My parents made me quit dancing because they said it wasted our time and money. I love to dance, and i did so for eight years. They made me quit two years ago, and i don't know how to tell them that i want to dance again, without them saying no. i have no idea what to say or do. My dad sort of understands, but my mom doesnt at all.
2006-09-21 09:29:56 · 14 answers · asked by emily 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Dancing
i'm 14 years old
2006-09-23 09:36:37 · update #1
Are you the same girl who couldnt tell her friends about dancing?? Do what YOU want, I pay for my own classes, I work full-time and go to school and take classes, its my passion therefore i can do it! I believe if its your passion also, you will find a way. Let them know how you feel! If they are decent parents and you agree to help pay by getting a side job, they will help you! You are only as happy as you make yourself!! Good luck!
2006-09-21 09:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by ♥RN♥ 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell them why you love dance so much. Explain and express to them that this is something very, very important to you. Show them how much you have been improving. Make it a point that it is good for your mind, body, and soul and is something to keep you busy and away from drinking and drugs (it is proved that dancers are some of the least likely people to do so, and if one is in an activity the like, it will give them less reason to need to!). Maybe you can find a more money friendly company, I know that any dance is expensive, and ballet being the most. Just sit down and have a chat on why, and see if you can engage them into a compromise. Take baby steps to get the gold! If they still do not let you, then respect that and do not act like a child. Be mature about it, and maybe they might even reconsider. Good luck, and I hope to here that you are back into the dancing world!
2006-09-21 15:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Norah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well well well... you want to quit dance? If you do are you going to come up with an acceptable alternative exercise plan? You've been conditioned during the last 10 years to MOVE!!! I quit dancing when I was 16 and I wish I hadn't! I'm 25 and on the verge of FAT! It's been so hard for me to get back into exercising. My advice - keep dancing unless you have an alternative physical activity to participate in. Do you want to play soccer? Do you want to be a roller derby girl? It's your life. If you can come up with something else that you'd like to do GO FOR IT! They can't stop you! Let them try! If you're as strong willed as I am they'll back down eventually. I hate to say this... and I really shouldn't - but if they insist you dance let them keep paying for it and just don't go! Do your homework instead!
2016-03-27 01:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most valuable lesson you will ever learn in life is that you need to do what makes YOU happy. No one else can live your life for you. I know it is much harder when you are young, though. My heart goes out to you, because I have found the passion of dance in just the past couple years, and I am almost 24. There is absolutely nothing that could stop me from dancing. I think since you are younger though, maybe you can try to show your parents that you can be responsible. Try to find an easy job, or do things around the house for your parents, to try and help with the money situation, since that seems to be the biggest problem. I hope you never stop dancing.
2006-09-27 05:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by brkon1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand your position. As a dance student, I had a rough time convincing my parents to let me continue my dancing. Dancing takes up time and money, and the more you advance, the more in requires of both. Maybe your parents are worried about your school workload, maybe they're on a tight budget. Maybe they're just being unreasonable. Whatever it is, the best you can do is show them that you won't neglect your schoolwork if you start dancing again and try to find a combination of dance lessons that's easy on their pockets. Maybe you can do less hours. Try talking to your father since he is more understanding, and try to find a way (with his help) of spending less time and money on dancing than you did before.
If you're old enough (you haven't specified) maybe you can find a weekend part-time job to pay for some fo your dance lessons. Some parents don't like their child working, even if it's part-time, but if they have no problem with it then it would be a good idea. Maybe you can make a deal with them about your allowance? Getting, for instance, less money that you're getting now in order to pay for dancing?
Negotiate. Be persistent. They're bound to see that you really want to dance, if you make them see that you're driven enough.
Good luck.
Ellie
2006-09-22 03:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you did it for 8 years + 2 years of off time you must be at least 14 now. You are almost adult, you should be able to talk to your parents. Explian them in the most mature way possible that this is your best motivation and passion in life. That it cannot be looked at as waste of time. Try to ask them about money situation - see if you can still find some affordeable arrangement. If they say no again - it doesn't mean you can't ask for it again. Not in the annoying kid's way, but in an adult mature way. If they say no - find out why and how can it be turned into a yes. Talk to your dad first. See if he can tell you why are they so opposed to it. Maybe you can convince him and maybe he can talk to mom on your behalf.
2006-09-21 10:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to make it absolutely clear to both of them dancing is something you feel very strongly about often in life we will get the answer no many times but when we know we want something then pursue it with determination in both heart and mind show you have the ability for it to your parents and go to those who can help you achieve it with time effort energy and money you dont start a project first without counting the full cost of what it will take to accomplish your goal firmly remember this hope it happens for you soon many kind regards
2006-09-29 06:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes down to money, try to show them that it is worth your time and effort. The public library has lots of books and videos. If you keep up and master those...perhaps it'll be enough to show them that you are willing to do what you need to do in order to learn. Just remember, you don't need a teacher to teach you how to dance. Sure it helps to learn from someone, but if you are truely dedicated to dance, you can go a long way on your own. Also check into the local community centers, sometimes they offer cheaper classes. Let me know what happens.
2006-09-25 13:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by motherearthdancer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dancing is great exercise - you could use that approach.
You don't say how old you are. Could you get a job, even babysitting, to help pay for the lessons?
Sit down with both your parents and talk it over with them. Offer to help pay for them, even if it means giving up your allowance. Or, since you have 8 years of experience, could you get a discount on your fees by helping with the beginners? Or cleaning the studio? Or helping with paperwork?
Think it through, have some positive ways to help with the cost, and good luck.
2006-09-21 09:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what u will but keep in mind that Ur parents care 4 u n in return u should do the same.As a teen i know wht it feels like to be disappointed.But remember,everything that happens is for once's good.That's what i want to say.
2006-09-29 06:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by ashmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋