I want to change my life but how ???

Question

I want to do something BIG to change my life for good
i am sick of being scared of eveyrthing
i am sick of being the same dead end thing everyday.
can anyone help?

Answer 1

I think one thing all of us are after is the feeling of being vibrantly alive, and it sounds like things aren't going so well for you in that department right now.

One thing I'd definitely suggest is seeing a therapist. Some therapists are pretty good at helping people bulldoze their way past mental log jams. They can also help people break up big problems that seem impossible into little baby steps.

My gut reaction is that the fact that you're sick of your situation is good - discontent is a powerful motivator. And being scared of things isn't necessarily all bad, although it can hold you back. One thing to work through is what you're scared of and why; then you can decide whether the things you're scared of are really likely to happen, or you can make preparations to deal with them in case they do.

See if you can figure out exactly what parts of the "dead end thing" are getting you down. That may help you realize where you'd like to be instead. Is it the people you work with? The work you're doing? Are there things you'd like to be doing instead? Do you have a gut feeling that your potential as a human being isn't being realized?

And to kick start this process, I suggest a change of scene. If you can, go on a trip for a week or two. Get some distance from your life and work situation, and also get some distance from the daily patterns you live in. Air your brain out and think a little about where you might like your life to go instead of where it is now.

If you don't have any ideas after that, try some new experiences - take some interesting-sounding classes at the local junior college or adult ed facility. Play tourist in your own area and go to some places you've never visited before. Try some new hobbies or hobby groups. Try some volunteer work, with children or the local soup kitchen or the community garden.

You don't have to commit to doing any of these things permanently; you're just gathering information on what you like and what you don't like, and that may help point you in a new direction.

Go out and live your life. There's no time to start like the present!

Answer 2

Small things make up the majority of our daily lives. So stop waiting for something that you only use as a way of procrastinating living. This moment is not a dress rehearsal and you will never get it back. This is it. So make a list, start at the beginning, go through the middle and finish at the end. Close the chapter on yesterday, forget about tomorrow. Because today, right now is all we are ever guaranteed. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You sound very emotional and reactive right now. Calm down and think about what you want. Set some goals. When you are running so high, you won't be able to think logically. Once you set the goals figure out how to reach them. I'm not a big believer in motivational speakers or anything, but you might be a great candidate for a Tony Robbins tape which you can get on QVC. Before you scream at me for this, this guy will help you organize what you want in your life and how to get it. He's just a coach. Everyone can use a coach or a friend once in a while. Give it a thought!!!

Answer 4

How about just picking a person that you know and doing something nice for them - just for the sake of it? Then, a couple of days later, something for someone else. This is working on the better to give than receive principle. I give, therefore, I feel good.

Not saying become a saint and a perfect human. You can rant, rave, and act as irrationaly as you normally do most of the time.

Answer 5

First you need to figure out what you want. Do you want to move, go back to school, change careers? Decide on your goals. Write them down and then break each one down into small steps. Start with the first step and just concentrate on completing it before moving on. Keep focused. Take one day at a time. As you complete each small step cross it off your list. Before you know it you will have achieved your goal. Sometimes the hardest part is knowing what you really want.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

Firstly you need to get some fresh air to get fresh ideas. Get out when you feel like it, try new places, new routes to your job/ college, then alternate it with what you are used to. Go to the library, look at as many books as you can to have a clear idea of "what the world can offer". Try anything you come across apart from unhealthy stuff of course. Try a short trip somewhere. Think if you like to go to the univercity and what you could do; try helping people any way you can. You will be lucky if you get an answer of what you want to do with you life that will be big enough in a week but if you keep looking out there's no way but finding it. Go get it.

Answer 7

Go on a trip, learn a foreign language, change your job, make new friends and spend very much time with your old ones. Go out a lot if you like to, and mostly step by step start doing all the things you fear. Just remember you have to persist if you want things to happen.

Answer 8

when you figure it out, can you please send me a memo? =)

hm... actually, i just read down the whole page here, and i think i'm sensing a few common themes:

~get out of your own head
~take risks / do things you're afraid of
~bottom line -- keep forcing yourself to DO new things, and the more you do, the more you will think in a new way and want to do more things.... etc. etc. it's all about momentum, and you're caught in a rut right now.

if you're at all like me, you overthink everything and end up DOING nothing.

the only thing that works to conquer fear (and stagnation / apathy?) is to actually do things you're afraid of doing.

Answer 9

I don't know if it's BIG enough, but you can start by not relying on yahoo users for guidance.

I don't mean to be a dude with a half-empty cup, but everything in life is a dead end. All you can do is enjoy the ride.

Answer 10

If you have the money, give away all your old clothes and buy a completely new wardrobe (not literally, it's an odd expression really), get a new job, meet new people, gain confidence, be happy.