Will some1 help me?

Question

my frind's mom comes home and goes to the bar every day and is always drunk. he hates his life. what should he do???

Answer 1

tell him to go to special meeting that they have for children of alcoholic parents....it will really help....it seems kinda "culty" and he will feel uncomfortable at first, but once he sees the people are cool he will open up and settle in....just a thought.

Answer 2

depending on the age of the person they should comfornt there mother or parent when the parent is sober adn tell him or her how they feel about the drinking , if that dont help then maybe talking to another parent like your parents may help the child the other thing the child may talk to a counsler or teacher etc at the school he or she goes to , but they need to make sure that the parent is actually drunk just because a parent or someone goes to a bar for a couple of drinks after work dont make them drunk , and another thing what kids need to realize now days its ok for a parent to have a drink or 2 after work as long as there not platerred adn abusing nor negliting the child , but the child need to talk to another parent like yours or even a relative , first cause once schools are involved etc the child will be removed from the situation adn placed with relatives or in a foster home sometimes it is a wake up call for parents when there child is removed from the home

Answer 3

Find support. It's good to share your feelings with a friend, but it's equally important to talk to an adult you trust. A school counselor, favorite teacher, or coach may be able to help. Some teens turn to their school D.A.R.E. (Drug and Alcohol Resistance Education) officer, whereas others find a sympathetic uncle or aunt.

Because alcoholism is such a widespread problem, several organizations offer confidential support groups and meetings for people living with alcoholics. Al-Anon, an organization designed to help the families and friends of alcoholics, has a group called Alateen that is specifically geared to young people living with adults who have drinking problems. Alateen is not only for children of alcoholics, it can also help teens whose parents may already be in recovery. Another group called Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) also offers a variety of programs and resources for people living with alcoholics.

You're not betraying your parent by seeking help. Keeping "the secret" is part of the disease of alcoholism - and it allows the problems to get worse. As with any disease, it's still possible to love a parent while recognizing that he or she has alcoholism. And it's not disloyal to seek help in dealing with the problems your parent's drinking create for you.

Find a safe environment. If you find yourself avoiding your house as much as possible, or if you're thinking about running away, consider whether you feel in danger at home. If you feel that the situation at home is becoming dangerous, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE. And never hesitate to dial 911 if you think you or another family member is in immediate danger.

Because alcoholism is a disease and not a behavior, chances are that you won't be able to change your parent's actions. But you can show your love and support - and, above all, take care of yourself.

Answer 4

It's hard to tell a drunk that they need help. My mother-in-law drinks ALL the time, but she refuses to acknowledge it's a problem. "I know how many beers I have had, and if I was drunk, I wouldn't be able to remember," is what she says.

All you can do is be there to support him and be his friend. See if he wants to have an intervention, but again, it might be hard to do. Take him to the coffee shop and create you own support group, or see if the local AA has any contact numbers for help and support.

Answer 5

There is nothing you friend can do to help his mum, but he can get support for himself. He should contact al-anon, or look on the aa website for details of an 'open' meeting that he could go along to. His mum will not be able to do anything about her alcoholism unless she wants to. Al-anon will be able to help your friend through this hard situation, and hopefully help him see that it isn't his fault. If he is in desperate need, I would suggest to him that he sees his GP or phones the Samaritans. Good luck

Answer 6

there are groups that will help out in this situation,AA,Ala none school councillors.and you as a friend.she/he can try talking to his mom the right people can find the root of her problem an/or what she is trying to escape from ,a memory of abuse,broken relationship,.Obviously she has low self esteem,in any event she has to want to change what she is doing

Answer 7

Kill himself. But I guess he won't have the guts to do so.

Hating his life is never a good reason to get drunk everyday. Tell him he just doesn't have any gut to face it hand-to-hand and turn it the way he wanted it to be. He is the only one who can help himself.

Answer 8

start loving him self for who he is and not to worry about his mom she has her own problems and he can't help her sorry it's up to her! shoot NO ONE CAN HELP HER BUT HERSELF... so the best thing for him to do is to move on with his life sence mom was not there he knows what to do already and to start planning his life accordingly!
Good luck
Mad luv

Answer 9

Tell him to go to a boys home and talk to someone about it !!!

Answer 10

check himself in to a foster home