It makes me laugh every time I read in the papers that the Marriage rate has fallen, and the British Government have concluded that it has gone out of fashion......duh.....we would love to get married, but when one of you is working and the other is at home looking after the children, the financial LOSS is massive.
Are we the only couple who feel like this???
2006-09-21 11:21:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PLEASE...I am not referring to the cost of the day....I am talking about the loss of income.
2006-09-21 11:27:11 · update #1
I totally agree- I am married and would be financially better of if I split up with my husband,we have three kids..... but why should I , how can this be right?Its a shame people are having to make this ridiculous choice .We have been married now for eleven years and during that time we have lost out because of many tax policy's by our government ..the first to hit was just after we married and bought our first house loosing MIRAS and the list goes on and on and on.No wonder marriage is in decline of course people cant afford it!
2006-09-21 11:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you want to do the wedding. If it ithe vows only and the marriage itself you are after it can be done very cheaply.
But if, like me, you see it as a once in a lifetime thing and want to make it the best day of your life and very special, yes, it comes at a price. We had a small intimate wedding and then a big night do in August this year and it cost us nearly £7000. Certainly didnt plan for that much and thank god for parent contributions!
You could always get married at the local registry office on the QT and then have a blessing ceremony and a big party when you can afford with all the trimmings?
Good luck. x x
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2016-02-11 01:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to spend a fortune on a wedding. The main thing is that you love one another and mean the vows that you exchange.
Some of the nicest weddings I have attended have been done on a very tight budget. A licence costs very little and just think of how wonderful it will be for you to be in a true family unit - husband, wife and offspring.
Do hope you will soon be in the position to name a day, and if needs be go ahead and make the commitment with one another and go forward in life being happy legally united together. Good Luck & God Bless.
2006-09-21 11:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
With a lot of people they find out how hard life is with that income loss,It is a shock to the system and ends up with them splitting due to the pressure.
We live in a hard world today and we dont tend to have the family back up as in sitters etc.
So the cost is extortionate!
2006-09-21 12:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by HIMSELF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the financial loss has nothing to do with marriage, its to do with having children. People can be married and both working with no financial loss and people can have children out of wedlock and still face financial loss. Its not marriage, its having children.
2006-09-21 12:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Tory leader David Cameron has said that he'll look into re-instating the tax advantages married couples used to have if we vote for him at the next election.
Why not remind him about this by posting on his party website because he might forget what a good idea this is.
http://www.conservatives.com
2006-09-21 11:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what does any thing you said have to do with the cost of gettin married....i got married at the court house it cost the whole total of 60.00 dollars. you can afford a girlfriend a house and even children but just cant find the money to get married....
2006-09-21 14:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel sorry that you can't afford it. Just goes to show this country are ripping their own people off so much that they can't even afford to get married. I know its hard for first time buyers as well when mortgages are concerned.
Good luck saving!!
2006-09-21 11:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean to have a decent wedding which is what you all want. would cost a good couple of grand me and my partner have been living together for eight years. and were not going to bother, getting married but good luck to you if you do
2006-09-21 23:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by top banana mn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋