my husband and i work in the same building,he gets aff at 3 pm , i get off at 330 pm ,he goes to visit a female worker in the same building but different area while he waits for me, i ask him about it he say no.then i ask were are you going he says to meet his friend and talk about work and that she leaves late everyday also when i see this female she doesnt speak to me ,knows im his wife and if she see us together she only speaks to him,he says she doesnt have to speak to me, i feel that its disrepectful that she doest speak out of common courstey and he shouldnt allow it to happen.
2006-09-21 12:08:07 · 24 answers · asked by butterbean 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to have a calm, rational conversation with your husband. If it is strictly innocent chat, then it should not be a problem.
At the same time, his female friend should be willing to talk to you in order to smooth things along.
Depending on how good of friends they are, you might ask if he is willing to invite her over for dinner one evening. That way you can get to formerly meet her and see if there is any unwanted chemistry between your husband and her.
I think that, in the end, if she's rude to you and is sweet to your husband, you need to tell explain to your husband how uncomfortable it makes you feel, and that you don't want them hanging out.
It's a tricky situation, but I wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-21 12:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by Emerilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very disrespectful, try to get off work a little early to crash their daily meetings, if your husband has a female friend you should be involved in the relationship at the very least. Most men can't be just friends with another female without having some thoughts about sex, relationship...your husband probably isn't an exception.
2006-09-21 12:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're both being disrespectful to you, don't put up with any form of disrespect or it will just get worse. He could be testing just how much he can get away with, taking it a little bit further every time. They are both ill mannered and mean, sorry to say this but it angers me as well, as they're laughing at you, right on your face. You deserve better and I don't think he would let you do the same, it's an stupid ego trip to them A holes. Don't believe his bull..excuses.
2006-09-21 12:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right about her being disrespecful not speaking to you. Anyone that is friends with the other half...should always say hello out of respect for you. If she doenst than i think shes no good...and you better watch out for her. And as for your husband,,,hes a jerk for not sticking up for you about that. I think maybe you need to keep a closer eye on the both of them. Unless you totally trust him,,and he always goes home with you. Maybe you should ask her why she speaks to your husband but she cant speak to you...ask her if she has something to hide.
2006-09-21 12:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT ok. The best way to avoid any BIG problems is to nip the little ones in the bud. It may be totally innocent, but there are rules when you're married.....and people dont' realize how easily things can get screwed up, so they bend the rules and dont' take them seriously. This is not ok, put a stop to it in a nice way if you can.
2006-09-21 12:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I believe that she should the very least be friendly and greet you anytime that she sees you. Your husband should be insistent of this if he has any respect for you and/or your union. This is a crappy situation. I'm sorry you have to be in it and that your husband doesn't see things from your point of you. I hope it works out.
2006-09-21 12:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by NutterButter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your absolutely correct. She should acknowledge your presence, and your relationship. I say to tell him it's over with for the two of them. Or next time you see her ,act all superior, and then insult her. That'll give her a reason to treat you the way she does. And of course I would watch hubby very , very closely from now on.
2006-09-21 12:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your curent husband has told this other musterious womann things about you that makes her not want too talk too you like yuck her cooking walks across the table bleh!! or your boring in bed hons, theres something going on funny here and it looks like he has a really big thing for this other bimbo, dosent it seem strange she wants nothing too do with you hons?? take her aside and say look, honey what in the hell is going on now fess up, dont let up, on her find out truth hons its your marriage at steak!! confront her!1
2006-09-21 12:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are f***ing. Both of them are disrespectful. Your husband is not your man. They are playing you, and they are planning on dropping the news on you one day. Her feeling are more important. You are a joke to the both of them. I would not have that type of disrespect thrown in my face. Please put that to a stop immediately as time goes by the disrespect will become more "BOLDER." You are getting sloppy seconds and they are joking about it in they owe little way. Think about it, if it makes you uncomfortable and he is not trying to fix it but defending her, you know who is first.
2006-09-21 12:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that is messed up that she doesn't speak to you, that is a little conspicuous if you ask me. and why cant he admit to you that he is in her office while waiting for you. maybe next time you see her you should say excuse me, is there a reason you can speak to my husband but cant speak to me? or maybe you should go to her office a little early while hes there and see what they are talking about and walk right in.
2006-09-21 12:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by stef333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋