I have been with my man for 5 years we got a kid together,but i keep haveing these fantasies of another girl haveing a threesome with me and my man and my man with her,in reality i am a very possesive women and go mad if a gal evens looks at my man in a sexy way i usuallly go fo her,so why am i haveing these fantasies,my man loves me our **x life is really good but sometimes in **x i ask him to pretend there is another women makeing out and tell him to sh** her,he gets a bit uncomfortable but i guess its every mans fantasy,please please do you think i would regret liveing this fantasy out,he dosent know how strongly i feel about this he thinks its just a joke.however he said him seeing me with another woman would turn him on,but we are possesive over each other help some good advice
2006-09-21 09:06:39 · 28 answers · asked by ellevina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
BUT will it ruin our relationship as i am a very jealous poosesive girl or do you think i would be fine with it i even have dreams that i am enjoying it then after i kick the **** out the girl,we watch porn together
2006-09-21 09:11:39 · update #1
THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ADVICE AND FOR TAKEING YOUR TIME IF I DO IT I I DONT THINK I WILL EVER DO IT BUT IF I DO I WILL TELL YOU ALL.THANK YOU FOR YOUR ANSWERS TOMORROW I WILL GIVE ONE OF YOUR 12 POINTS ,IT WONT LET ME GIVE 12 POINTS YET I DONT KNOW WHY.
2006-09-21 09:25:34 · update #2
That is all it is just a fantasy, if you are possessive then please do not go there because it will ruin your relationship and that is not worth doing just for a fantasy. And if the sex is really good then there is no need to worry is there? Even if it is his fantasy then let it stay that way and just keep having those saucy dreams!!
2006-09-21 09:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by caroline b 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With where you are right now, yes, you would definitely regret trying to fulfill this fantasy right now. Right now, you don't actually want the threesome - you *want* to want it, which is different. And jumping into something like that at this stage is a bad idea. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE.
You'll need to talk either with your man or with a professional counselor and figure out why you are so possessive - if you lose it when a girl casually flirts with your guy, there is no way you will ever be able to gracefully handle another girl having sex with your guy. And even if you decide that you don't want a threesome, getting a handle on that jealousy will still be useful in other situations later.
One of the "hot" things about a threesome is the extra attention, and when it's two girls involved, there is often a lot more sensual play (foreplay etc.). Another hot thing is the novelty - you're having sex with someone new, and that's always a rush. You may want to see if you can explore other ways to bring novelty and sensuality into your sex life - erotic massage, BDSM, toys, whatever. It may sound a little like drinking a diet soda when you're craving a real one, but perhaps it will help "tide you over" until you're better prepared psychologically for everything that a threesome will entail - good *and* bad.
2006-09-21 16:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off don't do anything you will regret later on . Its a 50/50 chance it can ruin your relationship. Either you will like her more than your man or he will like her more than you and you wouldn't want that. Yes it is most men fantasy to have 2 girls in the same room having $ex with both at the same time but he will get over it. If you know you are very jealous just leave it as a fantasy. Think about it before you act on it. Good Luck girl.
2006-09-21 18:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try it, try it - but i think you could regret it. Its a good fantasy and everything, and girls are lovely to sleep with, but fantasies are amazing because.. well... they're fantasies.
My ex-boyfriend and i discussed it when we were together, and i thought id like it as id been with girls before, so i thought it would be kind of hot. Although i was worried about jealousy. In the end it was actually HIM that said he wouldnt want to be with anyone else, and he wouldnt feel right having sex with another girl.
So we never did it and im delighted we didnt - i know i would have always wondered if he secretly wanted to be with her again etc etc.
Although i am fabulous in bed so im sure it would have been fine ha ha :)
2006-09-21 16:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by deemon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man my own fantasies want me to tell you to do it however there are many risks with this:
1. What if he really likes it and you don't, you could be opening Pandora's box (no pun intended)?
2. What if he likes her more?
3. What if he is really put off by it
Think carefully and talk it through with him. Have a plan if you go ahead that allows you to put a stop to it in a dignified manner.
2006-09-21 16:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by gbiaki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have jealousy issues...resolve them before you venture into a threesome. If you don't, you're setting yourself up for heartache, sweetie. I understand how you feel...I was curious for many years, until we did it (now I'm hooked, lol). But, I've been married 10 years, and we worked out all the little issues before we did anything. Proceed with caution, girlfriend, or it could lead straight to divorce. Make sure you're ready, and it could be a great intimacy enhancer for you and your hubby when it's just the 2 of you.
2006-09-21 16:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Legs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls I have known seem to have this fantasy and acouple I have been with tried it out, one of them was very dissappointed, the other thought the sex with the other girl was great and has done it many times since with lots of girls.Dont girls just know what a girl needs or so they say..
2006-09-21 16:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by TONY C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-09-22 02:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some things are better left as a fantasy...I am struggling with this one myself actually...the more I think about it the more I think we should just leave it as a fantasy....especially if there is a chance of it ruining our relationship...that would certainly make it not worth it....I hope this helps you....my advice is simply, if you are already having doubts, don't do it....
2006-09-21 16:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try watching porn together that features threesomes. The truth is that fantasy is usually better than the reality.
2006-09-21 16:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋