We've been together for 9 yrs. and he is still refuses to divorce estranged wife, though they were separated for 4 years before he and I met. And now he and I have 6 year old triplets.
2006-09-21 07:53:06 · 11 answers · asked by JUST ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. It's clear he wants to have it both ways. Why have you put up with it for 9 years?
2006-09-21 07:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry i can not relate, yet ik it gets extra constructive. it extremely is trials in lifelike this that make you extra ideal, and each thing occurs for a reason. Ik you do no longer prefer to attend, yet won't it b extra constructive to hold a toddler into this international once you the two have a extra constructive training and extra constructive jobs?? Get a small place and shop up for the suitable abode you generally needed. or the marriage. you are able to desire to nevertheless be satisfied, you have the guy of desires and with all that has occurred i think of he's with you until ultimately the tip. you have waited this long watching the placement perhaps it extremely is superb to attend somewhat longer. This in all probability wasn't what you needed to hearken to, and im sorry. even though it sounds your on the ceremony music now to getting what you prefer. and don't hassle u did no longer sound egocentric 2 me =) and get a canines! they are quite purely like having a baby =) cling in there, time quite does fly ur doing the ceremony component! and ur handeling it ok. and of course it extremely is okay 2 b frusterated! god after 9 yrs i could b 2 =)
2016-10-17 09:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes you can and I don't understand why you still with him even if he haven't divorce his estranged wife? and why are you with him first place and in 2 years you dhould be dumping that guy but now you have his baby 3 baby wow. so you need to go to the place where called child support and he will be paying you back and leave himperiod and I think he having sex with estranged wife and you that you might not be a aware of it.
2006-09-21 08:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well having kids without getting married was your 1 st mistake...you should have given him a ultimatum 7 years ago. Why in the world would be divorce his wife, which will cost, money, when he has a "live in- wife" already (similiar to a wife minus a ring)...
I think its a lil to late to try to change 6 year worth of damage but good luck.
2006-09-21 07:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never would have moved in together until the divorce process was started! I think he feels why should I have to go through the BS of divorce when I am comfortable the way it is.
You also let it go on for this long!
2006-09-21 08:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by coralyn m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave my live-in b/f after 2 years... This is about as long as I would possibly wait for him to marry me. If you've waited THIS long, might as well stay; you couldn't have possibly believed this whole time that he wanted to marry you.
2006-09-21 08:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why won't he divorce her? that's disrespectful...what if the two of you want to get married one day? and what's he gonna tell the kids when they ask why mommie and daddy aren't married? i dont know...it's really up to you whether or not you want to be with him but i think it's kinda whack
2006-09-21 08:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably afraid of marraige, becuz of the last one,... and guess who is paying for it? You are! Dont u feel wierd for calling him your b/f? I would imagine you would feel bad calling him that after nine years
2006-09-21 07:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, you need to take him to see Dr. Phil or Jerry Springer.
2006-09-21 08:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for an ultimatum....
Stick to it...
.... leave
2006-09-21 08:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by princessin_bluejeans 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋