How often is too much?

Question

My wife and I met at a bible camp in high school. We got married shortly after college. The problem is, she thinks I'm a sex addict. We were both celibate before we got married and agreed that our first night was "worth waiting" for. Is ONCE A WEEK too much? How often do normal, healthy couples have intercourse? I'm afraid I'm not making her happy and I'm getting quite self conscious about it.

Answer 1

you and your wife need to have a healthy discussion on each of your expectations when it comes to your sex life. i would hope that if your relationship with her is good, more that just once a week would be appropriate, of course depending on your age. you sound young enough and new enough in your marriage to want to share yourself intimately with each other a little more often.....but every couple is different. definitely share your feelings with the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with. best of luck!

Answer 2

I would love to have sex once a day unless I have my monthly visitor. Than I would love to have sex twice a day to make up for the days that we don't have sex. Unfortunately my husband has sex with me if I am very lucky 3 times a month. I love him and the closeness that having sex brings us. Unfortunately he doesn't understand that. He always has the excuse that I'm tired, sick, or not interested. Once a week is not a sex addict. I think that having sex with your wife 1 a week is on the mild side. I think that 2 -3 times a week is a normal healthy sex life. Except again in my case where I'm lucky to have sex 3 times a month. Good luck to you and be glad that you aren't me! Also if she does decide to have sex more that once a week with you let me know your secret maybe I can have my husband have sex with me more.

Answer 3

I am a wife of three years and once a week is not enough!

may be three times a week would be good any more than that and you are getting needy but once a week is definitly not to much.
Maybe she isn't as interested because you not meeting enough of her emotional needs or may be she needs more for play for her pleasure to get her aroused more.
Make a cute dinner, with candles that is sweet a little corny but sweet. play something soft and sensual on the radio tell her you love her more every day. And maybe one thing will lead to onather.
It probably isnt you down stairs that she is not interested in but the emotional you that you need to fix so don't be self concious just try something different may be a new spot to have sex. have you tried inside your car, on the dryer, countertop couch the hood of your car? Give it A shot chances are you will get what you need as a man and husband,because a good sexual rlationship is important in a marriage to most.

Answer 4

I am depressed because I want it 2-3 times a week and only get it once a month. Once a week is probably good for you at this point but you should really talk to your spouse about it and how often she wants it. Women need physical love. And the only way you are going to find out what she wants is to ask her. I am having problems with my husband and he won't even listen to me when I try and tell him what I want. So listening to what she really wants is a big part of it too. My husband was a virgin when we were married and his way of thinking is completely different from mine. You will only find out answers if you ask her what she wants but I think healthy couples probably have sex 3-5 times per week depending on if their schedules are the about the same or if they conflict with each other.

Answer 5

If you've been recently married, once a week is kind of short changing both of you, but there actually isn't any "normal" amount of times to have sex within a given period.

There is nothing in the Bible about having sex too often within the sanctity of marriage. In fact, the Bible says you are not to deny your partner unless you both agree to set aside a time for prayer.

Relax and learn to enjoy each other.

Answer 6

everyone is different but i wouldnt say u r a sex addict once a week isnt too much to ask for depends on how long u been married maybe you r not meeting each others expectations b/c u were not experienced b4 u married,u need to talk to each other b/c sex isnt everything but it is part of your realationship i think the longer u know someone and are together the better it becomes

Answer 7

From experience I can say no it isn't too much. It may be too much for her though. Maybe she doesn't like sex as much because maybe she's not getting what she needs out of it???? Talk to your wife and ask her what you can do to make her feel good.. maybe read a few books. Make it about love and don't treat her like a hole in the mattress and maybe she'll come around. Or do you have a hard time showing love in a non sexual manner??? If you do I suggest counseling for you both.

Answer 8

well, how much sex would you like to have in a week? Don't tell me tell your wife. All the questions that your asking are legitimate questions to ask out of a marriage/ relationship. Just be honest with her. Don't leave her in the dark because that only distances the relationship/ marriage more and it makes it harder to get close again. Good Luck.

Answer 9

That is not enough! The average American couple does it about 2-3 times a week.

Answer 10

I think 10x a night is quite normal but some would say I'm a nympho which is not true. Try praying as your a biblical chap and God will surely have the right answer son.