Submission is a woman's place...agree or disagree?

Question

This is a serious question. The reason for this is I'm 22 years old and married. I love the thought the 1950's and the woman's place in it. I believe that a woman's place is to "serve" her husband. I also believe that a lot of these "woman's rights" issued that have been dealt with have lead to the destruction of our kids. Women need to be at home that is their job. Why is this not acceptable anymore? I know a lot of women are going to read this and be furious with me. Please don't be. I just want to see if there are people out there that still believe in old tradition. I would love to hear men's point of view on all of this. Thank you and please don't be rude. :o)

Answer 1

In this day an age it is very unusual to hear a 22 year old woman say this. If you get other women down on you it will because of only one thing you say. "I believe that a woman's place is to "serve" her husband."......Wow are you asking for it.

I am 65 years old. I was in high school during the time you talk about and my mother was a stay at home mom. From my perspective it was a good thing except for one thing. It took the pressure off my dad to be an involved father. We had no doubt of his love but seldom saw him because of the hours he worked.

Even at that I doubt my mother would have considered what she did as serving her husband. With 5 children she had no choice.

I agree with the rest of what you say. Latchkey kids are not a good thing. At least not while they are young. But as for the serving thing.....well that brings up all kinds of negatives and I do not believe in that. As a man I would love that but do not believe that it is or should be a mandatory thing in a marriage.

I do agree with your basic premise but understand there are a lot of people who have no choice. To life in this time it often takes two salary's. If you do not have that problem at your age you are indeed fortunate.

Answer 2

Most people disagree with this because they think the girl is going to get screwed many years down the road, if all she did was serve her man. Think about how hard it would be to find a job after 25 years at home with your husband and only a high school education? I don't want to imagine.

However, I do agree with you. I am only 25 years old and I am a house wife! I do have my bachelors degree from a University. My husband (27yrs old) makes more than enough to support the two of us comfortably. There is no reason for me to work unless I just want to keep busy. I do that in other ways, taking care of him, making dinner, his lunches, working out with my trainer, shopping, etc.. Sometimes I volunteer at the hospital for a few hours during the day. It just depends, he wants me to have fun right now. In a few years we will have kids and I will take care of them as well. I feel comfortable doing this only because I have my degree, paid for it on my own, and can support myself (lived and traveled the world on my own as well). I know that I would be just fine if anything ever happen.

As long as you know that you will always be able to take care of yourself then go ahead and stay home, if you have the means :)


I am sure all those women who answered "disagree" are not married, I would love to find out. I am sure if anyone had a choice of working every day or doing what ever you want, you would pick what ever you want! Maybe they just can't afford it!

Answer 3

I don't think that women have to be a servant to their husbands. I am married and we ahve an eight year old son together. We are both Leos and we get along fine with both working and taking care of the house. Times are changing and people change with it. I like going to work. I would not be healthy in mind if I had to stay home all day and do nothing but look after the house. I know that some women are home makers and that is fine with me, but I do not try and push my beliefs on others and do not want them to do me that way. People are going to be different than you. And that is okay. That is why the world keeps people on their toes. If everyone was the same it would be really boring and monotonous. I hope that I do not offend any one but I like working and tell you the truth if I did not then my family would be on the streets. My husband stopped working for over three years and did not look for another job. I was the main bread winner. So please keep an open mind about things and situations that you may not know about.

Answer 4

I understand where you are coming from, but I have a slight problem with the wording.

I am a firm believer that the home is the woman's place. The wife should raise the children, and take care of the house. Unfortunately, it is very difficult in today's society to live off of one income.

Women demanded equal rights, and instead we were given equal burdens. We don't necessarily need to be submissive to be a stay at home wife and mother, either.

What people actually need to realize is that since both parents are working away from the home, both parents are also responsible for taking care of the home and raising the children. People seem to have no problem accepting women in the work-place, but more men still think their wives should be in charge of the housework and child-rearing.

I agree with you on the traditional life-style, but unfortunately, in today's society, it's going to be really hard to try living that way.

Answer 5

I totally respect your position. I believe it is very common to be a stay at home Mom. Most of my female friends do exactly that.

I do not, however, think that a Woman should be subserviant to a man. Nor can we blame social problems on women's rights. Families in the 50's , 60's and 70's all had problems and their children had problems just as kids today.

As you grow older you will find Men cannot carry the burden for your welfare as well as you can. It is important to stand on your own before you attempt to stand with someone else.

I would also encourage you to read up on womens rights. I don't think at 22 that you have a clear understanding of how many rights you enjoy today because of women before you. Including the right to choose to be a stay at home Mom.

Answer 6

To each it's own...I wonder how many that said "No/disagree" are actually married? Not with a boyfriend for 5 yrs... I mean MARRIED.
I'm 32 y/o and have been married for 12 yrs. & we have 3 children. I've been a stay at home Mom since married, but have worked part-time twice during the 12 yrs. due to hard times. I do "serve" my husband because I LOVE to, not because he demands it of me. I think if a husband can provide 100% for the family, then yes. But on the other hand, the majority of people now-a-days cannot make ends meet with out both of them working. Things were a lot cheaper in the 1950's.

Answer 7

Well, Julie, you really are asking two separate questions. I can't agree that a woman should be "submissive" or serve her husband. That sounds like a master-slave relationship, when in fact marriage is (or should be) a partnership of equals.

On the other hand, many women prefer to stay at home and raise their children rather than work outside the home. If the family's income is such as to accommodate that, it's a personal choice and there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 8

i also believe that a woman should take care of her family and the 1950s were a great time but this submission thing is crap, a man is a house hold figure of course but lets face it these days you let a man believe a woman should be submissive and all hell will break loose, as far a women's rights leading to the destruction of our kids that is crap to it should be up to every man and woman to teach a child the right way not just one way

Answer 9

I disagree. If a woman chooses to stay home and raise the children, that's her choice, but by the same token it should be equally acceptable for a man to do the same if he wants to raise the children and his wife wants to be the breadwinner. Sexism is an antiquated notion. People should make these decisions based on what works best for them, not artificially imposed sexual roles.

I've seen too many women who just use this as an excuse to quit their jobs and let their husbands earn all the money, and many don't even have children as an excuse. They're just rationalizing their golddigging by claiming to be "old-fashioned". That's not just outdated; it's unethical.

Answer 10

If you husband has earned the Crown, I say let him be King and give him the respect because of his willingness and ability to accept responsibility for his household and his family. One of you has to lead, and it can't be 50/50, why no country has 2 Presidents, 2 Kings, 2 Dictators. If he does the job and well submit. Not saying the home is the woman's place. Just that every has a role, and where you role lies should be decided by the needs of your family.