What advice would you give to someone who is about to get married?

Answer 1

DON'T! Ok, seriously...

1 - Make sure that this person is a match with you mentally. Looks go, but if you share the same likes, dislikes, interests, etc. that will never change.

2 - Discuss all the big things before you get married - where will you live, will you have kids, will you have pets, how much money should you save every month, etc.?

3 - No matter how in love you are, get a good, binding pre-nup! If your partner whines about it, run away. It means that if you ever decide that this isn't right for you, they want to make you pay financially for breaking their heart. Don't let this problem hang over your head.

Answer 2

Be sure that you really love them and are ready to give your all. Otherwise it will not work. Marriage isn't all peaches and cream. It is work to build something nice.

Marriage is what you put into it. The minute you just let it go, it will be like your deck...needing work and starting to break down.

And one other thing....you aren't the only one in it. Meaning....your partner needs to be just as committed. There are lots of people who think that if they love the other person enough, it will work. Not true. It is a two way street.

If you are ready, and the other person is too...then good luck. Too many get married for the wrong reasons. Name your reasons, have her name hers. If the desire to create a great relationship isn't in the top three, then you may want to wait a while.

Good luck

Answer 3

This is a 10,000 book subject. However you should look at some general subjects.
1. Do you have a plan for your life? (i.e. where do you want to be at 55years of age and how ill you get there)
2. Does she have a plan for her life?
3. Does her plan agree with your plan? If they don't then you will probably have problems.
4. Do you see any "danger signs"? (i.e. bitchyness, severe PMS, mental instability, many broken past relationships, does she have, or has had, any substance abuse problems etc.....).

The list can on and on. I would recommend that you check out the following website. It has all of this covered (and more) for you to have a sucessful marriage.

http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Considering what is at stake here (i.e. child support, alimony and 1/2 of your financial world) you don't have the luxury of making a poor choice!

Good Luck

Answer 4

Understand what committment REALLY means. The vows you say on the altar are not a good way to judge. Are you willing to stay with this person even on the days you hate them, on the days they arent' themselves, on the days you look at them and dont' recognize them, if you have a major tragedy in your lives, like one of you gets really sick, or you go bankrupt? Marriage means sticking through all those things and working them out.....no matter what. You have to KNOW that at some point you will want to get out......no one believes that until they're married. You have to work through those moments.
The other important questions to ask yourself are: can I live with/even LOVE this person's flaws for the rest of my life? Do I want to change this person?(if the answer to that is yes, you are already in trouble).

Answer 5

it is not too late to save yourself from this life sentence and if you must trade away your autonomy and happiness for a financial and emotional life sentence of compromise and a family member with your inlaws, then dont ruin it by having kids everyone is happily married until that time then it is all downhill from there and sign a prenup making her promise not too gain 50 pounds now that you are married cause it seems to have become the standard now get married gain ten to fifteen pounds a year then hate him and become jealous and insecure cause the jerk wont touch you and if he loved you he would not care about your weight, right! this happens al too often and weight is an issue

Answer 6

its all about giving and taking.theres gonna be good days and there will be bad days,but, you are both setting the groundwork for your future and you need to always remember that. keep an open mind and always communicate with each other. learn to make comprimises and learn when to hold your ground. its a new time in your life and its still a growing time. no matter how old we get, theres always something new to learn,so, remember that when the two of you start to come into your own,so, to speak.honesty, thats a big major ibn all relationships. respect is another. dont ever start with the name calling when mad, because words do hurt and they dont go away.good luck on your new adventur into another part of life. and god bless. if you ever get to old to learn something new, well, you are just too old.goodluck to the both of you.

Answer 7

I've been married a little over a year and the best advice I was given (and thankfully took) was to get premarital counseling. It seriously saved our marriage before it began. I would ask around to see if anyone you know has had counseling and get recommendations for a counselor.

Answer 8

Show your love 24/7 not just using words, use actions. Treat your spouse like an equal in all situations, always treat them with respect, love, desire and faithfulness. Everyday find something new to compliment them on. NEVER goto bed mad at eachother and NEVER EVER say in a fight or any situation that you want a divorce cuz that will hurt forever and it will always be in the back of that person's mind that you felt that way at one time. ALWAYS love your spouse atleast 50%more than they love you.

Answer 9

Communication is everything. Learn to communicate things to each other even when its something that's hard to say. Learn to listen to things that are hard to hear without being defensive. Sex will come and go in any relationship but it is one of the most important things to have. It keeps you close. If you start to lose sex, communicate your concerns clearly without placing blame. If sex is gone for awhile you can always fall back on your friendship with each other to get you through. It will come back if you communicate.

Answer 10

that's a hard answer these days. search your heart is the only answer if have.

check the doubts, is there any thing you can't give up if you were asked.

statistics are not in favor of the married people any more

remember it is a lifetime decision