I am looking for answers from other parents who believe in letting their baby cry it out when they go to sleep. I have already decided to go this route. My baby is 9 months old. I'm also wondering what you do when you've let them cry it out for a certain amount of time. Do you pick them up? Then what? Thanks.I don't need to hear opinions from people who don't agree with this method. I realize some of you disagree with this, you don't need to tell me. I need help from people who understand where I'm coming from. Thank-you.
2006-09-21 08:39:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My son is 14mths & i have always done this with him.I let him cry for about 30-45mins.Normally he just whines on & off.If he is screaming to the top of his lungs i do not let him cry for as long.That means he needs something.After 45 if he is still crying i get him out change diaper,feed him if he is hungry make sure all of his needs are taken care of,give him his sippy cup,lay him down & try it again.He is use to it so most of the time when i put him in his crib he knows it is rest time & even when he does'nt take a nap he will just play in his bed for at least an hour or watch his TV.I believe in letting a baby cry it out.It is perfectly safe & is not neglect.I believe if you run to there every cry it spoils them in to demanding your attention more often because they know they can get it by crying.Every mother & baby need time to themselves.Ps I did not let my first child cry it out.He would'nt sleep in his crib after 6mths,he never took naps & never wanted to be by his self.My cousins 15mth old girl is the same way because she has never let her cry & she has never put her in a crib.My 14mth old takes to 21/2 hour naps a day ,loves to be by his self & goes to sllep by his self.In my opinion it gives them a sense of independence.Hopre this info helps.
2006-09-21 09:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by hotmama 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends what the certain time is And what all you have done. If you know they are full, and the diaper is changed I say let the baby cry. This does not hurt your child and there will be no ill-affects. He/She will eventually go to sleep and will also begin to get use to not having mom or dad hold them all the time. I have a 5 year old a two year old and a 4 month old.
Hope this helps and just hang in there. I know how painful that cry can be.
*I agree with others 30 mins is a good amount of time*.
2006-09-21 08:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by ruck1b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We heard about the "Ferber Method" and decided to try a variation of that. Basically when they wake up, you leave them alone for a while, to see if they can comfort themselves back to sleep. Of course you go in if you think somethings wrong. We would give him just a few minutes (usually 5 the first time, and maybe every 10 after that) of fussing/crying - then go in, give him a pacifier, reassure him that we love him, give a little cuddle, then back in the crib. It took some time the first two nights, but by night 3 we only had to go in 1-2 times and by night 5 he was sleeping from 9-9:30p.m. until 8a.m. and if he wakes up in the night, we RARELY have to go in his room at all! We started this around 5 months old (he's 10mo's now and sleeps great!). I hope you find a way to get better sleep, it will make both you and baby happier. If you have any other questions about this please feel free to e-mail me!
2006-09-21 09:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a 3 mos old and here is what I have learned from all my research:
If they are not; hungry, wet or in pain it is ok to let them cry a little. Make sure all the babies needs are met and then you can listen for the tone of the cry. If it is whinny or weak, its not anything that will probably continue too long. However, if it is shrieking or screeching (sp?)you should definatley pick baby up and comfort. Anytime my son is crying, I just wait to see (if I know his needs have all been met and he is not sick or in pain) if he will stop. If it does not, I pick him up and comfort him and then once he is better I quickly put him back down. This may have to be repeated several times. Some babies cry when they are overtired and mine is one of those types. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 08:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by Gina Maree 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What I have done is let them cry for 10-15 min. and then if they are still crying I will go in and not take my baby out of the crib but just comfort my baby in the crib. Do this untill they stop crying and then leave. I think this works well becuase if you take them out of the crib they think if they cry they can come out and play or whatever. Also, if it is really late at night then I just let the baby cry untill they fall asleep because eventually they do.
2006-09-21 08:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by tina*21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have three children, ages 7, 5, and 2. I let each of them cry it out. It's definitely one of the hardest things I've ever done; but ultimately it works and it's better for you and the baby. All three of mine reacted pretty much the same way. The first night I did it, they cried for between 45 mintues and 1 hour. The second night it was about the same. The third night it went down to about 15 mintues. It got progressively better until they didn't cry at all. At no point should you go in and get them. If you do, then they'll learn to cry for that amount of time, knowing you will then come in. The only thing I could do was turn off my monitor, turn up my tv and pray that I couldn't hear them. It really is very, very hard. However, you know your baby is ok. They are going to continue to be ok. This really is best for them and for you. Good luck!!!
2006-09-21 08:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I totally understand and I think it's the best way to get them back to sleep. I always did a modified version. When my daughter would start crying I would wait about 5, adding two minutes each time, before going in.
I would not pick her up, but I would hug her and say it was ok and that she needed to go back to sleep. I would stay with her maybe three minutes soothing her - but not picking her up. Usually she continued to cry - I left the room and waited seven (adding two minutes to the original 5) minutes before going back and did the same things I mentioned above. Usually by the time I was waiting 11 minutes she would get back to sleep on her own - so maybe the whole thing took 20 minutes.
Usually it took about 3 nights to get her back on track.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-21 09:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have a 4.5 month old son and I did the let him cry thing. It works for me at bedtime. I would let him cry and then about every five minutes I would go in at let him know that I was there for him. As far as picking him up, I do that sometimes and walk him around in the bedroom until he falls asleep, or I let him hold my finger and then I put him in his bouncy seat and put him to sleep that way. I think that it depends on your baby how long you will let him cry.
2006-09-21 08:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Been there darlin'... so long as your baby is healthy and not sick.. it's perfectly alright to let them cry it out! Put your child in his/her crib, walk away and leave a crack in the door and let scream as long as it takes for them to tire themself out and go to sleep... go in about every 15 minutes or so and lay them back down, pat their back, anythhing that is your way to reassure them... and leave the room again.. u do this for as long as it takes.. and then the next time u put them down for sleepy time.. u wait a little bit longer before going in... eventually your child will find a way to comfort themself and go to sleep on their own.. I know it works because I had to do with this my daughter when she was a baby.. and soothing music might help too, maybe some classical or one of those nature sound cd's!! As there might be a stimulus that is keeping the child agitated. and if it's something to do with sound, this might cover it up... just keep at it, and make sure u get some deep breaths to relax when it's going on and be patient.. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!! I know how stressful it can be!!!
2006-09-21 09:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by someone s 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really do not believe in letting them cry it out because i feel they are only a baby once and before long they will want their Independence. I have read in lots of books and told by a doc. to let them cry for like 5 minutes and then go in and comfort them ,but not pick them up. Lay them back down and tell them good night and leave the room and do this until they go to sleep. I hope it works for you. I can not bare to hear my baby cry for me.
2006-09-21 08:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by housewives5 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋