Went to my bf's daughter's wedding - arranged seating table name we sat on was "Romance" - on this table were couples but there seated a seat away from my bf was his ex wife who just recenlty got divorced - my bf with every joke the announcer told he kept reaching accross the table to grab her wrist laughing. There were so many times he left me at the table alone while visiting/chatting with friends and family members on other tables- I really felt not included - Am I wrong for feeling the way I do and shouldn't that "Romance" table only consist of romancing couples? Disappearing bf..........I'm upset!!!!
2006-09-21 09:18:29 · 3 answers · asked by Leila 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I almost feel like the daughter was trying to rekindle her mom and her dad at the wedding.
2006-09-21 09:33:29 · update #1
I think I would have been upset too. I think it was wrong for him to make you feel so left out. You should have been included more because you are now a part of his life.
2006-09-21 15:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Romance Table,
At first glance it seems like a subject to really get pissed off about. Maybe even hurt or both. Yet one must ask themselves first of all how strong your relationship is with your boyfriend. Many factors need to be considered before taking a particular point of view. How long has your boyfriend been divorced? How strong is his relationship with his EX. Are they friends? Do they actually have that spark still that automatically caught you off guard and suddenly paying close attention. Or .. can it possibly be that there is just a little insecurity that is natural in this awkward situation. The natural thing that two parents dream of sharing when their little one grows up and finally gets married. A bond that even though the love they shared as soulmates is severed, can not be understood except by the two of them. Which as parents is their right to share and enjoy on such a celebritory ocassion. Being seated at the same table is justifiable as parents of the bride and probably expected, if both parents are on good terms. I admit the grabbing her wrist was a bit over the top, but I I don't know the type of relationship they shared to get them to such a comfort level. What an honor for you to have been invited as part of that special day to witness his baby getting married and share in that family joy. He must feel pretty confident in your relationship to have you as his guest on such an important date. I think that speaks volumes for you as a Girlfriend! So my advise is this, stop over analyzing it, calm down and just accept the simple fact that he was enjoying his daughters wedding. As parents of the bride of course he had obligations to go off and get pats on the back from friends and family... he trusted that you were mature enough to mingle too.. I hope that helps. Good luck and bask in the knowledge that if you weren't special to him you probably wouldn't have been there at all!!
Sincerely,
A
2006-09-21 10:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Angelisa Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss your feelings with him before getting too upset, tell it like it is. and if he's still an a-- then maybe your better off with out him, would he like it if you returned the favor?
2006-09-21 09:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by butterflygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋