should i forgive my boyfriend of 6yrs for cheating on me and having 2 kids?

Answer 1

I would think if you have been with guy for six years, you should be married and had two children of your own. So no, there is something wrong with this picture.

Answer 2

That is up to u honey. My boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me and I broke up with him. But about a year later we got back together and our relationship is better than ever. You proably will not ever be like you were before and may never trust in him again. I am not telling you to forgive him because my situation may be different from yours. You have to do what you think is right and no one else can tell you what to do. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Sure. But don't forget to forgive him for all of the cheating you DON'T know about. And go ahead and give him a free pass for all the cheating he will continue to do.

Answer 4

Like i say once a cheater always a cheater!! If he loves you then he wouldn't cheat on you!! Leave him girl because all he's goin do is walk over and over and over you! If you let him get away with it once it's goin happen again and again!! You can do so much better girl! You need a man that's goin love you honor you and respect you!! So get back on htat horse girl and ride out to find someone new!! Good luck girl!!

Answer 5

Only if you love him, and are willing to forgive, and forget, because it will not ever work without sincere forgiveness. You can't live in the past. Learn from it. So, unless you truly love him, start a new.

Answer 6

Forgive him.

But remember: forgiveness is not excusing, smothering conflict, accepting people, or tolerance. When you forgive the person who hurt you deeply and unfairly, you perform a miracle that has no equal. Nothing else is the same. Many of us, from our earliest childhood, are told that a good person forgives others. What we don't learn, though, is what true forgiveness means, and when we see forgiveness in practice, it often looks like this: "You're wrong, but I will tolerate you, because I'm right."

Too often, our practice of forgiveness masks an attitude of judgment. We only forgive those whose behavior we've already judged to be wrong. That judgment establishes us as being better. In most cases the forgiven person is feeling somehow condemned and the forgiver feels superior.

Often people believe they escape judgment by finding reasons for "forgiving" the other person. They may say, "Well, he had such an unhappy childhood," or "she's not spiritually evolved" (unlike guess-who?). This is a disguised way to say, "They will always be wrong."

Judgment disguised as forgiveness clearly hurts those who are its recipients. It also hurts those who bestow it.

When we become caught in the net of right and wrong, we see the world in those terms. We see every situation and relationship in terms of who's right and who's wrong. With such a perspective, there is little room for appreciation and love.

In addition, when we don't see others clearly, we are equally unable to see ourselves clearly. The real judgment boomerang is that the characteristics or behavior we judge in others are those we resist in ourselves, sometimes to the point that we don't consciously realize we may have the attributes for which we judge and appear to forgive others. Judgment veiled as forgiveness may also hide our unwillingness for the other person to change.

No One's Perfect

When we hold on to the injuries which others have caused us, we may wisely suspect that there are deeper injuries which we've caused to ourselves for others or which we do not forgive ourselves. Our inability to truly forgive another may stem from our own feelings of being unforgiven. In that knowledge lies the potential for true understanding and true release.

Thus, I choose to keep the word forgiveness in my vocabulary, but I redefine it as release. My commitment is that when I forgive someone, it's over. Forgiveness means means there is no lingering resentment or anger, and no attempt to re-ignite guilt in the other person. It means the release of whatever energetic blockage was preventing the expression of unconditional love.

It means I recognize I have my own shortcomings and limitations, and in releasing my judgment of another, I have the opportunity to release self-judgment and to forgive myself.

St. Francis of Assisi put it this way in this line from his well-known prayer:

"It is in giving that we receive/It is in pardoning that we are pardoned."

A genuine act of forgiveness is an act of generosity, an act of giving, both towards another person and to ourselves. When we free ourselves from the net of right and wrong, we discover the possibility of unconditional love.

Answer 7

No you should not.If you do then all you are telling him is he has won and it's okay go out and keep cheating and i will keep forgiving you.

Answer 8

Hell No! My ex b/f cheated on me too. He had a baby with another girl,.... and now,... he's reffered to as my ex. I am going to tell u what my mom said to me: You have two options,.... one is to stay with him and try to work things out and deal with his baby's mama.......or two: walk away with dignity.

Answer 9

well if you like being treated like a door mat then yes you should forgive him ,On the other hand if you want to be treated with respect then you should kiss his *** to the curb!!!!!

Answer 10

Relation can survive infidelity and can be restored with patience, sincerity and effort. To start to ask marry you.