2006-09-21 11:23:46 · 17 answers · asked by socorro c 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I think 38 would be a great age for having a baby. When I met my husband I was a 38 year old widow with two teen-agers and he also had two teen agers and his wife had also died. We now have a 9 year old together, so our kids range from 30 years old to 9 years old.
I think the most important things to consider are the stability of the family into which you will be bringing this new life, making sure that you talk to your older daughter about the prospect of her having a younger sibling (no matter how long you live, the new baby will get 17 years less with you than your older daughter).
(If you think it is tough being a teen-ager telling your parents that you are pregnant - try being the parents of 4 teens and telling them that YOU are pregnant!)
I think as a 50 year old Mom of a 9 year old, I probably have less energy, but more patience, I worry less about the small stuff, but have way more experience than the parents of my daughter's friends.
If is what you really want, go ahead, but make sure you include your daughter - maybe going with you to your pre-natal appointment, ultra-sound appointments etc, would be a good idea.
Good Luck!
2006-09-22 15:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think 38 is too old. I was forty when I had my first (and only) child. I currently have a 47 year old friend who is due with her first (and only, I'm sure) within the next few weeks.
The fact that you have a 17 year old really doesn't have anything to do with it. Though you do have experience as a parent and you know what you are getting into. I would think your daughter wouldn't be too happy about it, but that is her problem.
Older parents are just as good as younger parents. They both have their strengths and weaknesses as parents. Younger parents often have more energy, but older parents usually have more patience and wisdom. It all evens out.
So if you really think you want another child, go for it!
2006-09-21 18:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your daughter feel about that? She's almost an adult, so it shouldn't bother her... Having a young sibling wouldn't bother me (I'm 17) as long as my mom would feel happy. I actually don't think you're too old, I know a couple where a 50 year old woman just gave birth to twins a couple of months ago having a twenty two year old son. That's an extreme case, of course, but no, you are not too young in my opinion. I know a couple of women who didn't have their first baby until they were 35-40. I'm not a doctor though, and I'm not sure where you stand medically, so you should probably talk to one just in case.
2006-09-21 18:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I definitally do not. You should make sure you have the support needed before you consider to have another child. Children are a bleesing at any age. Good luck and make the choice that is right for you and no one else. Also don't refer to yourself as old at the young age of 38. If you refer to yourself as old you'll only see yourself that way. Try not to do it!
2006-09-21 18:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! my mom had me when she was 38, and had a 14 year old daughter! You'll have a harder time concieving than you did for your younger daughter, but if it's what you want, you're most certainly not too old. in fact, some people convieve into their fourties.
2006-09-21 18:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by fireballfanaticgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you go through menapause then your not too old to have a baby!! Just make sure you take extra care of yourself cuz I guess you would be at higher risk for complications and miscarriage! But I'm sure if you did things healthy and smart you'd be okay! Aww!! Good luck and don't let ppl tell you your too old!
2006-09-21 18:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cakoo4cocopuffs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You will probably enjoy the baby more than you did with your 17 and the stresses of being a young mom. You will be more relaxed this time around! Good luck!
2006-09-21 18:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by joalteeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a woman is never old when her motherhood instincts kicks in. however due to ur age its preferable to ask ur doctor about it and consult him with this thing coz woman above age of 35 are at high risk to giving birth to trisomic kids. so basically ur doc will tell u to do several tests when u get pregnant to make sure the baby is normal and healthy. and besides ur daughter is about to turn 18 then go to college and u'll have so much free time and lonely periods.and may i say best luck with ur pregnancy thing and go for it .
2006-09-21 18:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by cancer . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,not if you're healthy enough. But you might want to do some research on having a baby when you're older. My sister has a child with Down's Syndrome. She was 36 when the baby was born. This is just one handicap that babies born to older parents can have. If you're willing to love a child, no matter what, go for it. But study up on it first.
2006-09-21 18:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap yourself silly..
Why would you want a baby when
you still have a 17 year old to raise?
And you want to accomplish what?
Don't be selfish and look to what you
will be doing in 5 years..
Going to Open House at an elementary school.
Do you want to do that again?
2006-09-21 18:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by just me here 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋