christian book stores (my husband and i are both agnostic so its not too preachy) "7 questions to ask yourself before (and after) you marry" We found it to be really helpful it helped us to get things off our chest that were bothering us in a non confrontational way. If you need anything email me.
2006-09-21 14:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by ::Mama to be:: 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't mean he's cheating on you, if that's what you're implying. Maybe he masturbated and used the condoms so he wouldn't shoot his load all over the place (apologies to anyone offended). Not defending him, but perhaps that's it and he's embarrassed to tell you that.
I don't think you two should be engaged at all if you don't trust each other and are not honest.
2006-09-21 12:59:11 · answer #11 · answered by Ed A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋