I have a friend who is selfish and no one likes her...well just one person. But anyway, no one likes her except me. I get mad at her a lot too. I tell her she is being selfish and she says she knows. How do I stay away from her?
2006-09-21 10:07:22 · 24 answers · asked by Rackjack 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your daughter that she is doing well by being friendly to someone that is not easy to like. She needs to keep being a friend and maybe make a difference in this girls life. She does not have to spend all her time with her, but your daughter is showing signs of a leader by being a friend when others will not, I say you should cultivate that trait much more than looking for a way to stay away from her...
2006-09-21 10:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being around someone who is selfish isn't always bad. You just have to be careful of what you do with this person. This is not the type of person you can count on in a jam, but at the same time, she may be capable of giving good advice or being a great tutor in a subject you are having trouble with. I have 2 friends that are extremely selfish - and they know it. But when I needed a shoulder to cry on, they both made great listeners. Don't write your friend off yet.
2006-09-21 17:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Marmek1210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easy to stay away if you realize you have alot to offer a good friend. A good friend is not selfish. It sound like you have been honest with her. Hopefully you will see you can do better.
2006-09-21 17:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop being friends with her too. Obviously she has a problem if everyone hats her. I would explain to her in a positive manner not in front of everyone and not over the phone and tell about her self and tell her you vcan't be friends with someone like that and if she doesn't change then theen maybe she don't need no friends let her be by herself.
2006-09-21 17:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you being the only one who is still her friend, then they think you may be just like her. If you have told her she is selfish, and she does not want to do anything about it. she does not want to improve herself, she does not want to better herself. this is a good lesson for you, it you know something is wrong, and you can do something to better yourself, Don"t you think the easy thing to do, is work on making yourself better? You stay busy, join clubs, and just, stay focused on studying and being busy doing school stuff.
2006-09-21 17:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to her as calmly as possible that if she wants to have friends then she should stop being that way, then tell her if wants to continue to be that way, then you cannot be her friend anymore. That you don't like the way that she treats other people. Tell her she should treat people the way that she would want to be treated. If she wants people to like her now, she has to earn it after what she has put them through. Remind her of the old saying, What comes around will go around too, and sometimes it will slap you right in the face.
2006-09-21 17:28:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here is the whole thing i had a friend like that except there were to of us who were friends with her and she started being a ***** to ma good friends that i had known for ever and we got in a big fight and then ma friends said i was better off and now shes afraid that id kick her *** but im not like that all u have to do is just side with ur other friends they will back u up 100% if they are ur true friends i kno mine will and its vise versa for them u just have to make sure that u tell her why u to arent friends anymore
2006-09-21 17:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~*!Tish!*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading the responses I feel Sunbun answered it as well as it could be. Remember we do have a choice of who our friends are and will often times be compared to them because many of us believe the phrase "Birds of a feather flock together." So let your friend know that her selfishness is not a quality you wish to emulate.
2006-09-21 17:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by tom4texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will drain your energy, just dont bother and tell her why you are doing it too so that she gets the message loud and clear, she will reaslise then the hard way and possibly learn from it - put yourself first and have fun not let someone like her pull you down with her selfish ways
2006-09-21 17:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop calling, emailing, or returning her calls. When she tries to make plans, tell her that you can't stay in a friendship with someone who does not know how to be a friend.
2006-09-21 17:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋