Sometimes i feel like i'm 100% straight like with a burst of love towards guys and sometimes i get so confused whether i'm les or not. when i'm in my confused mode, i try to pretend i'm les and imagine what they think (as i do with guys) but i still feel a sort of strangeness. i'm 16
and when is confusion considered too long around this age? i've had this for 2 months
2006-09-21 12:19:36 · 8 answers · asked by courtesyOFme 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
step back and take a closer look, get out of this self centeredness, then you'll see things clearer
2006-09-21 12:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm almost 19 and have considered myself bisexual since I was 13, but I'm honestly still confused. I've been with two guys and one girl, so it's not because of a lack of experience. Which before I had been with both sexes I thought I would figure it out afterwards what I really was attracted to most, but that didn't happen once I had finally been with both.
Some days I feel almost completely straight, while other days I feel almost completely lesbian, and most of the time I'm somewhere in between. And I know mentally I'm much more attracted to males, but physically am attracted mostly to females (and feminine guys on occasion).
So I'd have to say it's quite possible your confusion will never go away based on my own experience. But as one of the people above said, it's the person and not the gender that someone is attracted to and I agree with that. That's the closest rationalization for the amount of confusion I constantly experience related to this issue.
2006-09-21 21:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by dc87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see it, we are attracted to people, NOT to gender. It's perfectly natural to question your sexuality and feel attracted to both sexes. In fact, many people identify themselves as gay and then later as straight during different periods of their life. I understand your confusion, but there's no need to worry.
You're still young yet and are still trying to figure out who you are, not just your sexuality. Just take it easy and don't worry about it so much. The fact that it's only been two months could just mean that you're going through a short phase and you could snap out of it soon. But, I would like to tell you not to pretend that you're gay. A very close friend of mine was seeing someone who she really really liked who later told my friend that she wasn't gay, she was just pretending because she thought being bi was cool. My friend was devasted. You could hurt people's feelings by pretending.
My love on your journey.
Namaste and Blessed Be.
2006-09-21 20:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 too, and I was confused for at least 7-8 months before coming to the conclusion that I'm bi. You'll figure it all out soon enough.
2006-09-21 19:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to experience sexual doubt at times. Your life would certainly be a whole lot less complicated if you were straight though. Give it time - don't sweat it - I think you'll find things will work themselves out.
2006-09-21 19:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Strangerbarry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the beginnings of an MPD (Multiple Personality Disorder). Seek professional help if needed.
2006-09-21 20:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont worry and dont try to analiz it give it time , what ever will be will be . enjoy it you have a whole life time ahead of u :) good luck
2006-09-21 21:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why you shouldn't let your "feelings" rule your life.
2006-09-21 19:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by more than a hat rack 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋