Okay. Well i have this friend who was like in LOVE with this guy (another friend of mine) and he knew that she loved him but he didnt love her in that way, he only liked her as a friend. And then that guy's friend came over and they got on AIM and starting saying REALLY and i mean REALLY mean things to her. I asked him what the hell was going on and he said shh this is (lets just call him johnny) johnny and johnnys cousin.. we're playing a trick on (lets call her jane) jane! but jane didnt know johnnys cousin was over with him so now she thinks her love was being mean to her (which he was) and shes devastated. i dont know if i should tell her (that johnnys cousin was over and they were trickin her) because then johnny will be mad at me (and i like him, yes in that way) but jane will be happy and she is one of my best friends. but if i dont say anything then johnny will like me still but jane wil be sad. DAMN YOU DRAMA. what should i do??
2006-09-21 10:59:30 · 16 answers · asked by abercrombie93 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well since both you and your friend seem to like the same guy, You do have a heavy decision to make! I guess it depends on who means more to you?
You can be a loyal Friend to Jane and let her know the deal and make her feel better, Yet risk her remaining to like the same guy that you now like (But knowing, what you know now about the type of guy that he is and his "willingness" to allow Jane to believe it was him (being mean) and still be unconcerned about her feelings, I don't know how Great of Catch that will be, But whatever you like, its your call).
Or you can put your feelings for Johnny Ahead of your feelings for Jane (but do you know for sure that he likes you the same way that you like him?) If so it still doesn't feel good to mislead Jane...Does it? (Is it worth Hurting Jane and losing her friendship all together for the Guy?) but what If he doesn't feel the same way about you and nothing ever comes of you two anyway, will Losing the Friendship with Jane, be worth only a "POSSIBILITY"?
These my dear, are the things you MUST consider before moving forward. Because Regrets are No Fun!
So in answer to "What should you do"? You should think long and Hard and weigh both of the options? and which ever will preserve your charachter and bring the most fulfilling Friendship or Relationship is the one to choose!
I hope that this information is helpful to you!
2006-09-21 11:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Just My Thoughts... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, "johnny" is not worth your time or your friends. In order to know what you know, you had to have been involved at least on the level of gossip, so you need to appologize to your friend for betraying her yourself. Then, without going into the details necessarily, just encourage her to move on and you do the same. Maybe try to grow up a little, eh?
2006-09-21 18:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let Johnny and Jane deal with it and stay out of it.
2006-09-21 18:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Jane, Johnny and his cousin act like they have no sense and you should care less if he likes you or not.
2006-09-21 18:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let Johnny know that what he did was extremely immature and mean. (Stress the immaturity of the situation, because it was) and then tell your friend what really happened. She deserves to know. I'm sort of in her situation right now and I would feel absolutely miserable and depressed if he did that to me. I would also want my friend (you in this case) to tell me what he is really like and tell me that you're there for me and that he's not worth my tears (believe me she's shead a few over him already) and for me to move on. Hope this helps!
2006-09-21 18:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very mean. You participated in this, watching your friends and their cousins be hurtful and trick someone and did nothing. You suck. Some friend you are! THAT is how you let people treat your best friend?
You should tell the truth, and don't be surprised if you end up without any friends.
2006-09-21 18:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get new friends who dont have a soap opera life. I think you need to choose between a guy you like and your best friend. And I think you need to make that decision fast. If i see my best friend get hurt, I will be with her all the way no matter who else I like/love/want to bang. Friends come first.
2006-09-21 18:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend...johnny is an asshole...she needs to know they were playing a trick, if it really was one. She needs to know or she will be hurt and her self-esteem will just be torn. Plus Chicks before D I C K S!!
2006-09-21 18:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by k-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont u ever and i mean ever let a guy come beetween ur friendship with a friend ok so lets put it like this if u were jane and she was u what would u wnt her 2 do we all noe the answer u would wat her 2 tell u the truth if she were ur honest friend so put ur self in her shoes and see how u whould feel love izzy
2006-09-21 18:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of it. By the way, could you really like someone who would do this to another girl, especially when he knows her feelings make her vulnerable? He doesn't sound like a quality guy to me.
2006-09-21 18:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Katyana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋