what should i do??

Question

i have a friend here who i wanna help. seriously it not me.. shes 15 and shes pregnant and her boyfriend raymond (hes 16) beats her alot..i tell her to leave but she wont listen to me shes about 4-5 months pregnant and im scared she might lose her baby. all our friends tll her to leave him and she completely ignores us and she lets him beat her. well even tell her to call the cops and she refuses to. so how can i get it through her head to leave him.?? im tired of him doing that to her.

Answer 1

Does her parents know that she is pregnant? Maybe you should tell them about what is going on. She might get mad at you at first but later on she will get over it, and thank you for doing it. Good Luck

Answer 2

Is she still enrolled in school? Talk to the school counselor and see if you can get them involved. Call a domestic violence center and see if they have any ways to help. Where are her parents? Do they know whats going on? Maybe you should tell them. She will probably be mad at you at first but her safety and that of her baby are far more important. I am glad she has a friend like you. For your own safety stay away from the situation physically. You don't want him getting a hold of you out of anger. Be careful and safe and get some advice from your parents or domestic violence or a counselor. Good Luck to you and your friend.

Answer 3

About the only thing that you can do for her.is to go over there when she says that he has beat her.. if she has cuts and bruises call 911 yourself and tell them that the boyfriend has beat her up and she looks bad to you that they need to come check her out.. tell them that she is pregant and that you are afraid he is going to kill the baby .. with his abuse.. they will do something atleast take her to the hospital to get pictures taken so that she can prove the abuse..
that is all i can think of but if she refuses help from the rescue squad they can't take her anywhere.
so remember she will be piss and so will he..Oh she is a minor so call the cops anyway.. tell them she has a guy there that is abusing her all the time and tell them what is going on...Tell her parents. anyone but try to get her some help. social services. get everyone involved before it is to late. better her be mad at you than to end up dead

Answer 4

I would suggest that you encourage her to talk to her parents or a counselor at school. If she's afraid then maybe you can offer to talk to her parents for her. Heck, you could even go talk to a counselor at school. You shouldn't feel afraid or nervous about talking to a counselor, that's what they are there for. Either way this is a very serious situation and she needs help. Remember that if he tries to hit her when you or your friends are present you can call the police. Good Luck and hopefully you will get help from an adult soon!

Answer 5

I mean maybe she is scared of leaving him. Does she have some where to go if she does. I mean these things have to be in here mind.

What about her parents are they around to help her. Technically she is still a minor and they can make her come home.

What about your parents can you talk to them, maybe they can help?

Does she go to school? Tell the counciler.

She can go to a YWCA or a womens shelter. They will keep him from her.

It probably will take a lot of convincing her to go though. Just talk to her and listen...don't be judgemental.

Answer 6

tell someone that can do something about it like her parents or someone! if she gets mad at you oh well she will get over it eventually. she has to think about her baby before anyone else. if he is beaating her, then chances are that he will beat the baby to. do whatever it takes to get her out of there. if he is only 16 what is he going to be like when he is older? especally if he drinks. he might end up killing her or the baby. just tell her that if she cares anything about her baby then she will leave him. she is the one who is going to have to live with the pain if she looses her baby then it will be to late to so anything bout it. let her read this maybe it will get through to her.

Answer 7

Tell her parents, I know that you will be breaking that sacred trust but there are times when you just have to, If you don't think they would listen to you tell yours,I 'm sure coming from other adults they will take it seriously, Or have your parents talk to the police. Your friend may be to scared of her boy friend to do this her self.

Answer 8

You need to go over her head, IF SHE WON' T be responsible for that baby someone NEEDS to be, i lost my baby after he was born, that killed me...she has that chance she will think its ok then all of a sudden you find your angel and it's too late, TRUST ME she can't handle that, i'm 25 and it's still killing me, I also have had 2 misscariages... Not as bad as losing a baby that was born but still horrible. Her emotions are fragile, she thinks she cant do it alone.... But he NEEDS to stop hitting her, he will be responsible for a death if not...and if you tell the police before anything happens he will get convicted if anyhting happens...please for that baby tell someone that counts!!

Answer 9

She's 15, pregnant, and has an abusive boyfriend that you KNOW isn't going to stick around after the baby is born.

Sounds to me like you need to distance yourself from the whole situation.

Answer 10

Tell a counselor or police about the situation if she won't do it. She needs to get out of that situation now or she will have a mental scar. Then she might become abusive to her child. You need to get her help, not tell her to do it herself because she won't get help. She might not like it at first, but she'll thank you later.