how long should a woman really wait before having sex after given birth?

Question

i mean i know doctors say 6 weeks but what is it really ok any advice.i just dont want to cause know damage.

Answer 1

The number of weeks you should wait before having sex varies depending on your specific circumstance. If you had an episiotomy, you should wait at least 3 to 4 weeks before having sex so it can heal. If you had a Cesarean section you should wait at least 4 weeks so your incisions can heal. Because it takes approximately 6 weeks for your uterus to return to normal after you give birth, many providers recommend waiting a full 6 weeks. You should, however, wait until the lochia (bleeding and discharge) has subsided.

Answer 2

Really, six weeks. Occassionally 4, but maybe 8 weeks. It depends when you're comfortable. Having sex after giving birth can be painful, frightening and can cause infection. The most important thing is to make sure that the postpartum blood has stopped and that any remaining loccia is clear, not tingues with brown. That means you have healed.

However, breast feeding dries up a woman's natural lubricant and many women find they need some glide even if there was no problem before.

And, remember, even exclusive breast feeding is no guarentee that you won't ovulate, so be sure to use birth control. One of my worst fears is having two kids who are the same age for part of the year!

Answer 3

Wait at least until your doctor does a check up (usually around 6 weeks) and says you are healed enough. After that, wait until you are ready mentally as well. If you aren't, it can cause you more problems both physically and emotionally. When you do decide you are ready, use a lubricating product - the hormones from the pregnancy and birth can really dry you out a lot and having sex without it can cause more pain and/or damage. Above all, enjoy! :-D

Answer 4

whenever you feel comfortable.
Honestly we had sex 4 days after giving birth. Little weird with the stiching. But were freak of nature. Some people wait 6 months.

DOnt keep that 6 week mark in your head, Cuz I've seen many times women getting bent out of shape because they dont want to at that time.

When your body feels ready you'll try and your husband/boyfriend should also realize if you say ouch stop, HE NEEDS TO STOP RIGHT AWAY.

Jellybean that is the RUDES comment I"VE EVER SEEN. SO because I had the ok from my midwifes. the suggestions of when your ready I'm as dim witted as a 20 watt bulb? get your head out of your *** for a minute.

Answer 5

You will know when you are ready. Just make sure you use a lot of lube as it will hurt the first time, and maybe for a few months. Doctors say 6 weeks so that you can have your check-up and pap to make sure everything healed down there. I didn't wait because my lochia only lasted a week, and I felt I was ready before that. At my appointment my doctor asked if I had sex, and then was happy when I said that I did and that it wasn't too painful.

Answer 6

I waited six weeks like the doctor said. There are ways to be intimate other then actually having sex. If you had stitches I'd defiantly wait because even though the six weeks were up--I still had some stitches! It hurt the first time--but like anything else you just ease back into it. It's up to when you feel most comfortable. Best of luck--and don't have "too" much fun!

Answer 7

The doctors say 6 weeks for many reasons. One is to give your body time to heal after giving birth. Your hormone's need time to get back somewhat of a normal level, your uterus needs time to get back into shape and "down there" needs to heal as well.

Another reason is so they can meet with you at that time to go over any problems or concerns you may be having either about your body or your emotions--like post-partum depression (which can happen at any time, but they like to inquire about it at this visit).

Finally, they like to offer birth control so that you don't get pregnant again so quickly. If for some reason, the doctor finds a medical reason why you shouldn't engage in any sexual activity after this, he/she will let you know and check with you again in a determined amount of time.

If the OB clears you, then go ahead and have relations whenever you are ready. Nobody says that you have to jump in bed right at 6 weeks. You can if you want, but you can take longer if you want to.

Good Luck!

Answer 8

All people are different. I had a friend who had sex 2-3 weeks after giving birth and her pelvis didn't heal correctly, so now when she has sex she sometimes gets pain. I would wait until the weeks. After going through that and with all the blood and clots involved, who would really want to have sex so soon anyway.

Answer 9

Hey if you feel up for it give it a go, as long as the doctor hasnt said 6 weeks for a reason?? I would just say take it slowly, never know what's gone on in there.

Answer 10

You sound about as bright as a 20 watt light bulb. For you, miss thang, since you don't care about your body, do it the day you get out the hospital...hell, do it in the hospital. When you wind up on IV antibiotics for sepsis, don't say people didn't try and tell you to listen to the doctors. They get paid the big bucks for a reason. Don't despair, you'll be back on the corner in no time.