I am so grateful to all your support out there, i am so fucked up over this, i have told them to **** off in a moment of despair, they have tried to contact me, i put the phone down, where do i get the strength to keep it up, for my family`s sake, i am brainwashed to being weak, i need to break the pattern for me, and my family, please help me here, do i just ignore them now, i want to, how do i get the strength to do it? My brother cast them off years ago, but they go on at me about it, they are making my life a misery.
2006-09-21 11:39:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Contact social services immediately. They will help you to find assistance. There are several opportunities here for you. Many of these services are either free, or have a sliding scale fee to fit your budget.
You may also contact your local women's shelter. They can provide referrals for counseling and support for your particular situation. The resources are there, but they cannot help if you do not ask for help and be willing to receive it.
Yes, it is very much a pattern of abuse, and many resources recognize this, and know how to help you become strong enough to deal with your situation.
Good luck, and bless you in your efforts to become strong.
2006-09-29 11:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I saw your last question ,your parents are horrendous,please try to find the strength to keep it up ,think what a peaceful life you will have with your own family if you dont have to worry about them coming round and abusing you all the time ,follow your brothers lead,he's done it ,so can you !
2006-09-21 18:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to that one, they dont even know where I live now and feel so much stronger for it, cant go back as they were really cruel to me physically and mentally and always putting me down, making fun of me and also always rejecting me, could not take any more thats why to this day I hate rejection and very insecure in myself. Do whats right for you and be strong give yourself space from them dont be like, took years of misery to get the courage to do it wish I had done it sooner
2006-09-21 18:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it really depends of the stuff that your parents did 2 u. for example there are different types of abuse for example physical emotional and physiological. Sometimes we tent to believe that out parents bug a lot but when they are no longer here with us is when we finally realize how much we like for them to bug us.. i grew up with only my mom and my 6 brothers currently my mom is 38 and i am 21 so i guess it depends what type of abuse are your parents doing to u.....
2006-09-21 18:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them a letter explaining the way they have made you feel over the years, that you are now an adult and parent yourself and if they cant show you any respect now you want no more contact with them. You owe it to yourself and your family. Be happy and I feel if you do this it will make you feel stronger for yourself and your family!
2006-09-21 18:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good support network of family/friends etc this helps. Only you can break the pattern of abuse. Good luck!
2006-09-21 19:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time they call just tell thatm that you do not wish to speak to them & not to call again. If they persist then contact your telephone company & have them change your number & make it ex-directory.
If they call round, refuse to open the door. If they persist then call the police & have them removed. If they still persist see a lawyer & have an injunction raised to keep them away. If they still persist after that, call the police & they will be fined or locked up.
2006-09-21 18:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you and your brother are not close, call him. Tell him what is going on and ask his advise. He is probably the only one who knows the situation as well as you do and would be the one to give you the best advice. Good luck
2006-09-21 19:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you need to do to be happy. If shutting them out of your life then do it. Stay prayerful above all, and know that God will not put no more on you than you can handle.
2006-09-21 18:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by KEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling, and if necessary, take out an injunction/restraining order on them.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 18:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋