I fall into this category, less then a year ago I realised I was gay.. and it took me this long to recognise. I have yet to have any 'experiences' but I know I'm gay as it just makes too much sense. But I would like to know if I am a completely minority or this is a regular occurance. It has been a strange year and it would be good to hear from someone with a similar experience.
2006-09-21 11:19:59 · 26 answers · asked by Pete 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
lots of people don't realize until your age, and even later! if you been raised in a family/community who are strongly homophobic, sometimes a person will grow up in denial, and even get married because that's what's expected. only to realize later they are not happy, and why. you are not alone!
I've known I was lesbian since I was 18, but my partner, AND her ex-husband didn't "come out" until they had been together a few years. and we are all friends and happy with our partners now.
2006-09-21 11:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My question to you is...Did you start to consider it last year or did you accept it last year? I knew from a early age that I was attracted to men. Being raised in a christian home by a Preacher and Evangelist made it hard for me to even consider yet come out. I did nothing about my feelings. Tried to date females but knew right away I wouldn't be able to play that game. When I turned 21 I started to explore what being gay was. I had my first sexual experience 15days after my 21 birthday.
I still wasn't comfortable saying I was gay even though I knew I was. At 28 I was able to come out and tell those close to me all of my feelings. Reverend Hope told me that there is a place that I could go to have my thinking straighten (no pun) out. Evangelist Hope said "I love you and want you to be happy but also be careful". So saying all of that I have to go back and ask you.......Looking back at all those things that "just makes too much sense" where you already gay but in denial?
2006-09-21 19:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Evered H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Many people don't realize it until later in life. I'm a lesbian and quite a few of my friends didn't realize they were gay (male and female) until later in their lives. Especially one of the most self assured lesbians I know didn't realize she was gay until she was 45 and already had a son. Rest easy, it's a common occurance and in no way makes you a minority. Take care.
2006-09-22 01:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by Michele B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very scared of coming out, I used to get teased for being gay. I knew I was gay since I was little but I couldn't bring myself to tell anyone not even my close friend who was gay himself for fear that if I told 1 person then other people would find out. I was already ridiculed for being gay but I fear confirming that truth. The conflict of religion also was in my head, I came out at 23. I felt like I was up against a wall. I was very stressed out and depressed when I was closeted.
2006-09-21 20:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually didn't come out until I was past 55, and I didn't really come out to myself until I was past 40 even though I'd had gay experiences from age 13.
2006-09-21 20:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you've always known that you're gay but is in denial and it took you 25 years to accept the fact. I've always known I liked guys, but it wasn't until I was 18 that I've accepted being gay. I was 25 when I came out of the closet to my friends and family.
2006-09-21 18:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I can't say I'm in the same boat, I knew as a child. However each person is different, people find out who they are at different stages in life, some young, some odl...but don't think of your self as unusual.
2006-09-22 13:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not at all unusual to realize that you are gay at 25.
As with most things, some realize it earlier and some realize it later.
The important thing is that you realize it!
Welcome and take pride. Always remember your dignity, your worth and your importance in the scheme of life.
Welcome.
2006-09-21 19:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Temple 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not true that that everyone realise it in age og 25. It depends in the person
2006-09-22 06:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by newsundersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the cultural conditioning in this country would make it hard for anybody who wasn't straight, thin, rich and blond. We should all assume we need to be Paris Hilton.
So good for you for finally looking in the mirror and seeing YOU!
2006-09-21 20:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by tarro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋