Many parents keep saying kids should be grateful to them because they nurture their kids, give them shelter, a bed, take care of their health, pay for their school, etc. This is true, but it's also true no one asks to be born, so parents have a moral obligation to do such things. I think good parents should be more worried about their kids than about being praised for what is their own duty. If someone thinks raising kids is a nuisance, then he or she shouldn't have kids at all. You should have kids if what you want is to love them, and not to be praised for raising them.
Some parents also keep repeating that old saying "while you live under my roof you have to follow my rules", implying they do their kids a favor and kids should be their slaves. Just to show power?Again, such parents forget their kids never asked to be born. If you want to be despotic and all you want is your kids worshiping you, then you'd better not have kids. And, after all, through childhood everybody needs care.
2006-09-21 10:50:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow are you angry!
There is one little thing you have missed about a parent's duty and that is the obligation to teach child the skills to survive in the adult world. This is where the rules come in. If a person does not understand that their actions have consequences, that promises should be kept, or how to keep safe, or how to compromise or keep to rules, frankly they will probably struggle to survive in the adult world and will be a general pain.
These things are a part of loving a child. Letting someone do what they want is selfish and the easy way out (at least at the beginning).
Saying no and taking the storm when what a child wants to do is not in his or her interest seems harder at first sight, but a child needs to know that if they are going off the rails, mum or dad will pull them back from the edge.
Maybe some parents do want to be despotic, or just have the Kodac moments. Most of us just want to keep you safe and want you to be happy.
2006-09-21 11:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by tagette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right though. You should respect them. Then when you have your kids, if you still feel the same way about them, make a conscience effort to change how you raise your children. For the time being you need to respect them. Unless they are abusive to you, I don't see any reason why there is a problem.
Your feelings are normal for teens.
2006-09-21 10:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they want their kids to learn responsibility, one day you'll have kids & will see how difficult raising them can be
2006-09-21 10:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow despotic. nice vocabulary range there.
2006-09-21 10:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
omg! my mom is the same freaking way!!!!! i know what ur sayin! it ticks me off!
2006-09-21 10:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Taylor W 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋