Maybe because he was my first serious boyfriend. We broke up 6 years ago...it was a sexual relationship above all, he broke my heart. He cheated on me (several times) and at times felt as though I was just there for the sex (which was not all that exciting...ever, all 47 seconds of it) and after we broke up, It bothered me that he dated another girl named Crystal (I'm Kristle) and that bugged me like he was trying to "replace me"
Several other things bothered me, he went into the military and has been in Texas since. I see his mom sometimes and we talk. I got married to the man of my dreams in June, and I found out today that he got married in August. I had a dream before the wedding that he came to the church (we married in a park) and tried to win me back...I left Dan at the alter and told my ex (all this is in my dream, did NOT happen) I was happy and to move on...and came back and marred my husband. Why does it bother me that he got married? I like never even think about him.
2006-09-21 07:55:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because you still have feelings for him
2006-09-21 07:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you had strong feelings for him at one point, and if you love someone it never fully goes away no matter how much you want it to.
Even if you found the man of your dream, you still feel something for this other person even if the desire part of it is a thing of the past.
You probably have some residual feelings because you never fully allowed yourself to grieve over your loss of the relationship, so you have these feelings. Let yourself feel them, feel them fully like you would over the loss of a friend, and move on.
You have to be able to let go of your past to be happy.
2006-09-21 08:02:34 · answer #2 · answered by princessin_bluejeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's no longer regarding the ex or the son. that's approximately you and your insecurities. earlier you strengthen a relationship with this newborn, you're able to be able to desire to make your strategies up in case you're keen to do the artwork to unload your bags. there is little need putting that newborn in yet another undesirable subject. youngsters want love. in case you are able to no longer love him because of the fact you're afraid his father ought to love his ex, then get out of the relationship now. they seem to be a packaged deal. You all ought to get alongside and you will no longer in case you go in with an strategies-set. the newborn would be harm the main. pay attention to that voice on your head. what's it asserting? Do you experience below? you ought to truly seek for to brush aside all the adverse issues you're saying to your self on a on a daily basis foundation. in user-friendly terms then, are you able to grow to be the shield guy or woman which could love and be enjoyed with out worry. that's as much as you. in user-friendly terms you are able to exchange you.
2016-10-15 06:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not because you still have feelings for him. it's probably more because you feel like you're too good to have been replaced. it's selfish, but people like to think that they're the best thing that ever happened to someone. and when you realize you've been replaced and he's happy (or maybe even happier) it's a blow to the ego.
i'm in that situation now. :)
2006-09-21 08:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cayce A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why... Maybe you haven't have very many serious relationships. Believe me, after having a few, the prior ones fade away into the distance. When you love a lot, you learn to forget a lot.
2006-09-21 08:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, in your heart, you didn't forgive him for hurting you, so as a result, he still has a piece of your soul. Forgive him for disappointing and hurting you, forgive yourself for allowing him to do so, and take back that power. Releasing him from that hurt place in your heat will free you to move on with your life. No more shoulda,coulda,woulda's, ok? Be encouraged and keep your head up. You've got a great future ahead of you.
2006-09-21 08:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because living well is the best revenge, and subconsciously you want him to realize that you were the best thing that happened to him, and he blew it. In your dream, HE is the one that was coming to YOU for another chance, and you blew him off to marry your husband.
If you want to feel better, send him a letter congratulating him on his marriage, and mention all the wonderful things that you have in YOUR life now.
2006-09-21 08:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by dawniedawn67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all think about "the one that got away" sometimes. I dream sometimes about my "one that got away", and I have'nt seen him in 16 years. Just because you don't want him anymore, that dosen't mean you want anyone else to have him either. You get what I'm saying?? We are all like this to some extent, I think!!!
2006-09-21 08:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by POPPY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A first love or serious love is always in your brain. It is what you base all other relationships on. I don't think there is anything wrong you with. Just let it go and move on. In time it will fade...
2006-09-21 08:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he hurt you so much. Inside you still feel like he should ahve gotten a punishment for doing that to you and it bothers you that he is happy and he did not have to "pay" for his actions.
2006-09-21 08:11:08 · answer #10 · answered by LittleTownChic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I knew the answer to that one also, It has been 7 months for me and it stills bothers me,,,,,,,, Because we still love them i guess
2006-09-21 08:02:20 · answer #11 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋