Are you afriad of pregnancy?

Question

I am 30 years old. Married for 2 years. No kids. I want children but I am afriad of pregancy and labor. Many friends a family members are shocked by this. If I have to hear "its natural" "its the most wonderful thing" "you'll forget the pain" one more time I think I will scream. I realize that millions of women have babies every day but I never have so I am nervous. There has to be other women out there like me that are afraid of the unknowns of pregnancy that holds them back from having children. I can't be the only one with this mind set!

Answer 1

Im not a female but I can totally understand what you mean. I mean, we all go through physical pain, but certian pains dont linger around for too long, and with most women, delivering your pride and joy, the pain wont linger around for too long...which is why alot of women say "You'll forget the pain, especially once you see your baby." It's ok to be nervous, but if you really want to have children, I would suggest you go for it. I would say soon because of one important factor....your kids growing up with active parents...i'd hate to be 55 when my children are 20. Think about it, talk about it with your husband &/or friends and best wishes.

Answer 2

No, I'm not afraid of pregnancy. In fact I've already done it 3 times. When I got pregnant the first time I had only been married 3 weeks and I was 19 years old, I never even thought about being scared of it...maybe I didn't give myself enough time to. But after doing it, I have to tell you I look more forward to the labor and delivery part then the whole 9 months of pregnancy. Some women are the other way, the love being pregnant and hate giving birth. Personally I get morning sickness, heartburn, swelling, and everything else also I feel huge the whole time. But I never really dwelled that much on any of that, I just looked forward to the end result...having a baby. I think maybe you are not focusing enough on the outcome, but are focusing too much on what it takes to get there.

Answer 3

I got pregnant when I was 19 and heard so many horror stories. I am happy to say I lived through it and it honestly wasn't that bad. Don't be afraid of the pain of labor. You can choose to start taking meds for the pain the minute you get uncomfortable or you can wait until it's too much to bear or you can skip the meds completely. Pregnancy for me was worse than labor. I was sick really bad early on and at the end I had really bad heart burn. There's medications and things to deal with every single aspect of pregnancy and labor. My daughter is now 3 1/2 years old and we're trying to get pregnant with our second child. Try not to be nervous, the whole thing goes by so fast. I didn't forget the pain of labor, I know how hard it was and how many mean things I said to my husband, but by the time it was all done and I saw our daughter for the first time I felt better and felt it was worth it.

Answer 4

I used to be like that, but I was told I couldn't have kids, so it was easier for me. I found out I was pregnant when I was 5 months along! Being pregnant is fun, and you get to experience something you husband never ever will! You get to make a person, and cultivate it and help it grow! I just loved feeling my baby move for the first time, and feeling when she had the hiccups, Knowing that it was our little secret unless I wanted to share it! Yes, it does hurt, why lie? But how long can it last? That's why they make epidural! I was scared to death of labor and delivery with my first, but with my second I was not. I realized that it was because I was educated about almost all the possibilities when the second one came along! I would recommend reading up on the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing including complications and fatal outcomes, this makes everything much less frightening believe it or not! Oh, B.T.W. just a thought, if you die in childbirth, you won't know it because you'll be dead! believe it or not the thought helped me when my sister mentioned it, I don't know if it will help you or not, but maybe!

Answer 5

I am 32 years old and I'm 23 weeks Pregnant I am scared of everything that come with being pregnant. Gaining weight, possible losing the child, birth, pain. But when I think of wants at the end of the weight gain and birth and pain and all the millions of crazy thoughts. I think about me and my husband having something that we made together and something we have being wanted for a while. And just think its not like the old days were you didn't have drugs to make you comfortable. Relax and think of the joy at the end, I realize you are nervous but you can do it, its not about what every women says, its about you as a women, you can do it. Do not let you being nervous about pain keep you from the most wonderful thing in your life. Having a life. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I understand exactly how u feel. I am 35 and 5 weeks pregnant with my first.It has taken me this long for exactly the reasons u have stated. However, i can't imagine a future without children in so 2 years ago I decided to pluck up courage and try. Unfortunetly I miscarried at 6 weeks. It was a terrible time for me but looking back now it also made me realise that, yes i can do this. When you miscarry, the pain for a few days is intense, almost how I would imagine labour to be with contractions. Now, I NEVER thought I could endure that pain, but whilst it was happening, something kicked in over me, almost like a protectiive shield and I dealt with it. If i can get through an experience like that with nothing to show at the end of it, Im now positive I can get through labour with something precious at the end of it.

xx

Answer 7

Oh My Gosh,
when i read this it was like i was
reading something written by myself!
Im pretty young, very young acually,
but having baby's young is somewhat natural
in my family, my mom was pregnant with me
when she was 15 years old, my dad was 21,
oh and i have a 18 year old cousin preganant
right now. Anyways, the point is, I understand
exactly how you feel, im ready, i can definantly
handle a child, i know that for a fact, but i'm
scared it will hurt really bad, because thats
what everyone says, and im not one who's
good with pain, 15 years old and i still get
tears in my eyes when i see a doctor walk in
with a needle, haha.

Answer 8

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my daughter nearly four years ago...I was young and really scared...When I was in the delivery room, I just seemed to calm down and focus on the end result; A beautiful baby! I had no epidural and I really didn't even notice the pain....I passed out between every contraction/time I had to push. It really is a surreal experience...If you are in the right atmosphere, you will be relaxed and ready to take it all on! I was in a birth center, and they are really inviting and have a great sense of caring and safety.

Answer 9

I have extreme fear of pregnancy and birth. Most women have saggy skin and pee themselves for life after having a baby. You won't get back down to your pre-child size, either. I don't get how women cannot be affraid of it. Hello- since the begining of time tons of women DIED from it! What if there's a national emergency or terrorist attack on the day you go into labor? Is having a baby worth dying? Not a chance.

Answer 10

I felt the same way! My husband and I wanted a baby, and were so happy when we got pregnant, but I was really scared. I talked to my doctor, and she explained everything I should expect, which really helped. I also got about 12 books and looked all over the internet, and educated myself about all the possible things that could happen.

I was 31 when I got pregnant with our daughter, and honestly, even though I was scared, it was great being pregnant, and labor hurt, but I got an epidural and everything was fine. I hope this helped! Good luck to you...