my roommate and i got along real great and hung out alot at the beginning of school.. now she's hanging out with other ppl and its the completly WRONG ppl! she's now completely avoiding us that she was hanging with before.. and in the room she won't say anything to me unless the ppl she hangs with now come in but she ignores me. how can i tell her she's in the wrong with them? and how can i show her how bad i'm hurt?
2006-09-21 09:05:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you know to tell you the truth i was the same way with my roommate last year. just tell her how you feel. the truth doesnt hurt. just make sure you are for sure she is doing those things cuz assuming is not always the best. but yeah tell her. if you two were close in the beginning then she will respect your thoughts.
2006-09-21 09:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by sky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame her friends. She's learning who she is and she might end up being someone you don't like. If you outright tell her her friends are wrong for her she'll get defensive and you might as well forget about it! You could simply ask her if you've done something you are unaware of that has hurt or insulted her. Then tell her that you miss hanging out with her, that you thought you had a good time together. Poke around to see what she is thinking without jumping to conclusions. Maybe you left the ice tray out one too many times and that's why she's ignoring you. Or maybe, if you ask right, you'll find out the real reason and be able to help her through it.
2006-09-21 16:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard. My daughter was friends with her roommate last year and half way through the year the friend moved out. She use to claim she had a heart condition and that the tension made it worse. Well guess what that was a lie and she used that to make friends and have people feel sorry for her. You also can not be jealous of her making new friends. That was part of the problem with my daughters room mate. Let her know how you feel and you both have room to grow making new friends but being friends and roommates we need to be respectful of each other. Good Luck.
Just to let you know my daughter has a private room this year. She loves it.
2006-09-21 16:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Didi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always say tell people how you are feeling. They do not know unless you tell them. You need to tell her you think she is in with the wrong people and you miss her as a friend. Ask her why she just quit talking to you. Good luck I hope all works out for you.
2006-09-21 16:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't pass your judgement of her friends on to her. You should tell her how you feel and that you are hurt. It's fine if she wants to have other friends too but she shouldn't just completly ignore you.
2006-09-21 16:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say "how come we dont hang out anymore? we used to have a lot of fun"
telling her that her friends are wrong is just going to make her upset.
2006-09-21 16:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋