lat night my boyfriend for 9 months broke up with me he lives in bolingbrook and i live in chicago so u can call it a long distance relationship.. he usely messes around like breaking up but he says hes playing like 29 minutes after the fact and last night he said he didnt want a girl friend after we have been going out for 9 months and well today like at 3 pm he called and said can we be friends with priveliges i said i have to think about it... he knew i was crying like crazy today and well he finally said he was messing around and why did i take it so seriously what should i do LIKE IS HE USING ME OR DOES HE REALLY WANT ME BACK OR JUST SAYING HES PLAYING TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER
2006-09-21 12:11:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's playing mind games with you. You act like you don't have any self respect or esteem! He's seeing what he can do to you before you'll say NO MORE!!!! He's having fun controlling you and if you don't end this soon...it could wind up being a physically abusive relationship... Run!!!! Run NOW!!!!! Dump his A$$ and move on. Do it for your own GOOD!!!!!
2006-09-21 12:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend used to do that to her boyfriend when she was unsure if she wants to end the relationship.....after about the 3rd time she did that he got the message and broke up with her. Of course since i was her bestfriend she told me everything and i knew that she was doing that becuz she wanted to but, she liked haveing a boy friend i guess it was for bragging purposes.
So i really don't think he was kidding when he did that because y did it take him so long to call back.... he obviously changed his mind! well i hope you make the right decition
good luck!
2006-09-21 12:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding me girl. YOU need to dump his @$$! 9mo. to him is not important, he wanted you for fun, not for love. My sister had to go threw that. He just wants to be a player, you will end up with some STD if you keep on sleeping with him. The whole point of calling you back, is cause he knows you love him and he can play with your emotions to get what he wants. Trust me hunny it is not you, but what you have between your legs. You are young, you have more chances to find someone who will treat you right, and will truly love you. Not this ****** you think loves you. Do not go back in self delusion! If you need to talk, IM me or email.
2006-09-21 12:19:15 · answer #3 · answered by krys_tal_light 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really immature and thoughtless. He's probably just playing games to make sure you still like him, just to make himself feel secure about your relationship. If he does this all the time, it is a kind of emotional abuse and it seems to be making you miserable. Try being friends with NO privileges, except your company and stick to it. He's not going to stop acting like this, unless you stop reacting to it.
2006-09-21 12:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by beautypsychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amanda
please do us women a favor and dump this creep and tell him that you can't be his friends with benefits for he was the worst lover ever and you are so glad that him and his tiny tot in his pants are gone and now you can move on to a more wonderful life for he is no longer in it so get your heart girl for he treated you bad and you need to stand up for yourself and move on to someone better and remember what is his loss is your gain to someone better !! trust me !!
2006-09-21 12:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's been playing you for a while. He's just trying to make sure when you really do find out what a DOG he is, he can say " well i did tell you". Leave him girl!
2006-09-21 12:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tee Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you waste your time with someone who plays these kind of mind games? You deserve much better than that. Move on....and as for the friends with sex option tell him no way! Again why degrade yourself.
Best of luck
2006-09-21 12:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, you deserve better, if he only wants a friend with benefits - let him find it elsewhere if you have real feelings for him. If you DON'T have real feelings - then if you want it too, take it from him! But he is using you. Sorry.
2006-09-21 12:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anna F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL U CAN DO BETTER! LEAVE HIM ALONE.
PS WHEN U CALL HIM AND TELL HIM HELL TO THA' NO THAT YALL CAN NOT BE FRIENDS W/ PRIVILEGES CUSS HIM OUT REAL GOOD AND TELL HIM HIS SEX IS BORING, LIKE READING TIME MAGAZINE. I KNOW IT' NOT RIGHT TO BE THAT MEAN, BUT HE WILL FEEL JUST AS BAD AS U DO. AND U WILL FEEL A LOT BETTER. ALMOST POWERFUL, TRUST ME I KNOW!
2006-09-21 12:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by teriwilburn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, like, let him go. Like, he's stringing you along and you should be better off without him. It's not too late to just see others, like now.
2006-09-21 12:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by roppster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋