He is either trying to get me to divorce him. I think he has been using me for financial gain and he's trying to get out now, except he wants it to look like me. I'm so hurt. I've been so betrayed and I can't stop hurting. Everything I've ever wanted in my life has been taken from me. I prayevery day about everything and nothing good ever happens to me. He even mocks that i pray and haven't gotten answers. He is having an affair and it has gone on for a long time. Except he won't admit to it. I told him that if he didn't want to be with me all he has to do is tell me and someone give me a picture of them and I'd do something. I feel like he is always messing with my mind. I believe that's how he is getting finances by making me look not normal. This man is very wrong to think that someday god won't help. As for now it still is very painful. If anyone has ever been in this situation please answer this question.
2006-09-21 07:54:33 · 24 answers · asked by Becky M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
can i beat you also.this is a sick relationship .are you so ugly to yourself that you alow this to go on .stop giving up money and kick this *** out there are a lot of guys that would treat you well for your money .
2006-09-21 07:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Your prayers are not in vain, but you have to be willing to accept the answer. In this situation I believe that God does not want his child (you) to be a doormat. I've been there before and in my situation I vowed to stay and pray that one day, things would change. They didn't, and eventually my 1st husband (who was having an affair) put me out of the house, and told me that I couldn't come back until and unless I accepted his outside relationship which he would stop, once I learned to "act right!"
I sure hope that you don't have children witnessing this. Go to one of your relatives that loves you and take some time to yourself. Only you can decide what's best for you, but I bet you that when you discover that life goes on and feels better without someone putting you down, you'll seek a divorce on your own.
2006-09-21 09:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by rosenberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of your life and stop being a victim! Time to grow up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You can look at live many different ways and it seems as though you are choosing the way that does not allow you to do anything for yourself. Get help for yourself, talk to someone professional to move forward and take charge. Living your life as a victim will continually make everyone else wrong but YOU! Guess what YOU are in charge of your own life and the people that you choose to be in it.
2006-09-21 08:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are feeling, My self whent through the same thing. The only thing you should do is Divorce Him. If you dont, all its going to do is bring you more unhappyness and pain. And if he is useing you for financial gain then that is all you will ever be to him, a money pot.Get out, There is more to life than to be misstreeted like a dog.Get yourself some counceling and get rid of this creep. He doesent want you, so get rid of him.
2006-09-21 08:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you to see a divorce lawyer. Stop letting him having the upper hand, of course keep praying, but you don"t let any one make a fool out of you, he is using you, and don't let him know every thing you are doing, and as much proof, you can get,about him , and the other woman, get it. For your own sanity sake you have to get out of this situation, God did not make no fools, and you do not have to stay around, to be his fool. Be strong, do what ever you have to do, Don't tell people about your business, let them see, you can handle you stuff. So start to look for a good lawyer. God Bless you!!!!
2006-09-21 08:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK you fell into a situation. Now try this "IF you think your getting screwed you probably are" Trust you gut feelings. He isn't doing to much to change your feelings. Accept the fact that sometimes things just fall apart. Seperate. Try life on you own. I don't ever want a person who needs me I want someone who wants me. Not for gain but for the thrill of life with some one! Life is sooooo wonderful and if you spend tomuch time worrying and unhappy that is what you life will be . Don't alow negitivity to ruin who you are. Do not allow any one to controle you to the point that you are misserable. JUST DON'T ALLOW IT!!!!!
2006-09-21 08:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by dboldt5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to believe God will help you when you pray for help. Second God helps those who help themselves. Hire a good private detective. Get proof,and cut that ungrateful fool loose!!! Find someone you can love and enjoy who will feel the same way about you. If you aren't strong enough to do this by yourself , get counseling! Good Luck! Stop spending your life in pain on purpose.
2006-09-21 08:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOOK go to church pore your heart into the things of the LORD. BRACE your self. TUCK moneys a way. BE KIND TO HIM PRAY 4 HIM. THEN as you move on realize that my sister the same thing happened to her. SHE tucked moneys a way. SHE braced her self 4 the worse to come. Then she divorced him. LATER went to church and asked G0d 4 a good man. and if he didn't bring her a good man she didn't want no more loosers any more. SHE is now married to a wonderful man. So G0d can turn this around trust me i have watched him in action. JUST TELL YOUR SELF i want better. And don't move till you get better.PRAYER helps too. bless YOU. and hang in there. love star
2006-09-21 08:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time to dump the loser.You want him to tell you he doesn't want to be with you,he does every time he mistreats you.You deserve to be treated with love and respect.Ask yourself this,why do you stay?Is this relationship about you being too unsure of yourself to move on?Remember this each day is but a raindrop in the puddle of life,tomorrow is a new and better day move on and you will be much happier.Get away from him and get your life back together.The right man is out there,but only if you dump the wrong one.
2006-09-21 08:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Tom S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with a man who makes you this miserable? I don't think that the loving God that I believe in would want you to be miserable for the rest of your life. Mental abuse is sometimes worse than physical.
Keep praying for the answers, but remember that "He helps those who help themselves" He has already given you the answer,you just have to listen.
2006-09-21 08:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by Donna P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋