I've been invited out tonight and really feel like some positive attention that i never fail to get when i go out should i go out and enjoy myself?
2006-09-21 10:56:59 · 22 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
definately! start getting ready!
2006-09-21 11:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he shoved you screams that you need to stop this behavior.. This isn't normal or acceptable behavior in a husband or anyone... Maybe you should seek a counselor.. but going to the bar to be hit on is not a good way to feel better. your issues between you and your husband should be handled not ignored and allowed to fester.. going out to the bar will only add puss to the wound. If you love him and you are staying, then stay and work it out. Maybe try to patch over the arguement and find a compromise.. but if it escalates to more physical violence, then you should find a local womens shelter to see about getting help.. they may be able to help you legally, or help you get away. If he's shoving, it can very well and often does turn into worse...
The bar is not the place to solve marital problems. If you need positive attention, dress up for him. Or inform him he is taking you out. You should be seeking his attention though, not others..
2006-09-21 11:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by WifeandMom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I would leave him now. A real man does not treat his wife like that. That is physical abuse. You might think it is nothing now, but if he does not have a problem shoving you into a wall, then that is the start of worse things. I would have been gone as soon as he did that too me. I have put up with a lot of crap from men, but for me any form of physical abuse ends the relationship. I would leave him now, before you end up at the bottom of a lake and the subject of a lifetime Movie. Pack your things and leave and then go out with your friends an have a great time.
If you don't have somewhere to go, most cities have shelters for abused women, you can go there.
Good luck in your situaltion.
2006-09-21 11:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you have two totally separate issues here.
The first issue is your husband man-handling you. While I don't know the circumstances, this is NOT ok. I hope this is an isolated incident and he gets some help with his anger.
The second issue is you wanting to go out tonight. If it's not with another man ABSOLUTELY!!! Go out and have yourself a good time. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't have your own little life. Hopefully your husband is secure enough in your relationship that he's OK with you going out with your friends to let loose a little. It's good for your relationship!!!
2006-09-21 11:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if he gets drunk and comes home and beats the sh*t out of you. Golly, where will he take you then? Apparently you in a abusive relationship, stick around until he gets really mad and kills you. happens all the time. Just think, you'll be on the six o'clock news. Probably no nice dinner for you after that.
Why do you ladies hang around guys that hurt you. They are supposed to LOVE you and LOVE is NOT supposed to hurt.
2006-09-21 11:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and have a talk with your husband. Pushing you in to a wall is not good. If the fight was that bad going out will only make things worse. Remember don't do any thing to him, you don't want him to do to you! Be the bigger person.
2006-09-21 11:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by carter_girl31 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't. If he has an anger issue, then going out with anyone would cause he to get mad again. Don't provoke him, like all controlling men say we do, by acting like you are going out away from him for fun. He might accuse you of running around or looking for a good time with other men. Sounds like you are maybe....so that means your needs are not being met at home. Bad sign. Think about leaving him. Unless he goes to counseling with you. Talking from experience, he won't change.
Find a man who you can have fun with at home.
2006-09-21 11:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your husbands fights get physical often?
Well anyways, is this revenge, or needing approval. Subconsciously are you finding out if you are still desirable so if you leave your husband, you will be in demand? If that is how you get over stuff, than go for it, otherwise maybe marriage counseling is a good idea.
2006-09-21 11:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off your husband should never ever lay his hands on you no matter what.I would definitly go out and have some fun but as for seeking affection elsewhere no.Have you tried talking to your hubby about his actions or maybe try counceling because its obvious that he has anger management issues.Please be safe
2006-09-21 10:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your husband shoved you, why are you not refurring to him as your X.. no man should touch a lady for no reason, except in bed and then only in the best ways... Thke off and have a ball sweety....ROB
2006-09-21 11:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be just what the doctor ordered. I just hope it is not with another man. because then that will only be adding to your problems. But if it is for a fun night out, by all means, have yourself a ball!!
2006-09-21 11:02:13 · answer #11 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋