I know I don't love my husband anymore. I look at him and think of all he's done to me and I get sick to my stomach. I want to leave so bad, but feel trapped. I'm so dependent on him. I already have everything planned out on how I would get by without him, but I'm scared to go through with it. I'm scared of taking care of my baby alone, going to school, and working all at the same time. Is this even possible? What do you guys think? Would it be worth it to be happy?
2006-09-21 09:39:17 · 31 answers · asked by Carrie! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ugh! I put people and meant BEING**
sorry
2006-09-21 09:45:06 · update #1
***I would like to add what I'm refering to when I talk about what he's done to me. He started physically and emotionally abusing me almost immediatly after we got married.
2006-09-21 09:52:10 · update #2
sound like you made a bad choice
see being married so young sucks dont it
better live for you and the baby cuz when that last shovel of dirt is thrown its goin on YOUR face
2006-09-21 09:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what your husband has done but apparently it has really hurt you. The problem is even if you leave him, you will still have these problems with the next person you get together with. Recommend you seek counseling and deal with your hurt issues. I think the problem with a lot of people is that they blame all of their problems on the other person and do not look at what problems they contributed to the relationship. I'm not saying that I am excusing the other person's actions cause they are just as responsible for their actions as we are for our own. I think it stinks that people just want to throw in the tile just becuase they don't "feel" like they love that person anymore. Love is a choice, not a feeling. Feelings come and go. All I know is when you stand in front of the priest and you said the vow for better or worse, that means for better or worse not for better and when I don't feel like it anymore then I am going to get out. There are more people involved here then just you and your hub, your child. Ask yourself this, how would you feel if you hurted someone and they threw in the towel as well. Just some ideas. Best wishes. Think really hard before you decide to throw in the towel. Talk to a professional.
2006-09-21 09:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by mtv8r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that everyone should be happy with the choices that they make in life. Since your not happy now you need to get out on your own and make things better for yourself and the baby, of course there might be custody battle. Nobody here on-line knows the whole situation, so they should only answer the question from the information you gave. People do the whole single parent thing everyday, so I don't see why you wouldn't be able to handle it. People make choices not knowing what the future holds, some work out and some don't. But if your not happy now, you have to make a change.
2006-09-21 09:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jason C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing like living in Peace and Happiness. Staying with your husband for dependence is not healthy for you or you baby. Millions of women do it alone everyday. I was one of them. You have to have a very good reason to do it and that reason is that baby. I know it's scary and you may feel alone for a while but you are not, I'm here and I'm sure there are plenty of other women who are or has been a single mother who will give you the support you need. You will see how much peace you will have in your life when you start living your life. Right now you are living a life that's not yours. Take that step and get the happiness you deserve. If you ever need to talk or just communicate with someone, you are more than welcome to email me. Take care and be strong...YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
2006-09-21 09:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very bad for the situation you are in. I too have had similar circumstances but you must be strong, believe in yourself, understand that you have the right to be happy and if you do not love your husband anymore, divorce him. It helps to speak to a very good friend/psychologist/religious person too. You do not say how old you are but you and your baby come first, school can wait until you have settled down and are much better emotionally. Whatever city you are in, look for support groups for single mothers, look into the YMCA or other for help. NEVER give up and always try to stay positive no matter what.
Good luck to you! :->
2006-09-21 09:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position. I left and lived with a friend for a couple months after I got a job that pays well. I go to school part-time, work full-time, and raise my 2 kids. I paid off all my debt from the marriage within a year, and have never felt happier. It is hard. I felt stuck for a long time. I wanted people to tell me what to do, and when they told me I should stick it out I would feel anxious and sick. But... It is totally up to you. No one can make that decision for you. My kids were very upset, my life was in chaos for a few months until I got settled, and now it's not that bad. It was the right decision for me, but I can't tell you what to do. Good luck.
2006-09-21 09:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You problem is not really a problem. Women do it everyday, take care of their children, go to school and work. Yeah, it will be hard and it will take some careful planning on your part but it can be done. Now that's if you really want to leave him. Guys don't have a problem with it. It is really hard now days to find someone that doesn't have any baggage. You are only trapped if you think you are. But think your decision over very careful before you jump. Choose what is best for your child and then what's best for you. Take care.
2006-09-21 09:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never let your fears get the best of you, this is your life and you need to take control of it. Look around you and you will see that there are many women that have done this and they're doing alright. You'll be ok, taking that first step is always the hardest but once you do, you'll be just fine. The only person that can make you happy is yourself.
2006-09-21 09:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are completely capable of doing whatever it is that you want to do...Many women have left their husbands and started a life with their children that didn't include a man and have fared out great. If you will truly be happy without your husband in your life (and it sounds like you would be) then I say go for it and give it your all.....Be strong and you can accomplish anything.
2006-09-21 09:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Millions of women do it everyday! Leave, surround yourself with positive-supportive people, go back to school, raise ur baby the best you can and live your happy life.
Do not let another human being stop you from being happy, be strong and go for it...it'll be the hardest thing you have to do in your life but the best decision you'd ever make.
Good luck!
2006-09-21 09:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 14:30:34 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋