I'm in my 2nd year of college and rooming.
We are total opposites; he's an Extrovert and I'm Introvert. He's likes to go and spend time with people and all that, talk and chat and watch TV with them, party with them, etc, etc. He'll stay up past midnight, while I'll be in bed by 11:30. He likes gets up after 8 most days, while I'm up a 6 about everyday.
He likes to have friends stay over unannounced at times. I can see some person in the morning in the common room, who I don't have a clue is.
I'll go to the movies by myself without issues, while he’s always asking someone to go with him I'll take walks by myself just to look at things. I'll rather read a good book in my room, then do the things he does.
Should I consider seeking a single dorm room or should I try and stick it out this year?
2006-09-21 11:16:17 · 6 answers · asked by Raziel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OMG !!! you described my freshman year at college to a T!!!!!
I would say lay down the law. Let this person know how you feel.
First start with the guests, let this person know when its okay to have people over and when its not. Weekneds and not other time is reasonable.
Try to set a curfew, you have a common room right?
If he wants to have friends over then have them stay in the common room so you can sleep. Keep strangers away from the room, and keep things you dont want missing hidden away ( like in the clothign draw). If they dont see it, they cant steal it. Trust me it happens.
realize the stress this person will cause is NOT worth it. I went throuh it because I knew the person and would feel bad if I was like " see you later" and moved,but if you have no personal connection then get LOST!!
I would opt for a roomate change, and when you make this decison, make sure to tell who ever is incharge of roomate changes what kind of person you are.
I know what Im saying based on personal experience, i had a roomate just like the one you described and I cost me dearly. She could live that kind of life and get good grades , my sanity and GPA plumetted because I couldnt find balance. Now I cant get into an academic career because my GPA is way to low.
2006-09-21 11:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it sounds like HE's a bad roommate.
If you can get a single dorm room, do so--only because it sounds like the different sleeping habits may be a problem. If you do decide to stick it out, you guys might have to set up some clear ground rules about when people can come over, and also how to be respectful of each other's sleeping times. Ultimately you have to ensure that you are creating the best environment so you can excel at school--it would be hard to do that if you're stressed from lack of proper sleep or just from being around an extrovert. (true introverts feel drained around a lot of stimuli)
good luck!
2006-09-21 18:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by shukuken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his behavior bothers you, so Yes, I would go seek a single dorm room. Just be polite and explain to him it's nothing personal. He'll enjoy a more extroverted roommate replacement if you leave, anyway. Win-win for both of you.
P.S. No, this does not make you a bad roommate.
2006-09-21 18:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about him and what he does ?? Do you secretly like him ?? Thats what it seems like . Maybe I am getting the wrong impression here but if it really bothers you , you might as well look for a single dorm where you can be by yourself.
2006-09-21 18:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should stick it out, unless he brings friends when your trying to sleep or he is partying when yur studying. Maybe you should try hanging out with him. or u can get a new roomie.
2006-09-21 18:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Denise the great 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun u should jus stick wit it
ok? jus hang in ther and befor u know it u'll be
out of ther iight!
peace
2006-09-21 18:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by co-co 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋