from school today and told me a joke. it happened to be a racial joke. i was shocked. i teach my kids to be tollerant of all people and not to judge by race or color.
my question is how can i protect him from such vulgarity outside my home?
my grand father was a bigot as was my father and i worked hard to break the cycle and i do not want my son to pick up where my father left off.
2006-09-21 10:31:53 · 10 answers · asked by bgdadyp 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
my son is nine by the way
2006-09-21 10:38:22 · update #1
I like the fact that you are concerned. However, a thought that lingers in my mind is this. That while in the pursuit of tolerance intolerance is being taught. Everything should be taught without shame or ridicule. Sure the joke was bad. The question should be asked of your son as to what he thinks about the joke, and how it made him feel saying that joke. Also, point out how we all have something about are selves that are laughable, but we wouldn't laugh if someone took a shoot at us (crippled leg, and other personal things). Racial jokes are not fair, because they generalize all people.
Just don't panic. All are kids do and say thing that will shock us. Be tolerant of stupid remarks and you will show yourself consistent.
2006-09-21 10:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by marcus93257 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is also nine. He comes home with a new joke or story nearly every single day. So far, they have all been age appropriate and without reference to sex, creed or color. I have found that the best defense is an excellent offense. Let your son know what is appropriate conversation for both home and school. Also, your son may not have been aware that the joke was racial in tone. Explain to your son why you do not appreciate the joke and ask him how he would feel if the joke were about his race?
I have monitored my son's associations since Pre-K. I have been an active volunteer at our school. Our school is culturally diversified. I have never heard any racial slurs or racial jokes from any of the children. If I ever do I will personally nip it in the bud.
I know that two years ago at a PTA meeting there was a face off between two races...adults only. Our Principal got involved and nipped that in the bud. You need to make sure that your school is on the same page as you are when it comes to what language is acceptable during school hours.
2006-09-21 17:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. There is not a whole lot you can do to protect him from the outside world, but what you can do is take this opportunity to talk with him about racism and why that joke wasn't a joke.
Keep the lines of communication open.
If your kids a younger child, go and talk with his teacher....
2006-09-21 17:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not protect him outside the home. he is going to hear things that you do not want to have him hear, but that is part of life and part of growing up (Unless you are going to put him in a bubble the rest of his life). All you can do is teach him what is right and what is wrong. When he grows up, as long as you have given him a solid up bringing, he will be fine. Just teach him to not just groups of people, judge an individual by their actions.
2006-09-21 17:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by tg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him from hearing stuff like that but what you can do is let him know that you do not find the jokes funny and they are hurtful to the people the jokes are about.
You can also let him know that people who tell those kinds of jokes are ignorant and mean-spirited.
2006-09-21 17:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't protect them outside the home, you just got to try your best to teach them good values and morals when there at home so they hopefully know right from wrong when there away from home.
2006-09-21 17:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id pop him one! right on the mouth!:)nahh just keep teaching him not to be ignorant.he will be ok.now a days its impossible to censor you kids all the time but always try you best.or youl end up with a potty mouth kid.
2006-09-21 17:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you would have to at least go tell the principal of the school. he will take care of those cruel jokes.
2006-09-21 17:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just a joke, kids laff at at & repeat jokes. as long as u raise
him not to be racist i'm sure he won't be.
2006-09-21 17:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by daniel b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain that to him.
2006-09-21 17:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Pixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋