So i've been Married for 4 years and I love my wife more then anything, I do so much for her, I spoil her everyday. I give her all the Love and support that she would ever need. I allow her to follow her dreams no matter if I disagree with her. I have devoted my whole life to her. I literally treat her like a Goddess...
So for the last few months she has changed. she doesn't answer her phone alot, she is alwyas going out with her friends, she doesn't want to be close anymore, then I find out that she has cheated on me. What did I do wrong? I am not over bearing I let her do what she wants and I tell her and show her everyday how much I love her and she goes and does this? What did I do wrong???
2006-09-21 08:19:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she does work, our sex life is, or was great.
2006-09-21 08:25:10 · update #1
i'm not a pushover, i just treat my wife like that cuz I love her
2006-09-21 08:27:18 · update #2
I think you are a great man for treating her like this. I don't think you did anything wrong!
2006-09-21 08:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun they ain't lying when they say us women are compicated creatures. Have you ever been in a relationship where everything was great but you just felt like something was missin? Maybe you didn't do nothing wrong at all maybe you did everything to right. Sometimes people women especially tend to get tired of the same old thing. Thats one reason guy's cheat like they do. Women are just different with how they deal with it. If you really treated her the way you say you did then it probably had nothing to do with you and was more her.
2006-09-21 08:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did nothing wrong...its not your fault but there is only one person who can give you the best answer...your wife. Have you confronted her on this? We are only hearing one side of this story and sometimes the obvious isnt so obvious to the one involved. I actually dont know what to say. We change as we get older, and sometimes w/that change we drift apart and we need to redirect ourselves. No matter how great you treated her, its not enough if you didnt have good communication and listened to her when she talked. So with that said, go talk to her.
2006-09-21 08:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Maybe she's just a spoiled little witch who took advantage of you. Maybe she was so used to getting exactly what she wanted, she thought nothing of doing it with another man because she wanted it, and she's always gotten what she wants.
2- Maybe you lacked a spine and that's not attractive. People need boundaries in order to respect their partner. Indulging her every whim and devoting your life to her doesn't sound very healthy- in fact, it sounds boring. She may have found you boring because every breath you took was to make her happy. That's really not exciting or sexy and frankly, it doesnt' even sound like much of a partnership or marriage-- it sounds more like "daddy + spoiled baby."
3- Maybe you weren't treating her like an equal- you were treating her like a pampered pet.
It might sound romantic and fuzzy-wuzzy to be treated that way, but I'd go insane if my husband behaved like you. Sorry.
2006-09-21 08:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little like a push over, and that needs to come to a stop starting today. You gave her too much, and it would have been good if she worked for some of your love. It is good to give your partner challenges sometime to keep them interested. The mistakes you made were: you made life too comfortable for her, your kindness was taken as weakness, and you seem as though you never gave her a challenges. If you decided to stay with her make her earn your love, truth, respect and forgiveness.
2006-09-21 08:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated,it's her fault not yours.She chose to stray,it doesn't seem that you haven't been providing the love and companionship that she needs.Unfortunately you will need to move on,I personally feel that once they stray they will do it again.Whatever her reason she went outside of the marriage to fill her needs and that is a violation of her vows.Talk to her and find out why she did what she did and learn from it,treating a woman well is a great habit,don't change that ,change woman.
2006-09-21 08:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem like a great man so ill be soft.
first of all i think you might have married a girl that doesn't love you for you. she loves you for what you can do for her. that's red flag # one
and second you let her run all over you, I'm not saying you should be horrible and treat her like crap but you need to stand up for yourself. this is very tricky to do Cus you dint want to be overly demanding but you are worth being treated nicely
and if i were in your spot i would leave because there is no excuse for cheating and trashing a relationship like that
2006-09-21 08:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what my father calls the wrong thing to do, you gave her to much space and you treated her as a goddess, you never spoke your mind and told her you disagree with her. But really for her cheating on you ,,,,, you did not cause that that was something she did.if i was in your shoes i would say see ya later because if you can not trust her now you have nothing.
2006-09-21 08:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby just erasy up a lil...if she is still cheating.....and u are as good to her as u say u are.....just back up and let her see just how good u are to her.........cuz just ne i no...everyone ios not gonna bve as good as u are to her. and if u just lay be give her alota space and time and TRUST ME! she will see this .........but i can promis u how long this will take... cuz a female when she gets stripped if tthose goods that she has gottin used to .see will notice what she is missin and then she WILL come back to u...and thas when u have the over hand cuz u didnt do nothin wrong she did...... so now u can set the rules and becuz she married u she Will do almost anything to win u back over. so thas when u lay the rules of what u want.
2006-09-21 08:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jewels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you did wrong was everything. When you treat a woman like that it's a fact you gonna loose her. A woman when she see that she got's all she needs she just wants more and more. If you ask her she will say that you haven't done anything for her! In my country we say that when you get back from work always slap your wife once. If you don't know the reason SHE does!
2006-09-21 08:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some females are just......WRONG! The problem isnt you, your wife is obviously a trick so dont rack your brain about it. She took your kindness as a weakness and hurt you.
I bet if you treated her like the trash that she is she wouldve been faithful. Just leave the marriage and take in slow....
Good Luck and remind, its not your fault, she was born a hoe.
2006-09-21 08:24:41 · answer #11 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋